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He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Guest House
Written by Rumi

This being human is a guest house
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.

This poem is one of my new all-time favorites! I have recently been spending a lot of time looking at myself and finding solutions to problems I have created for myself, emotionally, and trying to better myself to walk the walk as a participant in this beautiful world. I just noticed recently, however, a result of starting this self-awareness process; I subconsciously developed this really ridiculous habit of trying to ignore all of my “nasty human feelings.” The very fact that I just called them “nasty” is evidence of the fact that I’m trying to give them less meaning in order to be able to ignore them.

I realized, however, that it all pertains to that need to beat myself up over insecurities rather than choosing to address them head on. It seems almost as though I do this because I feel like I can’t love or accept myself as being a flawed human. The really silly thing about suppressing those emotions, rather than facing them, is that when I do that, I am not increasing my opportunity to grow from the experience. Instead, what ends up happening is that I am increasing the issue by trying to suppress it, thus prolonging the response to learning from the experience.

To further explain, when I know this suppressed emotion (whatever it is at the time) is inside me and I refuse to have compassion for my own human struggle, I am only adding to the problem. After thinking about it, I feel it is so much more effort to hide than simply recognize and make the choice to put in the effort to move on.

When I was thinking about all of this, I realized that it’s like I get some sort of strange satisfaction out of the “punishment” of feeling bad about having an emotion and/or reaction to something which results to avoiding the issues. Almost seems as if, somehow, if I punish myself by suppressing the emotion, it will let me off the hook from feeling it.

The really amazing thing that Rumi said in this poem is that we should be “grateful for each feeling because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.” I really believe that this is true! Interestingly, if I really look at all the anger and malice that I feel, it all stems from fear, and when I think about what fear originates from, it is a reaction to a prediction of what may happen.

The only way to squelch this fear is to find out what that unknown is. So, when I do get angry or envious or suppressive, I will now choose to look at them as a gift I am giving myself to see what I am afraid of so I can move through that fear.

After having learned that, I am so over living my life based on fear, which is based on a perceived future and not reality at all! I love this poem so much because essentially all the author is saying is that we should look for these human qualities within ourselves and rather than punish ourselves or try and ignore ourselves, we should hug ourselves and offer us a nice cup of tea.

If I don’t hold myself accountable for ending the war on me, how can I hold the world accountable for doing anything even remotely similar? What an amazing concept… I wonder if that’s what Gandhi meant?

Have a beautiful week, my fellow humans!
Ciao
Allison

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  • Camilla

    hey allison!!!!
    loved the poem!!!!
    i’m sorry but i’m not inspired to write anything good
    so i’m just gonna say hi this week!!! [:P]
    keep up the good work!!!
    have a nice week too!!!

    tchau!!! ( bye, in Brazil)

    =***

  • Geo.D

    Hello Allison,

    You probably hear this all the time, but your performance on “Smallville” totally rocks! You should really have your own series. Maybe after “Smallville” comes to a close you’ll get that chance?

    Whatever happens after, I wish you all the best.

    Thank you for creating such a memorable character! Chloe is one of the reasons the show is so compelling. Meanwhile, I’m keeping my fingers crossed that she isn’t killed off when Season 6 ends.

    More power to you Allison!

    Keep on rocking,

    Geo.D

  • Nicole

    Hi Allison! Once again, your entry has struck a chord with me. It’s been wonderful seeing that even though you’re a famous actress, you have fears and insecurities just like the rest of us and you’re constantly working to address them.

    Any negative emotion (anger, sadness, etc) that I come in contact with always makes me wish that I had no emotions at all so I wouldn’t have to feel the pain that goes along with them. There are days where I think I’d be better off without emotions because I wouldn’t feel the pain of sadness but emotions are important, especially the bad ones. I think that when you’re sad, you come to appreciate how good you feel when you’re happy. We tend to take happiness for granted and it can take anger or sadness or any other negative emotion to make us realize how precious the positive emotions are. The negative emotions are the ones that inspire us to make changes in order to become better people. Without them, people wouldn’t change and the world could be a whole lot worse than it already is.

  • Jolina

    Tabby, you rock. ‘Nuf said.

    Oh, Allison, you are like me superimposed on my friend, such a hard-working theatre girl now residing in Las Vegas. You television/theatre people are such hard workers–and hard thinkers! But, if I may say, you seem to have emotionally matured at such a young age, for most of the theatre people I know (those who survive and don’t end up working some dead-end theatre *related* position somewhere), although the hardest workers I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting, are also the most emotionally distant from themselves. I dare say, Allison, they are such defined, bull-headed, inspiring and, unfortunately, the most emotionally removed *from themselves* people I’ve ever had the honor of meeting. How did you do it? Whatever it is, I’d like it to rub off on my dear friends.

