Violent Tendencies

An eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind.
by Gandhi
There are many more pleasant things to do than beating someone up.”
by Muhammad Ali

When searching for a quote, I have started the habit of deciding what to write by what seems to be relevant to what is going on for me that week. It has kind of been a cool way to get my ideas and thoughts out on a page and also bounce the thoughts I have floating in my head off a number of different people from a number of different places and backgrounds.

So far this has been a beautiful experiment, and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate all the responses everyone is posting on this site. It really is such an amazing way for me to get to know all my fans and also get to know myself in the process. So, that being said, I have had many conversations with different friends this week about violence and what that is. I thought these quotes were in keeping with this because it is a great way of looking at what violent reactions and thoughts can end up doing to the world at large. Now, my opinion of violence has changed drastically in the last little bit. I used to think that it was a solely physical act; that the word only encompassed those acts that caused physical harm or destruction, but as I began to think about it a little more, I really started to recognize how destructive words can be. Sometimes, even more destructive than a punch. It was after this recognition that I really saw how violent I can be in the way I live my life… Not always so much towards other people, but so more so towards myself. I allow my insecurities to dictate the things I do in my life. I am constantly berating myself for not being “enough” of what I think I would be. I suppress the things within me that I think are “bad” and then spend my time and energy punishing myself for even having these flaws in the first place.

I feel like these habits are incredibly destructive and violent towards my own growth and potential. They essentially ruin my ability to enjoy my present life and situations. Now, if this isn’t violent, I don’t know what is.

The really incredible part about this discovery is that I can only treat people the way I treat myself. And I will never have the capacity to be the compassionate and loving person I want to be in the world if I can’t ever be that for myself. It is this strange reality that I am seeing, the truth that everything I do and see in the external world is simply a direct reflection of what is going on within me and my own little head…. And so I struggle to find inner compassion, to tame that violent dictator that consumes my thoughts. Maybe, if I can tame my destructive self, I will be closer to attaining my goal of being a kind, honest, and loving person. I really wonder what would happen on a global scale if more people would stop the abusive behavior they inflict upon themselves and actually began living with compassion for their own flaws, embracing them and accepting them as part of the beauty of what it means to be human.

No more real exciting Smallville news, other than I heard a rumor that the finale script was leaked, and everyone has very strong opinions regarding “the green tear.” Don’t worry guys, it will be cool… I won’t let you down :)

Look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas! Bye for this week.

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  • Aaron

    I like the song on your page right now. It sounds a lot like my cousins band. You should give them a listen, if you actually read the comments. They have a myspace page http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&fri endid=19183926

    Anyway, I was just checking out your official site to see what type thing you were getting ready to do, I had no idea you ran a blog, and from what I read a pretty real and personal blog. I think that is truly amazing for you to be willing to put yourself out there like that. I had a ton of respect for you as an actor, but now I feel even more respect for you as a person. Keep up the great work.

    ~Aaron

  • http://kimbersrun.livejournal.com Caina

    Words as a means of abuse is something I’m very familiar with. I can remember one instance that changed my life for the worse when I was fifteen. A fifteen-year-old girl is at a vulnerable stage in her life, when she’s trying to transition from childhood to womanhood. I remember my mother getting angry at me (she was always angry) one day and telling me “The reason you don’t have a lot of friends is because you’re fat, stupid, and ugly. Nobody wants to be around somebody as worthless as you.” Those words haunt me to this day. They put a wound in my soul that will never heal. Had she hit me, any physical damage would have healed, but her words wounded in a way that I still suffer the pain of. I have tried to move on, but years of hearing from her that I’m worthless, ugly, pointless, useless….Children believe what their parents say before they believe what anyone else says. If someone uses words to hurt you, a parents words have the power to heal that emotional wound. When a parent uses words to hurt, I don’t believe anything could ever truly heal those wounds.

    I commend you on this insightful post, Allison. It’s truly thought-provoking.

  • http://www.allisonmack.com Eric Wilson

    Hello,Allison Mack. How are you doing?

    My name is Eric Wilson, 28 years old male from Hillsdale, Michigan. I have green eyes with glasses, short dark brown hair.
    I’m a huge fan of yours, and other cast members from Smallville and i watch Smallville every thursday night.

    I love your work on Smallville and i love your work on other projects you’ve done and i loved the movie The Ant Bully:), I have to say is that i enjoy reading your blogs and wish i could meet you someday.

