Face to Face

OK, so I am going to be candid for a minute. I was shocked by the responses I received on my last post. Not sure if many of you have been reading some of the things people were writing, hopefully you missed the bulk of negativity as I have had someone working consistently to take down the negative and hateful comments as quickly as possible. I was so disappointed and discouraged. I feel so naive.

 

See, I have this idea. An idea that involved the creation of a place that fosters the development and discovery of interactions that inspire thought, the building of wisdom, and the advancement of love.

 

After the responses from last week I realized building this type of community may take more thoughtfulness and work than I imagined. I didn’t really know how to do it but I figured a good place to start would be by looking into those who have tried this before me. I am not so arrogant as to think this is a new idea. So I decided to investigate and turned to the godparents of philisophy. Have toga will travel.

 

My research led me to Aristotle who was generating these types of scenarios way back in the day. He built something called the Lyceum where he would lead meandering discussions and inquiries. He had students he called “peripatetics” that he would question and engage in philosophical thoughts and explorations.

 

The intention of the peripatetic student was to evolve their way of thinking; proactive intellectual evolution. Ooo. . . Just the sound of that gets me excited, yes, it’s true, I am a total philosophy geek. Throughout these discussions each of the students were asked questions intended to shine light on their beliefs, prejudices, and confusions and, as a result, each philosopher would walk away from their time at this “Lyceum-brain-gym” having a stronger, more ethical, and more holistic understanding of the concepts discussed.

 

This is beautiful to me. The idea of intellectual exercise is so intriguing. I want it. I want to be the Ultimate Thinking Champion!! I did not have a formal education. While many of my friends were in university I was fighting aliens and overcoming kryptonite poisoning. I spent most of my twenties seeking learning elsewhere, everywhere, in life and with people.

 

I don’t believe educational institutions have a monopoly on learning. It is possible to create such an experience anywhere: in line at the grocery store, at a coffee shop, a dinner party, a yoga class or at the gas pump. I also believe the internet is an incredibly accessible forum for this type of community to blossom. The simple fact that anyone with a computer from anywhere in the world can log-in to a “room” with the sole purpose of reading and sharing offers the perfect formula for learning. A modern Lyceum, using new tools to create new class rooms.

 

This is what I want to create with my site. I want allisonmack.com to be a place all people feel not only welcomed, but encouraged to come and share their voices, their perceptions and their beliefs. At the same time I would hope this site is a place that encourages curiosity and openness. A chance to truly hear others and adopt new ideas instead of blindly holding on to what is most familiar, to what we have always known.

 

I also believe that in order to have a space like this we need to agree on a few things. I see this as an opportunity to proactively generate the type of environment needed for modern peripatetics to run wild! Sounds like a bunch of frenetic dinosaurs.

 

So I came up with a few ideas. Agreements for engagement.

 

To open the conversation here are a few things I have been thinking:

 

1. Please be kind. Simple as that, just be kind. If you do not like the topics or the way I express myself, don’t come back. I have a writing style that is very personal and honest and I like that; if you don’t then maybe this isn’t the site for you. In my mind, kindness and creativity go hand in hand, so let’s make this a space to nurture and build.

 

2. Please express honestly, but respectfully. No haters please, and, if you don’t agree with what someone writes, absolutely share your perspective with respect. However, if you feel you cannot speak without berating or attacking the other person, be responsible enough to write about it in your own journal, not here please.

 

3. Please refrain from any slanderous commenting on any person’s character or history. This is a space for free expression, but name calling and negativity is simply not something I am interested in supporting. It is too easy and cowardly to objectify a person when you are not standing face to face with them.

 

What I ask on this site is that you take the same care and attention with your fellow writers that you would with someone you are staring at directly. Please remember, there are people on the other side of the words you read.

 

4. I want to make it clear that I live my life in search of wisdom and education. The most important thing for me is learning. I want to share this learning with those who care. We are all learning, stumbling and striving to figure this crazy “life-thing” out. It is hard enough out there without someone deliberately looking to beat you down. Let’s be sweet with each other and be sweet with ourselves in the process.

 

And I would also love to hear from you. What do you think is important when one is building such a forum? What types of things would you include in this list? Please, feel free to share your ideas and let me know.