    Me, I’m the odd one of my group of friends. I’m a biological anthropologist from Mars by trade LOL (no, really, seriously)!! Anyway, Rumi was a Sufi, as I’m sure you know. For those who don’t, please do Google it and/or watch a couple of DVD’s on Sufism, it’s wonderful stuff! I remember watching a video on the so-called “Whirling Dirveshes” and Sufism and I was so moved by one of the main tenets of Sufism: Everything, Everyone, is God (yes, yes, it sounds hippy-dippy like Yoda: “God everywhere is…” or the like) Let me tell you, that’s a morsel more tasty than chocolate; grasp it, and you’ll have a near-life experience every day ( think Maude, from ‘Harold and Maude’)

    In the context of Sufism, at least what I know of it, this poem is an extension of what I wrote above–that everything and everyone is God. I know this may be offensive to some–but hey, I’m not pushing this or any other religion here (for I subscribe to none). What I am saying, which may be somewhat of a departure from what you’re saying, Allison, is that YOU and everyone/everything you truly meet (that is, what you are truly aware of and paying attention to at the moment) is a lesson to learn, a gift from the Universe (if I may capitalize so). I recall one reader quoting that the test of whether or not your mission in life was over is whether or not you’re still alive–and if you are, it’s not (Richard Bach). I whole-heartedly agree in this context! It’s true! I mean, it’s interesting, your take on this–YOU are one of those people/souls that you meet (yes! absolutely!), and examining your reactions to others’ emotions/reactions to it all as well as everything and everyone else is meeting and interacting with The Universe (or God, if you prefer) and saying, “Hi, how are ‘ya?”. That is: how are you communicating to the Universe today? Every experience, whether it be you, or the fact that you noticed how beautiful it all is: the blooming of everything in spring, or the laughter of a child (for it’s a gift, just that noticing, and that appreciating of, you know).

    As I wrote earlier, this is a departure from what you wrote, but I truly think it’s so interesting how you internalized this Sufi poem, and made that person–that experience–you are meeting–well, You. Perhaps you’re more like my dear theatre friends than I know. Well, I don’t know you, but it is fun to write to someone you see on a weekly basis but haven’t the opportunity to meet. It’s so fascinating from my angle. Peace be with you, dear.

  • http://www.onebigumbrella.com marina

    I continue to be amazed at how your journey is mirroring mine. I too am fighting myself and I’m growing tired of the fight. In my case it’s the critical voice inside that tells me I don’t deserve success, don’t deserve happiness. Trying to find ways to quiet it is taking its toll on me physically – sleep problems and body convulsions whenever I deep breathe.

    I’ve worked very hard at just letting myself feel whatever I feel but it’s hard when I find myself crying through the same song every night at work and needing to be together to deal with the public 5 minutes later. Or when my mind won’t shut down for some desperately needed sleep. But I know it’s old stuff that needs to clear out so I can make room for the new, just as the poem says. I just hope it stops soon so that I can make the changes in my life I want to make. I hope I’m not getting caught up in that desire and missing something important along the way.

    I’m very glad you’re sharing your journey with us. I only wish I had the time to read the comments from the fellow travelers who have congregated here.

    On another note, glad to see the link to La MaMa. I had the pleasure to meet Ellen Stewart last year. What an incredible lady! I suspect my journey may lead me either to the New York or Melbourne chapters. It kinda scares me how your blog is tying so intimately into my own life.

  • bunnyhugs

    Wonderful blog! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It is such a beautiful thing to do. Enjoy each step, every moment is a gift and a lesson but also remember to breathe and just be; to feel the joy within you. To laugh everyday, to look people in the eye and really see them and share a smile. Its ok to be sad or frustrated or angry. If we look at the why of these emotions we end up with a tool for great personal growth. Don’t be afraid of your feelings, they are a precious gift; all of them. You will find the more you acknowledge instead of supress the negative ones, the less power they have over you. You are wonderful Allison, just the way you are and you are loved.

  • josh

    i just want to say that this is the greatest thing to be able to come here every week and read some of your thoughts on life and the world. thank you for spending so much time connecting with all your fans allison!

    that was a nice poem. i’m sure that being in the public eye probably increases whatever insecurities you may have.

  • http://www.allisonmack.com jesslyn452

    Hey allison your quotable poem has touched me once again! emotions are very intriguing. i wish i couldn’t feel the ones that hurt me the most such as anger and hate. everyone is the same whether your a celebrity, actress or just a homeless person. everyone feels and has emotions. you are like us. having fears and doubts. its interesting how you go in depth on what this poem means to you.
    hope your enjoying your vacation, looking forward to next weeks blog
    God Bless!

  • Miles

    Interesting thoughts.
    I dont know what religion you follow, if one at all, but id like to suggest something for you to learn from. It seems like you have an obsession with life and emotion—the struggle in general.
    Read about buddhism, its really ‘enlightening’ haha. You were describing fear and the effects of your emotions. A lot of interesting things can be found through buddhism. I love the idea of karma in general…that your actions are like a stone thrown in water. It will produce a wave that will effect others in negative and positive ways(of course depending on the action).