    Allison, my e-mail address is elw82078@yahoo.com and i a website to it is called http://www.myspace.com/elw82078 :) .

    I hope to hear from you some day, and i was wondering how is your co/ star Erica Durance doing?

    Drop by to wish you, and your Smallville cast mates a great wonderful peaceful joyful lovely day, night, week, weekend.

    Show you, and your Smallville cast mates some love, support, and respect.

    God bless you, and your Smallville cast mates, please take great care and please be super safe :) .

    Thank You!

    Your fan, and a friend with love :) .

    Love,

    Eric Wilson.

  • http://www.allisonmack.com Joel Berkey

    Hi Allison,
    I thought I would officially introduce myself this week. My name is
    Joel, and I live and work in Virginia, and am originally from Colorado.
    I
    look forward to responding to your blog every week, and would say your
    Blog entry this week is kind of ironic, but also very poignant
    considering the actions that happened at VT.I agree with you one
    hundred
    percent, we seem to do entirely more damage to ourselves in that self
    effacing behavior we all tend to have to some degree. For myself it was
    a
    defense mechanism, if I could wreck my ego first, others couldn’t hurt
    me.
    And to a degree I was right. Although not exactly fair to myself, or
    others I was around. What I mean by that is if I am down on myself, I
    am
    not living up to my potential, and there for I am failing myself, which
    is reflected to others. You are right Allison, to say that words can
    carry more impact than a punch. A punch is usually quick, might leave a
    bruise, or a cut, but then it heals within a couple of days. Words
    inflict deeper. And do a lot more damage, especially to the spirit. And
    I
    think that once the spirit has dwindled away to almost nothing that is
    the cause for other forms of violence, more external forms of violence.
    Suicides, and events like Columbine, and Virginia Tech.

    Unfortunately sometimes events like Monday remind me just how far the
    human race still has to go. It is within our nature to destroy
    ourselves, and sometimes makes it hard to have the hope that Martin
    Luther King,
    or JFK, or Ghandi, or John Lennon had for the human race. But some
    things on the planet counter balance it. Luckily for us fans, the cast
    and
    crew of Smallville counter balance it. I consider everyone involved
    with the show, the care takers of Hope. That is what you, and Tom, and
    Michael, Kristin, and Erica, John, and Annette are to me, and my kids
    and
    others. I know that is a hell of a responsibility to place on the
    shoulders of you, and that it may sound corny, but it is true. For
    forty
    four minutes out of the week, I am a wide eyed little kid, joining my
    own
    kids, filled with wonder, and excitement and full of hope, believing in
    those characters I see on that small screen, and having hope instilled
    in me that I can learn to be a better person by example of what I see.
    I have laughed and cried being affected by the performances from every
    one. There is not a cast member that hasn’t made me cry at least once.
    Plus the bonus of Tom bringing to life a character that has been a part
    of me ever since I was two years old and could say the name Superman.
    That was thirty four years ago.

    Maybe it’s unfair for me to say you are the caretakers of hope, but you
    are. Smallville may not be Broadway, it may not be the Royal
    Shakespeare Company, but to me, my kids, and about a million or so
    other viewers
    it is every bit as important as the afore mentioned acting
    institutions. You are family. Providing guidance, and a glimpse of a
    hopeful future
    even, when we are faced with a situation that is marred with violence.
    I have said it before Allison, we are very lucky to have you guys
    performing for us. Very lucky. Thank you again.

  • Carlos Eduardo

    Dear Allison, thank you for being so close for everyone who reads your blog.

    What you’ve wrote on this week’s topic is a problem that happens to everybody, many people don’t realize about it, get confused, unhappy, and hurt involuntarily the others for years.

    There was a time when I tried to suppress some attitudes of my behavior and I tried to change it, the problem was I didn’t feel happy, was then when I understood that I couldn’t love the others if I didn’t start loving myself. Obviously, that doesn’t suppress the possibility of getting better on the things I don’t like about me. That’s the challenge: to accept myself and at the same time to get better on the things I don’t like about me. I’m still trying to handle those facts, but I know that someday I will get it.

    After thinking a lot, I got to realize that the world is not perfect, the mixture of it’s imperfections is the responsible for making it so beautiful and interesting.

    I want to tell you that you worth all, and surely you will get to be compassionate and loving with yourself, maybe not in the way you want, because there’s nothing perfect, but the important part is that you will feel fine and pleased for having reached your objective.

