Deep thoughts Alli,
Rock on with the honesty, I know it is something I could defiantly work on.

-The Bennji

nice. so true. but, sometimes, so hard to do… kinda like working out.

Yes I have always believed that honesty is the best policy.When being honest with one’s self it is an automatic way of evolving into someone who can actually look at their self without remorse or guilt.If we were to be more honest and stop trying to mask every little flaw we have,then I believe we would be able to gain other’s friendship and respect that much more.I agree with what you said about removing our pride and large egos,it is only something that hinders our developent to becoming the best we can be in this world.When we are honest so much more good could stem from that rather than confusion and misunderstandings.It is not always easy being honest,especially concerning the big things in our life we may not be as proud of.But I believe it is so much easier to tell the truth and then later deal with the consequences.

Very nice topic Allison,you couldn’t be more right we should all live more honest lives.

Pride and ego are two human facets that are difficult to recognise in ourselves and even harder when others point these out to us.

Sometimes it’s a lot easier when we step away from ourselves and and are able to see the whole of our character…a bit like typing on a computer when revealing my thoughts and admitting my numerous failings- it seems much easier than if I were to speak about such things with friends and family.

I tend to worry about too much too often, yet when I am honest with myself as well as those around me a great deal of those worries seem to disappear…do any of you guys feel this way sometimes?

Is this topic concerning the portion of life outside of work or the whole enchilada (Mmm. Food reference!)?

If I was a lot less honest, I might be employed today. I try to tell things the way they are and the whole process of corporate education is geared against it (especially the on the job education). The Emperor doesn’t have any clothes until at least 56% of upper management has decided that he doesn’t.

And, Allison, it certainly wouldn’t work for your job.

Tom: Chloe, is there any way you can salvage your marriage to Jimmy?

Allison: Tom, I’m not Chloe and I’m not married … and I won’t lie to you just because it says so on this piece of paper.

Tom: Piece of paper? The script?

The above is pretty far fetched (maybe?) but we all are given roles to play at work and we are expected to follow the script and even be aware of the sub-text that no one dares to write down.

And outside of work, are you telling me that a husband’s proper response to an often asked question should be, “Do they make your butt look fat? Hell YES! Those pants should have a beeper sewn in that goes off when you back up!”

I totally agree 100% with everything you just said. I mean once we let all that shit go you can actually see things for what they are. Unfortunately for me it’s much harder seeing as I am still a teenager I don’t really understand too much of all that yet & haven’t let go of stuff.
Like alot of it has to do with stuff that has happened to me in my past like being bullyed or being backstabbed by one of my closest “friends” or just having a shitty relationship with my parents. It all comes down to that too, if I can’t let go & forgive people for it & also forget it then I won’t be able to actually let all that stuff go especially me being such a person with pride & feeling like I can’t let my guard down it’s harder so I hope one day to actually feel that & let all that stuff go so I can feel better not just about myself but about other people & so I can actually trust others more & not be so walled up.

I actually liked this entry alot Allison I hope you do more like this I really enjoyed reading this one, I think mostly because I relate to it alot but also I don’t hehe.

Thanks again Allison Have a great rest of your Sunday & hope you had a great Mothers Day with your Mom

Take Care,

Susana

I agree , when we stop kidding our self we can be proud of our self in a whole other way. I use to not like myself at all, but when i stopped trying to be someone else i could like the one i actually am instead of being dissapionted in not being able to be someone im not. But when it comes to honesty to others its a little different, i still think that you always should be honest, but a case could be put against me in this matter. I think the “White lie will come up” Where white lies are in its own definition a “valid lie”. Or a lie where the good out wight the bad. I still think White lies are wrong, here is why, people have all their own definition of what would validate a lie and i would also argue that giving permission to lie is to open Pandora’s box.

I also find it amazing when we remove the lies and label’s society has placed upon us. When we stop living under those, we start living our life for ourselves. The honesty in each one of us is a beauty to powerful to behold. To look inside ones self and see that we each hold our own key to life, the honest nature of ourselves is revealed. So many of us look outside us for hope and inspiration, while I find that it is helpful in doing so, you would be amazed at how much you can gain from the power within you.

PS. The point was, if the goal is keeping your job, honesty is not the best policy. If being the person you want to be is the goal, be prepared to pay a price along the way.

Honesty is the best policy, given the situation we are in, but most times we aren’t honesty for many reason, but when we really speak our mind and say what we have to say is a good thing, we don’t hide anything,we ask a question and would like a straight answer,no beat around the bush,

David Hayes Says:
“I would like to think that our goal is to evolve, but it is more common that the goal is to acquire the most toys and doing as little work as possible to be able to acquire them … and hopefully with the appearance of respectablity while doing it.”

Hence the SUV debacle.
But of course, communism just did not work on a large scale. Honesty means also having to take a hard look at the “as much as you can get away with”
mentality that Western style capitalism has degenerated into.

Judith Warner in The New York Times wrote about, “what mental health professionals are now calling ‘affluenza,’ a social pathology that, they say, is rampant at a time when getting and spending — a lot — have become our nation’s most cherished activities, and when purchasing power has become, to an unprecedented extent, almost the sole source of many people’s status and identity.”

I think the point most poignant is honesty with ourselves…the kind of honesty in self-evaluation that brings us to a place of confrontation with our own weakness…and strength. Humility…simply honesty, being completely real about who and what we are, not inflating or demeaning, but true. Inner work requires that type of honesty…it’s powerful, and transformative. And it hit the nail on the head for me lately too. Thanks for being so transparent, Allison.