    But seriously, interesting reading on your site. Im suprised to find something like that here…I was just browsing cause Im a fan of smallville. Post about what you read from buddhist philosophy—id love to read what you think about it.

  • DaveL

    Allison it’s very encouraging to see a successful actress
    soul searching in the shallow world we live in. One of the
    biggest challenges in life is trying to find a way to deal
    with “self” and connect and find our path to God and peace.

    Sometimes we must silence the negative. I recommend
    reading Eckhart Tolle’s books based on reading your website
    I think this is right up your alley. Our mind loves
    drama and negative emotions which keep our ego alive.
    When we silence these voices we are able to love ourself others
    and find God. I encourage you to get the “power of now”
    by eckhart tolle. Some of the same people you quote from you
    will find in his book.

  • http://www.burgerking.com.br Chris

    Hi Allison! First of all I’d like to apologize about my english, because I am from Brazil, and I don’t speak, even write, very well in english, so…
    Well, I never wrote in a blog before, and I confess I didn’t read what I supose to coment here, but I got into your blog just to say how a good person you seams to be.
    Here in Brazil, I do watch Smallville, and congratulations for your exelent job. I hope you finish dating Clark Kent, because Chloe deservs him, she’s the best! Sorry, but I think Lana Lang is too perfect, and for me, perfect is boring!
    As I told you, I live in Brazil, in a city called Porto Alegre (is in the south), and I hope someday I go to Hollywood to work with movie (not like an actress like you, hahaha, I dont have this talent, I work with advertisment, and maybe you can send me a contact. : )
    That’s all!
    Congratulations again for your job! And I hope you are the great person you seams to be at television.
    See ya.
    Chris

  • http://deleted Marlos

    Oi, Alisson!!!
    It’s a pleasure to write on your blog once a time!!!
    It is really cool you are able to share your personal thoughts and “personal conflicts”. I would like to say that the blog for this week is, definitively, for me, an exchange of experiences and I think it is just to I say my thoughts and my feelings, too. This blog is a great experience, I confess that it’s unknown for me, to be able to correspond with a great actress, and the best, you aren’t of the country where I live! Here no actor (actress) had the idea to make one blog as yours or sort like that. About the blog, I confess that I am surprise, because I didn’t know the author, nor the poem, and I found it so much pretty and I believe that it is, above all, a life lesson. The way that she sees these feelings is, for me, surprising, because I never thought in this way and that such feelings can be used to exactly understand more about ourselves. For me the message of the poem is “learns to coexist with your bad feelings, because they can well be useful for your proper one” (it seems copy of the text, but it isn’t!!!!!). This internal conflict that you describe with a shining wealth of details, happens with many of us (at least with me), and I agree specially in the part: “It seems almost though I of this because I feel like I can’t love or accept myself being flawed human.” Sometimes, I compare myself excessively with the people whom I coexist, and I find this bad one, because I always finish considering me inferior or that I am always made a mistake, creating, in many times, an embarrassing situation inside me, being that such comparisons are improper, because each one is each one, with your qualities and defects….What we have to do is observe the good things of each one and try to learn with them, instead of comparing with the others, I say this for proper experience, but I continue making this, I must say. I believe certainly that this poem can really be useful for my life and for the others. Your final consideration was perfect and I agree to it, and I say more: as we can demand that the others look for improve, if I do not look for improve? I include me in this situation, unfortunally. You didn’t speak of Smallville, but I cannot leave of speaking of my favorite series…. I was seeing the last episodes that had passed in the USA and what I saw I liked so much… The route that is taking the series… it is really cool…. I can’t wait for the next episodes! The episode I liked more was ” Progeny “, where you had a beautiful performance, alternating between the “normal” Chloe and the manipulated Chloe, I found the cool part were that the Chloe almost killed Lex with that weapon and in that scene of the beginning, where the Chloe sabotages the car of the Lex and leaves him unconscious! But I must say that I found all the scenes of Chloe in this episode so good…. (I love her!!!!). Finally the series is giving Chloe (and for you) the importance that she (you) deserves. At last, I would like to finish my message saying that you have been very good for me to write and to read your messages, although I don’t have much time to write and a certain difficulty to translate what you wrote, even because my English is not nothing of very special, but I am trying so hard!!!!
    Thanks for the poem!!!!
    Tchau, even next week, Allison!
    Sincerely,
    Marlos…

  • Vanetta

    That is an awesome poem. I agree to some extent with what many have already stated. I think self accepance is important; it’s the first step to self improvement. Every single thing that we experience in our lives, good or bad, serves as some sort of a lesson for us. I think that constant change is important in living a full life. Not necessarily in specific circumstances, but maybe in our way of looking at thing. I think that is why it is so imprtant to recognize how large a role other people unlike ourselves play in that whole equation. Not only does it allow for an outsiders view of ourselves that we have no way of coming up with on our own, but it gives us an oppotunity to explore life and situations through a completely different perspective…

  • http://None Juan

    Allison, having the ability to earn a lot of money should not make you feel bad. However, how you choose to spend it is a different story all together.