    It is nice to read about your personal thoughts and the way you feel about yourself, you’ve shown us a side that no one else has shown to their fans. After reading this week’s topic I feel that you are more than my favorite actress, I feel you as my friend !!

    ****

  • http://www.friendster.com/walkaway02 sam_smallvilleaddict

    Hey uh Ms. Allison..! well i just dropped by…trying to leave a comment..it’s me,samantha..the one who posted a new comment on the “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” topic.. actually,before i’m not fond of watching smallville..then i saw you there.i asked my aunt,”what’s the name of that character? what is her role?”..then they bought DVD’s of Smallville starting from Season 1 to 5..i just finished watching Season 5 an hour ago.. you know,the part there when clark’s about to save you..whoa, my reaction is so funny.! -^__^- …i almost said to myself.. “Oh my gosh look at that…! they look great together..i like chloe for clark..and when clark’s leaving chloe….that part when chloe kissed clark! O.M.G. ! that was the best scene of Clark and Chloe..well..Lex and Lana aren’t my favorite characters…really.. but i just love watching those scenes..when you’re with clark.. and you make me laugh for sometime… i just don’t know what to say.. i love visiting this website even though to tell you,i am really new here… i just found it yesterday..and now i’m in front of the computer typings things around here… whoa…! Well, i hope i could talk to you more..Ms. Allison.. i just love the way you act..i idolize you.. -^___^- … oh,and how’s life with smallville? is there any new meteor freaks around? i can’t watch Smallville for some reasons..i can’t catch it on time cuz someone’s at the television when it is time for Smallville… *sighs* … Well i guess that’s for now… i’ll visit you site again..maybe later or..tomorrow.. you’re the best actress.. “idol” ..! .. take care Ms. Allison..! *samantha padua,f,13,philippines..to be exact..manila..* sam_netadict@yahoo.com.ph

  • http://n/a mike

    Greetings and salutations,
    Intriguing topic. hmmmm as one who has embraced ones flaws i would have to agree that it is much better to do so. Once you accept that you can make real advances in your life. but violent thoughts are self destructive as well as outwardly, because if you’re not happy with yourself how can you be happy with others. If others embraced their flaws and could see the joy it brings, and the way it seems to remove a lot of ones obstacles, the world would be that much of a better place. As for the topic of the Green Tear we’ll just have to see how that pans out. Your a talented actress if anyone could make it work it is you. P.S. I’m a big fan of yours, and one of my favorite quotes is ” By the power of truth, I while living have conquered the universe.” it’s by Faust i know but it is still a good one tah

  • William Kaleva

    As more information comes out about Mr. Cho, the gunman in the Virginia Tech massacre, the thought has occurred to me that he bears a resemblance to some of Smallville’s “meteor freaks,” the isolation, loneliness, lack of support system and human contact, etc. etc. There is the usual criticism that comic-book characters lack realism, but maybe that is not always the case, maybe some real people exhibit some of these extreme (usually nonrealistic) characteristics. And in Smallville, some of the comic book characters seem quite un-comicbook-like, e.g., Clark, Lana, Chloe, but especially Chloe who seems to have a complexity and humanity which is very uncomic-book-like. In many cases Clark and Chloe have a compassion for the meteor freaks, Clark perhaps because he shares some super-power characteristics, Chloe (who, of course, now worries that she might be a meteor freak herself, but that’s another matter, yet to be developed), who although always interested in the facts and the story, also is concerned with the big picture and with human connectedness. She has her dream (well illustrated in her note, which Lana found — Lana said she wasn’t as good with words as Chloe — where Chloe writes of being Clark’s real dream girl, yet is always Clark’s real friend, and Lana’s friend, and always concerned with the total context and not only her own desires. Such thoughtfulness is always outside of the comic-book character per se.

    How interesting to see that Allison Mack with her own blog is pretty much of a Chloe herself, not at all a comic book character, one questioning, trying to understand, understanding. Understanding perhaps that in some sense “tout comprendre, c’est tout pardonner,” “to understand all is to forgive all.”

    Yet, going back to the Virginia Tech tragedy, it is clearly too simplistic to say, one should understand and forgive, but perhaps that one should accept that there is more here than just a person who has become one-dimensional in his hatred (one need not necessarily consider whether he was sane or not, since such labels themselves lead to simple one-dimensional sorts of answers or explanations which are neither answers nor explanations, but rather are probably attempts mentally to avoid the entire situation).