Ruthie

Being honest is best. It may cost you sometimes but its the right thing to do. and as far as jobs, most employers value a honest worker. Things will work out if your honest.
great blog allison,
william

Preach on, Sista! Can’t lie to yourself for long before the shit hits the fan. Then you’ve only got yourself to blame.

This blog reminds me of the song “The Stranger” by Billy Joel

If you’ve never heard it, give it a listen.

From honesty and doing what we feel is the right thing, comes strength and conviction. When you have your facts straight and stay honest, the truth is on your side. That is an empowering thing to have in your corner, and something that builds success and respect.

Hi Allison,

Quote: “Who would have thought?” – Well, me of course. I’ve always had quite a strong veraciousness. That’s why I lie very seldom with intent – I only do this if it’s really essentially. There are some situations in life which costs one a lie – usually for protecting oneself or a loved one. So, what about the unknowing lies human beings tell every day? Well, I honestly think I don’t tell much of them either. I think I’m too truthful thereto. So here’s the rub you’d better be prepared for on your new way, Allison. It’s actually quite unbelievable, but by being honest and telling the truth you will learn that some people think you were lying and thus they wouldn’t believe you a single word. Why? Well, sadly to say, but there are so many people out there who live within and by telling lies. Those people cannot believe that there are other, honest, people as well. Strange, isn’t it? Unfortunately those lying people cannot recognise truth even if they stumble on it. However, this will possibly happen to you on your new way of honesty. So, how to handle such happenings… Well, that’s quite difficult I can tell. Try to make them understand that you tell the truth. If they still don’t believe you, forget about them for they won’t change their minds. Luckily to be honest has more advantages than disadvantages. So enjoy them!

take care,
Electra

PS
…new nick name… got fed up with the old one…

I printed off that picture I sent in for the Mothers Day MackEvent, turned it into the front cover of a mothers day card and gave it to mum. She loved it. She said she’ll ‘have to frame it’.

Awesome.

Funny how something I made when I was fourteen ended up on the internet and framed in mums bedroom.

Hi Allison

To be honest with yourself is a great thing; it definitely strengthens you as a human being. I hope you continue to be self-empowered and have a deeper understanding of who you are. Ummm

-jesse

This is a good blog. I think you make an excellent point. Honesty can make everything just so easy..you don’t have to hide anything and just lay it all out and be real. Plain and simple! I believe Honesty comes with Humility as well..its hard at times to come forth with it, but when you are real and have nothing to hide, EVERYTHING is so much better! Great Blog Allison!

I think that once you experience the consequences of lying in the highest degree you decide that it’s not worth it. That’s kind of been the way I’ve lived my life since I was a teenager, I saw what the lies my sister told did to my family and I swore that I would never lie again…and I haven’t. I found a way to stay true to myself and gain the respect of the people I care about most — although I’m sure sometimes some people wish I did lie, lol

half the time when people tell the truth, other people see it as a trick, so people lie and get the airheads out of the way (my oponein only)

Honesty to me can be a very touchy subject.
There are things with which are easily dealt with and then there are those that require diplomacy.
And all of that is with others as with yourself.
It is funny that you should mention the “mask’s that we wear” because it ties into a story I have in mind called “The Veneer” which deals with subject quite nicely. I don’t have all of the particulars yet but it shows what individuals allow themselves to present to others and how they are when alone.
Honesty could be compared to black pepper use to much and you will get burned. But at least (as long as your not allergic) it won’t kill you.

Hi Allison,
I think that we should be always honestly with our family and friends: they love us and deserve to know how we really are. And especially with ourself: to know our limits and faults help us to accept the others with their ones; besides with this knoledge we can improve ourself. (If I think to be perfect, why would I do?)

It’s a brave decision to live honestly and without the “mask” in this world interessed only at the apparence, but you’re doing the right choice.
Be proud of yourself.

Ciao Ciao

Hi Allison,

Quote: “Who would have thought?” – Well, me of course. I’ve always had quite a strong veraciousness. That’s why I lie very seldom with intent – I only do this if it’s really essentially. There are some situations in life which costs one a lie – usually for protecting oneself or a loved one. So, what about the unknowing lies human beings tell every day? Well, I honestly think I don’t tell much of them either. I think I’m too truthful thereto. So here’s the rub you’d better be prepared for on your new way, Allison. It’s actually quite unbelievable, but by being honest and telling the truth you will learn that some people think you were lying and thus they wouldn’t believe you a single word. Why? Well, sadly to say, but there are so many people out there who live within and by telling lies. Those people cannot believe
that there are other, honest, people as well. Strange, isn’t it? Unfortunately those lying people cannot recognise truth even if they stumble on it. However, this will possibly happen to you on your new way of honesty. So, how to handle such happenings… Well, that’s quite difficult I can tell. Try to make them understand that you tell the truth. If they still don’t believe you, forget about them for they won’t change their minds. Luckily to be honest has more advantages than disadvantages. So enjoy them!

take care

so often it’s so hard to be honest…. many times happend to tell some lies ‘couse we have fear to hurt peaple we love…. when we believe to live in honesty sometimes we forget that whithout have notice we tell a lots of lies… but that it’s only real life…
I think that live in honesty i’ts so hard…
but also I think is super and we could try for peaple we love.