    Do you believe in natural cycles? Would you believe that he whole premise behind Capitalism is based on natural law, which in turn drives the very same cycles that make economies boom and bust? If you believe this and would like to see nature and its cycles at work, take a look at the current world prices of Gold.

    Gold currently trades at the New York, London and Asian Markets for about $680.00/ounce. By October 2007 GOLD world price will reach $1200. Why do I even mention this?

    Even though word experts may say otherwise, currencies and economies worldwide are still measured against the Gold standard. And gold prices like everything else in nature (you and I included) are driven by natural cycles. Hence, the same is true about Capitalism so, if you follow gold prices until the end of the year – you will get a first hand lesson on natural law. And since you’re obviously a very smart individual, I promise, when you see Gold reach $1200 by years end, your thoughts on money, capitalism and human behavior as whole will take on a completely new meaning.

    Juan

  • Вова

    Hello Allison!

    I never heard this poem, but it – now one of my directions =). This poem has shown me that all of us not flawless, in each of us is that “opposite” (With love from Russia)

  • Carlos Eduardo

    Hi Allison, it’s great to read more about the way you think and what are you looking for in this life. I really appreciate this topic because I feel much related with it.

    It is hard to defeat and comprehend the truth about our fears; usually nobody wants to be part of the battle, because they already know what is going to happen next. A set of doors will be opened and the phantoms of the past will appear again.

    Five years ago I used to live around a dream; it pushed me to go ahead for everything I wanted. Suddenly, time passed, my perspective and longings changed. The passion for the dream had ended and I realized I was putting all of my efforts on something that would never make me feel happy as I thought it could be. Was then when I asked myself the motive of why I had lost the dream and which was the truly goal I was trying to get. Confusion started and as a result I got tons of indecisions, questions and fears for my future. At first, was only on my mind the wish of forget it all, but then I comprehended that I had to find my own answers, because I didn’t know myself.

    I received the advice “live your present and forget those stuff, get something to occupy your mind”. What I choose was to start finding my own answers, because I realized that I would have to face those emotions on some moment of my life; I was in the right time.

    My ideal was to finally get everything solved in order to start new projects, but the truth was that some of the answers will late on arrive and I can’t stay all my life waiting for them; so I decided to continue with the process at the same time I live my life, which now has new dreams that are stronger and more related to me.

    Years have passed and now answers arrive on any moment, they don’t have a frequency, they don’t come one time per week, or one time per month, it’s just a moment, context or action which makes them appear amazingly on any unexpected situation, they’re like a light which shines strongly in the mind. I could compare them with a valuable and hard to find gear which is part of a huge, incomplete and mixed up puzzle.

    I really appreciate what you are doing, trying to find out your own answers. Not everybody wants to lift the heavy weight of looking back inside the doors of their emotions. Many people prefer to have stressful works to don’t think about themselves. As a person who also is trying to find them, I recommend you to don’t think a lot, it hurts, just wait for them and try to understand what made them appear.

    I would like to know someday why you want to be so good with the world; I suppose you must have a huge reason behind it all.

    Gook luck, you are great!!!
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  • shinefloyd

    the answer my friend , is blowin’ in the wind.
    bad money = bad people
    good money = good people?

    SHNINEFLOYD FROM URUGUAY ( THE DARK SIDE OF THE MOON )

    luigi

  • Carlos Maia

    Amazing Allison!!!

    Since the first they of our lives we move because of our feelings, but we the truth is that when we were a child we follow them.

    But when we grow up and begin to rule our lives we forget that ours feelings exists to guide us, to show us signis that will help us deciding our future!!!!

    Every week when I read your blog I became more fan of you!!! You are a wonderful person!!! As we say here in Brazil, vc é maravilhoooossaaaa!!!!

    Kisses and try to come to Brazil onde day!!!!

    Carlos Maia RJ – Brasil

  • kenna

    Allison,
    I really liked your poem this week. I normally don’t post on websites, but this remided me of something my mom once told me during my akward high school expirience:

    “How can you appreciate the highs in your life if you don’t have any lows?”

    This poem remids me of this because it’s true, if you fight the bad feeligs and surpress them the good and worthwile feelings don’t hold the same itensity, or preciousess. These emotios are ever easy, but are a part of beig human. When oe invites the bad in with open arms, when the good does show it’s face it seems so much better than if there was nothing to compare it to.

    Often when things seem like they will never get better the bad feelings lead it to something special.