    I think it was Alan Watts, who in the sixties, recounted the story of the Samurai warrior who meeting his foe in battle began to hate him and so spared his life. He spared his life not because he felt aversion to the death penalty, but because he had begun to hate. On the other hand, if he had not begun to hate him, he would have killed him, not because he hated him, but to free his foe from his enmity.

    What is the effect of all events on us ourselves? That is perhaps what we need to consider. Understanding is perhaps not forgiveness, but just understanding, acceptance that something (in this case something incredibly undesirable) is a reality. We might want to do something to change the situation. If what we intend to do improves things, makes such things less likely, or what not, then perhaps we ought to do them. But above all, we ought not to allow them to change us, to make us one-dimensional ourselves. And when we ourselves are multi-dimensional, then by all means, others are, must be, have to be included.

    William Kaleva

  • Gabriella Musa

    Hey Allison! I´m from Brazil and a huge fan of you guys from the show!
    The whole world is stared by what is going on up there, in Virginia. I feel sorry for those kids who suffered that way…

    Hope we can still find some peace here at this world…

    Best wishes for you!

    Kisses

    Gabi – Brazil!

  • Wellington Oliveira

    Hello. I am of Brazil. I passed to say that taste of its work.

    Abraço(hug )

  • Stephanie

    I honestly had to let this weeks entry sink in a little bit ..
    Its a heavy topic, you really make me look at myself and the choices I make. I want to thank you for that!

    I think words can cut deeper than physical hits.
    emotional pain takes a lot of time to heal, people should think about that before they say something to hurt someone.

    I cant wait for your next entry, and I am looking forward to the smallville episode Progeny. The preview looks amazing!
    much love

    Stephanie van Iersel
    The Netherlands

  • Steh

    I love you and Smallville =]]
    =***

  • Sarah

    actually when you write about putting one’s bad qualities down, I thought about how much i do that and i realized that there are so many times when I am hard on myself. The pressure I feel is always pressure I put on myself. While part of that I believe is my personality, I also think I need to lighten up. Idk i guess it’s sometimes hard to discern between being too hard and not hard enough.

    Can’t wait for the finale!

  • http://www.myspace.com/iamannamarie Piper

    Allison

    i heard something once that really helped me with my tendency to criticize and condemn myself– i dont mean physically (even though i think we all do that at times)– but mainly for things i’ve done that i felt me being “sorry” wasnt enough, but that I must be bad if i was capable of doing/thinking those things.

    god doesnt bless intentions, he blesses efforts
    however,
    god doesnt bless achievements, he blesses efforts

    its so simple, but it helped me to see that we must have a balanced view of ourselves. on the one hand, if we “intend” to do something “good”, but put forth no effort to do it, we will not be happy. however, god does not judge us by achievements, but by how hard we try. if we try as hard as we can and fail, its the effort god blesses, for he knows that we are “made of dust.”

    –piper

  • http://pen.eiu.edu/~asvernon/ Anthony V.

    Hey Allison,
    Its interesting what you’ve said in this weeks blog. And I guess the events of this monday have had me thinking about things as well. Words are destructive. When I was going to HS i was made fun of alot just because i wasn’t normal, but in the end I still made it through. It was hard sometimes because what people would say bothered me alot, but eventually I just had to say to myself, its not true, you’re a great guy, they’re immature. Let it be…

    I try to be a nice person, and sometimes my thoughts get the best of me and even bad things come out of my mouth. I guess in the end I just have to realize that IM not perfect in anyway…but at the sametime realize that that isnt an excuse for me not to do anything about it.

    In the end, I do think if people actually stepped back and saw what words can do, our world would be a better place. Unfortunatly we cant change other people…all we can do is change ourselves and hope that others get the message through our actions.

    As for smallville. Im very excited about the end of the season…but Im also nervous about it…because I know how the season finales go. Ending on a cliffhanger. And I also heard a rumor that someone might die in the finale…I kind of hope the rumor isnt true…

    Thats all from me though. Have a great day :)
    -Anthony

  • Taty

    Hi Alisson
    It’s me Tatiana from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.
    This thought is amazing…. Very deep!!!
    I loved this blog, it’s very interesting.
    I love Smallville too, it’s my favorite show. I can’t wait to see next episode.
    So, I wish your life will be full of joy, pleasant surprises and above all full of love and prosperity!
    God Bless you
    Kisses

  • Dave

    Hey Allison,
    I thought I had it all figured out. I’ve done my best to live by one generic, overused, but simply perfect mantra for years now, but I’m going to make one small alteration after reading your blog today:

    “Treat others as you wish to be treated” now becomes “treat others as you wish to be treated, and treat yourself as you wish others would treat themselves”.