  • http://www.fotolog.com/sarah_corr Sarah

    Hi Allison, just to send greetings from Brazil and say that we love your work…
    Regards,

  • BOUROUX

    Hi Allison.
    I have seen your last episode Noir. You was amazing. I am sure you had pleasure on the set.
    For your quote. I think that Chloe is so popular because she is not perfect. A perfect person is often unhappy. It’s more important to be happy than to be perfect. I heard this week an interview with Aaron (Jimmy) and he said:It’s a treat. She’s gorgeous, she’s an incredible actress. As Chloe she just brings so much to the character that its really fun and easy to work with her. To just watch her, i’m always just so blown away by all the interesting and subtle stuff that she brings to the character. Working with someone who is at that level really makes you bring a little bit more out, and they bring a little bit more out of you. I have seen others comments like this from Linda Carter. You are a great actress and a very beautiful person. Congratulation for your desire to improve all the facets of your life . What do you do this week? It’s very interesting to see pictures of you in real life.
    Have a good day.
    Bye.

  • Ryan

    That is a good poem which helped me deal with some very bad times this week. Thank you for posting it.

    This week I’ve felt a mix of many very strong emotions. Mostly, the emotions were fear, humiliation, betrayal, depression, and finally anger. I tried to accept the emotions and not push them away. I don’t know for sure, but I think it helped. Maybe if I had tried to push away the anger I would have let things build up and I would have burst and said or done something I would have regretted. Thank you for helping me out!

    I came to this site slightly curious about one of the stars of a show I like. But as I’ve read your posts I’ve been provoked into thought. I think I’ll keep reading.

    Why do I get the feeling that I’m being overly complimentary because you are a celebrity? You must get both extremes. On one hand there are people who praise everything you do and treat you as some sort of God while on the other hand there are probably people who treat you in the exact opposite way, to overcompensate.

    Ok, now I’m babbling. As if you have time to read all these posts if they’re all as long as mine. I just hope you read the part about the poem you posted positively effecting my life. I guess you are using your celebrity for good, which I think might be the intent of your posts. You are setting a good example. There goes the babbling again.

    My post is now over. Ok, one more thing…

  • http://none timetraveler

    human beings are the only animals that scare themselves to death.

  • Fatma

    Hi Allison
    Firstly congratulation on such a great and successful career, you bring such presence to the screen, your an inspiration to us all.
    Thank you for taking the time out for your fans, its great to know you have time for us.
    Your blog is great, getting an insight on what your views are on the world and life itself is awesome.
    I am a huge fan of the show, havent missed an episode, i’ll probably go crazy if i do lol. Keep up the great work

    If you dont mind I was hoping you could clear one thing up for me, Do you have a myspace profile? It’s just that there are so many posers out, i just want to know the real one. And if you dont mind, do you if any of the smallville cast members have one, it would be great to get in touch with the cast of the best show on TV.

    wish you all the best Allison
    Take care
    Fatma

  • http://www.allisonmack.com Nick

    Hello and good day Allison. Very nice of you to do what you are doing here. It is one of the things that intrigues me most about you. Your willingness to open up and let others see you for who you are. Something I wish we could all do more often.
    I find that procrastination is my worst enemy. I think it is due to fear, as is most of our little quirks. Fear of not finishing, so why start. Fear that it is a waste of time for no one will read it anyway. You see I like to write short stories and poetry, have for decades, and in the last few years have started a novel, but to what end. So, I work a little, and put off a lot. Not that I don’t think I can do it. I know I am able, and willing, but that little voice whispering in my ear; you are wasting your time I suppose it the culprit. Without a doubt it stems from fear of something. Maybe failure, or rejection. It isn’t something I can put my finger on right now as I had not thought about it until I read your perceptions of you enter self.
    I close now as there is much for you to read already and I know your time is limited. My hope is that you find the time to read everyones post to you. Why what you do means so much to many I think. It isn’t something you have to do, but chose to do.
    Cherokee Knight

  • gégé

    bonjour,
    that’s a wonderful poem. I didn’t know Rumi, thanks to make me discover this poet.

    this poem reflects what happen in our life. Sometimes we don’t want to see or feel things (like emotions,…) because we know that we ‘ll be hurt after. So we avoid difficult situations. It’s a way to protect us again the world and ourselves. We have to choose how we live and where we want to go. We seek clues so as to help us to take the right way but we can be mistaken.
    We have to accept our choices and live with it. That’s life.

  • http://none Caio

    Hi Allison,
    first of all I’d like to congratulate you for this blog, for sharing your thoughts with all of us. I admire your writing and I admire even more your philosophical side translated in these beautiful words you’ve been writing.
    In regards to emotions, I think the most important thing about them is to fully live them. There’s no reason to suppress them or even hide them. Some emotions might be bad, like hate, depression or jealousy but with the help of others it’s possible to let go of those feelings. We’re all learning, we should all share that learning. It’s time to trust others more even when there’s no reason to. It’s the idea of unconditionally do what you feel, without expecting any return. It may sound cliche but doing our part is truly important. This is the true meaning of living to the fullest – living our emotions, creating the story of our lives.

    “Live as if your were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” – Gandhi

  • Curlyqlink

    “Know thyself.”