    Doesn’t quite roll of the tongue as smoothly, but as you pointed out, you can’t possibly live happily by the former if you don’t also apply it to how you treat yourself. Man, this is gonna be a tougher one to live by…..gee, thanks a lot! I’ll let you know how the new mantra flies in medical school and for my fiance in her clinical conseling program….we’re constanly beating the crap out of ourselves.

    Oh, and keep smiling. I think it’s one of the warmest, most genuine smiles I’ve seen in a long time.

    -Dave

  • Guilherme Malacrida

    Hey Allison!!
    I’m from Brazil and a big fan of yours and Smalville
    Well after read your opinion on the blog I changed my way of thinking about the violence my life my choices!!Ive never thinking like that!!
    It’s interesting what you said about it and help me to think in a different way!!
    You help me a lot now I see somethings different!!
    My behavior and my life!!
    Best wishes for you
    Huges

    Gui-Brazil

  • ismael

    well ithink the violent tendencies start in home when the parents dont teach their children the love and charity.well my english is weird but im from panama and iam learning english in about smallville is very good see you every week… take care o.k bye..

  • http://www.myspace.com/pawncapturesking mike

    indeed words can have the most profound affect. even as children we learn how to speak and think negatively about ourselves from the people around us. they do not always use words against us directly, but they show us how it is done, and being the unmapped creatures we are as children, we tend to imitate what we see.

    accepting that happiness is not a permanent state of mind has proven to be powerful for me. it allows me to detach from (not eliminate) negative thinking and let more positive energy flow through.

  • Sarah

    Great job on Progeny by the way!!! I absolutely loved it and thought you did an amazing job in all your scenes! I practically broke out in tears on the last one!

    Congrats on another great episode!

  • Joseph Gates

    Allison,

    Hey!!!! Just wanted to give you a shout out on this amazing pleasing to the eye blog of yours. It’s nice to see that you bring forth the real you. So many actors and actresses today in the world seems so far off to many fans and it’s nice to see that you are in with reality and that you get to know your fans. You truly have talent as an actress and you are amazing on Smallville. I can’t say it enough but everytime why guys at the dorm sit down to watch smallville they are all like “Allison Mack is the best actress on the show” And they also make comments about what true beauty you have and that they would all die if they saw you in person. Thank you for being you and being a tremendouse actress. You have so much talent and we are blessed to be able to watch it. Acting is you art and you paint the screen with style and grace. Thank You again!

    A Humble Fan

    Joseph Gates

  • Sarah

    I come from a family that strives for perfection. My eldest brother attends Johns Hopkins with an almost full scholarship, and my other brother plays 6 instruments and has a record deal, a manager, and tons of tweens swooning over his picture. My mom teaches at my school and my dad’s an elder at my church so we’re always in the public eye, and it can get very daunting. And I’m the theater girl of the family, so I sing, act, dance, pretty much anything onstage. My last name is known throughout our social circle as one that is “perfect”…which means people expected me to always get straight A’s, to win contests, to never mess up. It got so stressful, always trying to live up to my last name that I would sometimes get nervous breakdowns and freak out, knowing I could never be perfect enough for people.
    There was one night when I was in a show (thoroughly modern millie) and my tap shoe broke and i forgot an important costume piece, and since it was the night my family had come, I freaked out backstage. That was the first time that I realized that my perfectionist ways were hurting me, not helping me.
    Now whenever I feel things starting to get overwhelming, I pray. It sounds so cliche, but I give the burden to my Heavenly God, and it helps me know things are out of my hands, and He is handling it.
    I don’t know what your religious affiliation is, but praying always helps me to remember that I don’t have to be in control of everything.

  • http://www.allisonmack.com lpettis

    In rememberance of the recent shootings at VA tech, I think this blog is very fitting. It shows us just how much evil we are capable of doing, if we were to just let go. But something inside of us tells us we must fight it. We must find a way to live with each other and learn to love and accept. And it is when one of us fails, in times such as this past week, that we are made stronger in that effort, as we work together to pick back up the pieces.

    I know I have deviated somewhat from what you originally wrote, but that was my honest first reaction. I’m glad you spoke about violence. It gives us all a chance to speak out on how we are feeling.

    Smallville this week was so great. I have waited forever for the producers to make a Chloe-centered episode. I just don’t want the season to be over just yet. I know its getting near, but the thought of three more months of no new episodes is quite painful!

    Thank you again.

  • julie

    You are absolutely accurate in your thought processes at this point in your life. It takes alot of people longer to come to some of the realizations. It is all about yourself because ultimately it is you and you alone on your life’s journey. Other people may share in it, but it is all yours. So, you do have to love and treat yourself in a positive, respectful, and loving manner because you’re going to be with yourself for along time!! Also people will treat you and give you the experiences that you think you deserve. You can only truely give what you posess inside. If my spelling is off, I apologize I have had a mild stroke and my memory of things that you normally take for granted just isn’t up to par right now anyway. But, I can only say what I have myself experienced and learned over the years. You can’t possibly learn it all so fast, it takes time and you definetly have the desire and personal insight. You are very intelligent and articulate. This blog is most enjoyable and engaging.

  • http://www.allisonmack.com Sandra

    Okay nothing to do w/the topic. BUT I wanted to say how much I LOVED Progeny. Top episode of the season for me.

    The last Moira/Chloe scene really touched me and my sister since we recently lost our father, the scene just brought back memories. You are a fantastic actress. I can’t wait for Chloe to do her thing and bring Lex down!

  • Steve

    I really wonder what would happen on a global scale if more people would stop the abusive behavior they inflict upon themselves and actually began living with compassion for their own flaws, embracing them and accepting them as part of the beauty of what it means to be human.

    Allison, Allison. The problem in this world isn’t the abusive behavior people inflict upon themselves. The problem is the abusive behavior them inflict on other people. Like the three-quarters of million Iraqis who are dead, and the millions of their family members who are grieving, because of the abusive behavior inflicted on them by the United States.

    You’re still the best thing about Smallville. :-)

  • Steve

    P.S. – You were unbelievably good on tonight’s episode (with Lynda Carter). This is the episode that should be submitted for your Emmy. Great work.

  • http://www.myspace.com/independentman83 Matthew T.

    Hi Allison Mack, how are you? I just wanted to say 1st off that I think you are an awesome woman. I love your wit and intelligence on tv which I am sure you possess plenty outside of the show. I am a 23 year old man and I love watching you play Chloe because you were that type I looked for back in high school. I just found your site tonight after getting off work and I am just excited that I actually get to write something that you’ll see. I know you’ve heard this alot and you are probably like oh my god but you are a wonderful actress and I can see the good character in you. I just wanted to take this moment to write to you because we are from the same generation and I have watched Smallville since the 1st episode. I hope that you continue to succeed and accomplish all your goals and that maybe one day you’ll have enough of that spark in life to just say I can rest and just chill and not work anymore. I have enjoyed watching the show faithfully and I’d like to just say I have always thought you were beautiful like roses. Have a nice day and good luck!! :)

    Matt T.

  • http://www.allisonmack.com Elizabeth Moser

    Okay a second comment from me -I can’t get this topic off my mind.

    My friend and I were discussing it last night and noted how much more powerful good words are compared to negative ones. Sometimes the smallest comment from someone can really lift someone elses spirits. Just the other day I was paid a compliment by my boss. It has made my week to know my hard work was recognised and meant even more since it was from a person I admire. These sort of compliments drive me to work harder and do better. Just by recognising people, and saying thank you once in a while can change someones life.
    When you think someone has done something good – say it, because they might not realise.
    And I don’t know who said this orginally but its very true. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

  • meg

    ok…so this is a bit off topic..but since you have provided us the opportunity to speak to you, then i must say:

    YOU ROCKED PROGENY LAST NIGHT!!!!!!! :) totally, absolutely ROCKED IT! :)

    now back to the regularly scheduled blog…..:)

  • http://brazilnatureza.blogspot.com/ Mariana

    Hi, Allison Mack

    I am a fan from Brazil. You’ve been doing a great job on Smallville :)
    Congratulations!!!

  • Ron

    It is written that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. So when harsh words come forth, it’s an indication that our heart is not right toward that person, that situation, or maybe we are just not right with ourself. It is also written that death and life are in the power of the tongue. We can make a person better or worse by the words we speak into their life…. the choice is ours. The Golden Rule says to do unto others as we would have them do unto us. We should strive to talk to others the way we would want to be talked to…. and to talk about others the way we would want to be talked about. Guarding what we say, and trying to always speak well of others is a hard road to travel…. but not impossible. Allison, you are a very insightful young woman. Keep pressing on…. your spiritual journey continues.