    It doesn’t get any pithier than that, does it? Truly a remarkable goal. Personally, I’m not as up on welcoming every single emotion into my house up to and including a crowd of sorrows. I prefer a bit of filtering. But then, I’m not an actor.

    An exquisitely sensitive nature is a very good thing in the arts, it seems to me. I’ve recently been re-reading Proust. Now there was a guy who examined the tiniest fragment of a (remarkably uneventful) life– and did so to great effect. A titanic novelist who left a wonderful gift to those of us, his readers, who are forced to be somehat more… um… calloused in our daily lives.

  • Zach

    Hi Allison,

    Congratulations, you are amazing at expressing your feelings. To be perfectly honest I have battled depression and anger problems my whole life and in the process probably ruined very important relationships. Anyway, it is the truth and there is no reason to hide it. I think too many people get bogged down with guilt because they have certain feelings they believe they shouldn’t have. Everyone has those kinds of feelings from time to time and it does no harm unless they let it. I tried to live by the messages from the musical “Mame.” Everyday I try to “Open a New Window” and all the other messages that Mame projected. If you ever get a chance, listen to the soundtrack from either the Broadway version or the film version. The songs and the performers do a wonderful job at pointing out the meaning of living life, falling in love, and taking great value in friend ship. So Bravo on a wonderful job!

    P.S. I loved your black and white performance in the episode “Noir.” You looked great with the Lucy Ricardo hair style!

  • http://www.allisonmack.com Matty / inLove_with_Chloe

    Hi Allison,
    I can’t help feeling that we (your fans) have to cheer you up a little. This latest blog entry of your sounds quite dark, once again…. Dont fight a ‘war against yourself’, please!!! Trust me, I have tried and it’s not worth it…. No matter what you do – you’ll lose this war in the end.
    Indeed there are no ‘bad feelings’ one has to suppress and feel bad about. Life is complicated, sure, but it isn’t as difficult as we sometimes think. Did it ever occur to you that old people are less scared of life than young people? That’s kind of interesting, IMO. Cause they have figured it all out. Now all they want it be young again and live life all over again with that knowledge.
    In my personal experience, life (and it’s seriousness) is much too over-rated. People think there are ‘right and wrong’ decisions, and good/bad feelings. I don’t think it’s true. All we need is to take an objective look onto (and into) ourselves from time to time. Then all the problems will be much less scary, and their solutions much more obvious. However, it’s not always easy to be oneselves best friend. That’s why having good friends makes life so much easier. I miss my friends, cause they live far away now and I can’t see them as often as I’d like. But when we’re all together then I can easily forgive myself for being as imperfect as I am. They do so without judging me – which makes it so much easier….
    Cheers,
    m.

  • camilo

    Hola Allison.
    Que divertido que tengas un Blog. Cuando me encontre con esta noticia me parecio increible que seas una persona tan sencilla, sensible y buena persona. Siempre en la vida deberia haber un momento de humildad y de reflexion sobre todas las cosas que pasan frente a nuestros ojos.
    No creo que leas mi mensaje, pero me gustaria recomendarte dos Poetas Chilenos que es de donde yo soy. Uno se llama Pablo Neruda. Y el otro es un Anti-Poeta llamado Nicanor Parra que es un ser bastante abstracto, interesante y muy conocido aca e!n Chile.

    Saludos a la distancia.
    Camilo
    Pd: Juacinto en Chile No existe!!… dile a los Guionistas!

  • Alonso

    Of all animals, the human is the only that eats without feeling hungry and talks without anything to say
    Take care & nice weekend

  • Scarlett Kunst

    “loves are like empires: when the idea they are founded on crumbles, they, too, fade away”
    –milan kundera, the unbearable lightness of being

  • http://www.allisonmack.com elroyofkrypton

    I’m old enough to be your father, so as such I don’t immediately identify with the internal struggle you are writing about. I went through that at your age. But the cool thing is that the difficult part of that will end. You’ll have mapped your internal landscape, and then life becomes much clearer, and more meaningful. What I mean by that is once your internal warfare is over, you can spend the rest of your life doing good without the personal story interfering. You’ll see with a certain clarity, and with that comes the knowledge that your purpose in life is to do good for other people. You can only do that when you have resolved the personal drama within. The peace that brings enables you to help others without neglecting yourself. Once you have solved the problems of youth (Oh how youth is wasted on the young!), you need/desire/crave less, and are satisfied with life. What you have accomplished in this peace is something that cannot be taken from you.

    It sounds like you are headed in the correct direction. But don’t be too tough on yourself. Just be true to yourself, and then to others you cannot be anything other than true, to paraphrase The Bard. Remember, we respondents care about you and want your life to be a good and long adventure. My wish for you is to be able to look back on your life and see a deep and abiding meaning, a golden thread running through it, tying all of it together in a beautiful pattern.