  • Sven

    Hello Allison,

    greetings from a German Smallville fan! I’m enjoying this show ever since it started and I think you are doing a formidable job as a great addition to Superman’s past and I hope you realize your special position in the whole thing.

    About your article, I think you’re right. Regarding my life, I always thought that I’m good with anybody, no matter who and that I would never have enemies or anything like that. I never tried to be specifically mean to anybody.

    It’s so easy to say it and so hard to actually do it. Group dynamics (in a class room or at work) lead to mobbing and worse things, without actually wanting it. And when those people start to be mean to you, too, everything is lost.

  • LisaGail

    I believe that any thought other than a positive one is harmful. To us and those around us. What we think is who we are, like it or not. Forget the glass, are we half full or half empty?!

  • http://www.fotolog.net/zeliathomaz Aurea Thomaz

    Allison, my name’s Aurea, I have 16 years old and I admire you as a person and as a professional!!! I started to watch Smallville because I have a friend and she’s the one who dubs, your voice here in Brazil.
    But about what you’ve written, it’s hard to admite that we’re violent, we don’t need to kill someone to become violent, we can insult or swear , and if all of us admited our bad points, the human kind would evolve. Oh! By the way, you don’t have a little head. In fact, you’re really smart!! You’re amazing!! Kisses!!

  • http://www.fotolog.net/zeliathomaz Aurea Thomaz

    Oh I’ve forgot to say…I love Chloe. Everybody does (it’s impossible don’t to)

  • Natalia Prata

    Hi Allison :)

    I totally agree with you when you say words are as capable of hurting someone as physical aggressions and I had already thought about it before dozens of times, it’s a very interesting subject.

    Usuallly I don’t hurt anyone physically but words are a lot harder to control since most of the times you don’t know the effect they can have on the person you’re talking to. Your perception of your words’ meaning may not be the same of the listener’s; sometimes you can hurt someone without even realising it. That’s why treating someone the way you would wish to be treated may not be good enough, pleasing every single person in your world is a bit impossible since we can’t read each other’s minds (that would be a prety cool superpower – wall of weird material :D – though always knowing everything about everyone could be a little hard to handle).

    I really want you to know that you should not criticize yourself that hard, you’re a great actress! It’s ok to want to be perfect, to try your best, but nothing is good if it’s too much. Just the other day I was watching an episode from season 2 in which Tina (the one that could turn into people) becomes Chloe and you did it so perfectly! It was so amazing! Really, you’re awesome! I absolutely loved that scene, and that is one of many scenes that completely blew me away! And you seem to be so nice and kind! That’s pretty good already, right?

    About “the green tear”, I like it. Sandra said in her comment (the second one): “Saving Lois by crying (although I know you will turn that scene into gold) is not what I expected. Not for our Chloe who would go out of her way to get Lois to a doctor, drag her to her car if she had to..but not cry.” And I must say that I think Chloe would cry, after all Lois is her cousin and one of her best friends, I think she would cry while trying to save her life. And the power of healing people is really cool, though I’m sure Chloe would like it a lot more if she could be invisible or see through things. :D

    I love the quotes you chose, especially the one by Gandhi.
    Keep up the great work! Love reading your blog entries! Can’t wait until next week! :D

    *kisses*

  • Jelena

    I really agree with you allison. I love all the topics you talk about but can you talk more about Smallvillet too. Cause im a huge fan of you (of course) and Smallville. LOVE YA!! :)

  • http://www.flogao.com.br/encantochukita Valéria

    Hello I am Valéria I am 16 old years I am natural Brazilian of the Rio de Janeiro and I want to say that I worshipped the site, in fact I did not know about him ,,,achei very pretty ,,,Allison I want to say that I worship I know work and his survey is very good and that does the persons will reflect in the world! a lot obigada and a big embrace!

  • http://www.flogao.com.br/encantochukita Valéria

    Excuse I do not know to write a lot the English. consider my errors, obliged! rsrsrs!

  • Jose

    Have you thought of being on Dancing With The Stars?! Or maybe doing a solo dance sequence on Smallville?

    PS love the new site!
    Jose

  • http://www.myspace.com/angylgrrl JT

    Hello Allison! Long time Smallville, Chloe fan, first time commentor. Chloe is really one of the only reasons I still watch Smallville, and LOVED your work with Lynda in Progeny, you two worked off each other so well.

    About your poll, a violent thought is not as problematic as a violent action. As a writer, I have violent thoughts all the time, especially when it comes to my characters, but its when those thoughts become actions that make them deadly and problematic.

    Take the character of Lex Luthor, we all know that he has many violent thoughts, especially recently when it comes to the character of Chloe, because she has become a thorn in his side, but until he acts on said violent thoughts, he isn’t a violent man.

    On another note: Are you going to be on Smallville next season because you have a LARGE number of fans who will probably stop watching Smallville if your gone!

  • http://www.allisonmack.com dannyboy

    Hey there,

    I came to the site as a Smallville fan, but was very intrigued by the “violent tendancies” blog.

    I gave it some thought and came to a couple of conclusions. I think that having violent thoughts, particularly when they are entertained regularly, and particularly when a single, recurring thought is entertained regularly, can be desensitising.

    In the same way that we can become desensitised to violence or foul language or cruelty or sex on TV and movies, entertaining violent thoughts, while not destructive on their own, can cause you to become desensitised to violent behaviours in life, and this is destructive. Both to yourself, and to others who may be on the recieving end of your (physical or otherwise) violent actions. In this way, violent thoughts are as destructive as actions.

    That’s about as philisophical as I can get on a Saturday evening, I’m afraid!!

    Kudos to you on the show, It’s awesome as ever. I’m trying not to read the parts in people’s blogs that refer to the show though, as we’re only up to season four in New Zealand! But it sounds as though the upcoming seasons will be good!

    Dannyboy

  • ricardo villarreal

    well, about the violence subject, i’m agree,heres my reason:certainly a violent thought is as bad as a violent action because is the first step to violence,the first step to a tragedy,a physical wound can heal even in days, a wound in the soul of a human being may be there even for ever;because a violent phrase or word its the reason why in the world exists so many people with anger in their hearts,and this is generaly the first cause of violence.

    well thats what a think about it.

    greetings from monterrey,mexico;and leaving a side the sad things, allow me to say that you have the most beautifull eyes ive ever seen ;)

    sorry if you dont undestand something of what ive wrote, im learning to write in english jajaja

  • http://www.allisonmack.com GIR

    Wow, your subject this week has really hit a nerve with me. It’s easy to forget about the impact of self-inflicted emotional violence and this is a timely reminder for me. I, like others here, struggle with destructive thoughts every day, attempting to live up to self imposed expectations that are both unrealistic and ultimately not who I am.

    Learning to be gentle with oneself is a journey in itself and I wish you and others here all the success in the world on this path. As has been pointed out you are an amazing person and you deserve it.

  • Ed H

    Eek. Looks like there’s more than one Ed. I’m Ed H from now on so as to avoid confusion, but I was this one:
    http://www.allisonmack.com//?p=6#comment-699

    Anyway, reading this, I checked for these spoiler rumours, and whatever comes of it I’m sure it’ll be something to remember, because Smallville is one of the few programs I enjoy in which the calibre of the acting can actually get me emotional. The on-screen chemistry is always great, and I’m consistently amazed that I haven’t heard of the cast being snapped up for major films left, right and centre.

  • Carona

    Hi !

    I just want to say that i like your work and i think that you do a great job in the last diffused episode “progeny” ! I am naturally a huge fan of you ^^ and i would like to say that i agree with your thoughts about violence

    Sorry for my bad english, i am a vietnamese who live in france ! and i d’ont use to write in english : i just watch and listen english things !

  • http://www.flogao.com.br/milkanedyane Milka

    Hello Allison,
    My name’s Milka and I’m from Salvador,Bahia-BRAZIL.
    I liked your text about violence. When I think about these kind of problems like POVERTY end VIOLENCE, that makes me so sad! There are many problems in Brazil, specially the violence, it’s a consequence of poverty. People who daesn’t have any food, job. They are excluded from society and because of this they become violent persons. I’d like to know a way to help people from my country. I think the best thing we have to do is try to find the peace inside us. And love the other as we love ourselves.
    By the way, I’m a Smallville big fan and my favorite character is Chloe Sullivan, of course.
    P.s: I loved the pic of you and Monet. so funny! *laughs*

    Sorry, my english is not so good!
    Big kisses
    I´m waiting for your next text.

  • Guillaume

    I did not understand all that you wanted to say ( sorry for my english but i am french ) but I agree with you, the words often have a power which exceeds our will, they can hurt a person without wanting it but one is likely always to catch up with our errors, it is just enough to seize it.

    Nice chinese picture, good chance for your job

    French quotation: “Le coeur a ses raisons que la raison ne connais pas”

    Guillaume

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