    Have a great week. Can’t wait to see what happens in the next two weeks.

    Best regards,

    elroy

  • joey

    Interesting blog.

  • http://greciantiga.org/ini/nocoes.asp Acássia marques

    oi Allisson!
    you already its work with my friends together thought in being writer of a periodical as well as the folloied Cloe.Have the much time,mainly in Smallville, we have until Orkut alone with its name, and tambem many groups for the Brasil.
    Speaking in this we are waiting for you here in Brazil. We are all twisting for you!
    Bye, bye
    Acássia

  • oooiamtylerooo

    I love reading these every week! This week especially though because I can relate to the majority of what you’ve said. You put it into a perspective where I can acctually understand now. I think you are so great and I always look forward to see what you come to do next.

  • chris

    I love Smallville.

  • Stephanie

    Hi, I just love your blog and I read it each week. I really love your last blog, I can relate so much, it make me thinking a lot about my feelings and how I deal with it. I’ve got some thinking to do myself to really understand how to be gratefull for my feelings.

    I really love the way you act as Chloe Sullivan. I know I’m not very original lol… but it’s true and I want you to know it. But what is more important, now that I read your blog I know that you are a good person. Your tough, your way to questionning yourself prove that you want to be a better person not only for you, but for everybody around you. That’s a gift…

    Your an actress, you can touch many hearts.

    Stephanie

    p.s Sorry, my first langage is french. I know my english isn’t perfect..

  • http://fildar51.spaces.live.com Phil

    Hi Allison!

    Your website is very “original” , because you’re a famous actrees and it looks like a blog of a “normal”person .
    It s very “human”, and “alive” and it permits us, your fans, to discover a little who is Allison Mack , what she likes, what she lives…
    It s a very good idea, i hope you will continue to write and share with us the little things of your life!
    Sorry for my english, i m french too…

    Phil

  • Samuel

    Hi Allison , I am a fan its of the Brazil here, I come following its work since the beginning of smallville, you has much talent. You desire all the success of the world. Kisses

  • http://www.myspace.com/haleyvasquez Haley Vasquez

    Hi I am haley, i am a a big smallville fan. I strongley encourage my friends to watch the show.i just love you playing chloe. they couldn’t have picked a better person. how does it feel to be on smallville? i want you to check out my space. at http://www.myspace.com/haleyvasquez it has alot of smallville. the contact box was going to be you but they don’t make one of you. i think the real star of the show is you.

  • Juliana

    Hello Allison,
    I`m from Brazil and I´m learning a lot with your blog. You are such an inspiration for me. Thanks for share with us a little bit of your life. I hope you come soon to Brazil and meet all your brazilian fans.
    warm hugs!

  • yannig

    Hi allison,

    This is really sympathetic of reading your blog.
    Finally a deep subject on the Web! It’s so rare.

    The Rumi’s poem – I didn’t know this one – is very beautiful. ( I think that Persian poetry is my preferred )
    Interpretation that you make of it is also really beautiful. And you go for a direct application : wonderful !

    Any process of widening of conscience of someone is an rapture for me.
    Then there, when that occurs almost “on line”, the effect is incredible :
    I acknowledge that I have some tear with the eye.

    That makes me think about a Japanese “koan” suspended right front of me, at the time of Zen meditation, at Paris dojo :
    “You can make what you want, but you’re growing yourself alone.”
    …something like that…
    That wants to say that’s only you who can make the effort to growing yourself.

    But that doesn’t want especially to say you are alone.
    On the contrary : your efforts, Allison, generate a quite beautiful emulation.

    Can you continue, in one-way or another the world really needs some.
    And can we all do efforts in the same direction…

    love.

    y.

    PS1 : I apologize for my approximate English, and I hope that remains comprehensible. It was already a little work for me.

  • AaronC

    “THIS BEING HUMAN IS A GUEST HOUSE”
    It doesn’t say that being human is “a house”. It is a “guest house” Could humanity only be a temporary state?

    “EVERY MORNING A NEW ARRIVAL”
    I wonder if we focus too much on “past” and “future”, and not enought on the “present” which has been given us today.

    “A JOY, A DEPRESSION, A MEANESS”

    A Joy = Participating in a thought provoking blogsite written by a beautiful and talented actress who is wise beyond her years.

    A Depression = Catching a viral infection resulting in vertigo, and a sore throat, missing my entire summer last year because of it.

    A Meaness = If the writers and producers kill off my favorite reporter on Smallville. ;)

    “SOME MOMENTARY AWARENESS COMES”
    I once heard in a motivational seminar that positive emotion is a sign that you are doing something right, but negative emotion is a sign that you are doing something wrong. I think each experience teaches us something, we just have to open up our minds to figure out what it is.

    “AS AN UNEXPECTED VISITOR”
    I interpret this as the understanding moment that we get when we suddenly realize why we are going through whatever we are going through. Good or Bad.

    “WELCOME AND ENTERTAIN THEM ALL”
    Sometimes I just wish my problems would just go away and leave me alone. But they seldom do. So I have no choice but to face them head on.

    “EVEN IF THEY ARE A CROWD OF SORROWS”
    WOW! This one hits home as a friend of mine passed away this month.

    “WHO VIOLENTLY SWEEP YOUR HOUSE”
    Doesn’t sweeping your house get rid of dirt and stuff? I wonder if that is the same with our hearts.

    “EMPTY OF ITS FURNITURE”
    Time for inner renovation perhaps?

    STILL TREAT EACH GUEST HONORABLY
    This is reminds me of the words of St. Paul “In whatever state I am. I will be content”

    “HE MAY BE CLEARING YOU OUT FOR SOME NEW DELIGHT”
    I have noticed in my own life everytime I go through a hard time, a good time soon follows. Wow. How is that for a quote? I just made that one up.

    “THE DARK THOUGHT, THE SHAME, THE MALICE”

    Dark Thought = Everytime I am passionate about something or someone, there is always disappointment.

    Shame = Maybe I’m the problem.

    Malice = No, their the problem and I must figure out a way to deal with them.

    “MEET THEM AT THE DOOR LAUGHING.”
    Do you ever notice that when you laugh things always seem less intimidating?

    “AND INVITE THEM IN”
    Bring it On!

    “BE GRATEFUL FOR WHOEVER COMES”
    Wisdom, is that you knocking?

    “BECAUSE EACH HAS BEEN SENT”
    Who is the sender?

    “AS A GUIDE FROM BEYOND”
    Ah, God sent them.

  • http://netscape Rick C.

    All I can say Allison is Bravo! I played sports in high school BUT was never able to run very long…and by that I mean for distance.
    I’d be able to run like the wind! But not for very long I’m sad to say. So great job ya can rehab that knee & be back in no time!
    rick c

  • Nicole

    hey Allison

    I’m new to this, I don’t even know if I’m writing in the right place, I hope I am…anyway, I just want to say that you are my favourite in ‘Smallville’, I want to know, what happens to Chloe in season 7:), kidding, though if you want to tell me, you can;)

    Ok, that’s not the actual reason why I’m typing to, I’m actually typing to you to ask you, what would you do if your best friend suddenly starting argueing with you, when you didn’t do anything wrong? Like one minute you are having a perfectly good conversation then all of a sudden your friend starts argueing with you saying that you aren’t a good friend, I just want an opinion because my best friend did that to me and I have no idea what to do, do I stop being her friend or do I work it out with her? I hope you get this because I want your opinion.

    Ok, I’m just going to add this in, it may not be professional but I’m just going to add it in, I’m from South Africa, people say it is very beautiful here but they don’t stay here for long to actually see what it is like, and they only go to places that are actually beautiful, in most places it is beautiful, like Shamwari, but I don’t think that Port Elizabeth, a place in South Africa, is beautiful, I actually can’t wait until i move to Australia.

    Jy is ‘n mooi persoon en ‘n goed aktrise, jy het ‘n lag, ‘n hart en ‘n stem soos ‘n engel.

    English translation: you are a beautiful person and a good actress, you have a laugh, a heart and a voice of an angel.

    I read this somewhere, not sure where though, but i saw it when i was looking for wallpapers of ‘Smallville’, it says:

    I’ve been searching deep down in my soul
    Words that I’m hearing are starting to get old
    It feels like I’m starting all over again
    The last three years were just pretend
    And I said….

    GOODBYE TO YOU

    Goodbye to everything I thought I knew
    You were the one i loved
    The one thing that I tried to hold on to.

    I know, this is a bad way to end a comment, sorry

    Nicole G.

  • Aurelio Pereira Melo

    Ola Allison , sou do Brasil e sempre assito o seriado Smallville, gosto muito de todos os personagens , mas o seu e o papel como reporter investigativa e o maximo , pois sou como voce, adoro descobrir o que oculto . MAs falando de voce , acho que e uma grande atriz, sou seu fã pois assisto o seriado por sua causa. Aqui no Brasil todos gostam muito do seriado. Mas eu gosto mesmo de sua atuação como proficional, sei que sua carreira sera brilhante , pois logo tera muito mais a fazer nas telas de TV e Cinema. Sou fa incondicional de voce, acho voce uma mulher linda , inteligente, meiga , carinhosa. Desejo a voce tudo de bom para voce que Deus te abençoi em sua jornada.De um fa no Brasil que torce muito por vc e toda turma de Smallville.

  • Aurelio Pereira Melo

    Esqueci de dizer , sou do Brasil , minha cidade e Goiania .fica cituada no sentro do Pais, venha um dia conheser pois ira adora esse pais maravilhoso. Abraço do amigo brasileiro Aurelio ….

  • emerson dias

    Oi tudo bem gata vejo a cere smallville e voce trabalha muito bem.É uma pena se acabar,beijo na caraçao

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