 

Thanks for reading and I am excited to read about your thoughts and ideas, failures and successes, dreams and disappointments. . . it’s the stuff art is made of, it is what makes us human, and ultimately, it is the whole point and purpose of existence. . . in my opinion, of course. :)

 

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  • Laura

    OMG! <> is finally back! I thought we’ll not hear from you for a while more.. you disappeared and honestly I think everyone was missing your inspiring and honest words.. but what a surprise was to found that you have not just come back but that you want to really have this amazing “room” with some agreements, organizing it to be what it was meant to since the beginning, a place for self-expression and evolution in order to be more human and compassionate people and be inspired by art.. I thing you are really amazing and I love how you change this world.. you don’t know how much you inspire people all around the world, you are incredible! and I LOVED THIS POST!!

  • mm_matt

    Hi, I am so sad that you have to experience any negativity on this site, as I love reading your blogs, they help me through everday life and confirm for me even more that I agree 100% with your outlook on life and your enthusiasm to learn new things and experience all the feelings that you can in life, not to mention that I love you and will always follow your future endeavours, I alse loved you in Smallville and your personality inspires me to be a better person and I am so interested to hear what is going on in your life and how you feel. I am passionate about your site and I agree that any negativity such be as far away from possible from this forum because it ruins it for the people that love it! Me included!
    I think yout great Allison and just wanted you to know thta, ok rant over lol. Just keep being amazing and I’ll be happy and I’m sure all your other fans agree.

    Best regards

    XxXx

  • Adam Henry Sears

    Hi Allison, how are you? I have been a fan of yours for a very long time, and would like to say thank you for all that you do. You are an inspiration to many and I commend you on your personal efforts. To grow as an individual among the swarms of “individuals” who duplicate themselves after their peers is a challenge that few wish to undertake, and fewer still actually do. I commend you and encourage you to continue pursuing the wisdom you seek in spite of all opposition. “Nosce te Ipsum/Gnothe seauton.”

    For your ideas above, I have some suggestions. I have been witness to many disasters called well-intentioned forums, but have also been privileged to be part of a few successful ones as well. Perhaps there are some notes here that may help.

    My first suggestion: Layer the forum into at least two large divisions, one public and one private. The public forums may be accessible by any fans who stumble upon your site. There, they might want to learn how to become involved on a deeper level. The private forums are accessible to those hand-selected members who perhaps show the traits of character you wish to incoporate into a body of peripatetics (ie.: those who show respect, honour, humility, and promise) who might discuss/debate the philosophical issues you wish to explore. Tagging these members might require a little bit of observation and discernment, but with diligence and time it could be done. Tagging should be private, though, because this may seem “unfair” to those who lose out. That is the reason I included humility in that above list of traits; it should be apparent. To learn anything of philosophical merit, one requires humility. When I say humility I don’t mean self-abasing lowliness or meekness. I mean free of self-righteousness, pride, and arrogance, and bearing a willingness to learn; an open-mindedness that goes beyond that of any normal set of tolerances.

    My second suggestion: Include some common-day issues in the public “testing” area to see how people handle each other. This will help ferret out the weaker consciences. This may cause a little bit of commotion, but discussing issues is key here to serving your purpose.

    My third suggestion: Reserve the right to boot anyone, including your dearest friend, if any of your posting rules are broken. Perhaps a strike system with expulsions and probations and/or forgivenesses for “serving time”, etcetera, could work?

    My fourth suggestion: I have seen that electing moderators from among the general populace tends to cause dissension. If the forums are set up with moderators already in place, those who sign on as members will tend to be less agitated about any favouritism you’ve shown. Not knowing who the moderators are seems to be a good thing.

    My fifth suggestion: You might want to keep it small at first, especially if you’re going to want to oversee much. Having a smaller forum setup seems to help with congestion and the level of maturity displayed in your average member.

    Of course, these are suggestions only. Take them as you will. I hold onto them only as a fan does the wind: briefly and with intent to be cool about it. :)

    Thanks for the opportunity to share. Take care of yourself and make your day a great one.

  • Briana_D

    It’s very easy to forget there’s a face behind the written words you see on your screen, its extremely easy to belittle and antagonize someone hidden behind a keyboard. But on the same token it seems easier to open yourself up and share a little more of yourself when there’s that safe zone that the internet creates, at least until some jerk kicks off his high horse because you are wrong, they are right and absolutely have no regards for other perspectives, those people are the ones that lose. They lose out on everything a place like this has to offer because they come in with a mean mindset ready and prepared to mock. I almost never comment (I’m a little shy even when behind a computer screen) but your words inspire me to branch out and try new things, to embrace new opportunities and ignore the anxiety building in my chest and my racing heart beat as I step outside my comfort zone. What I read echoes in my mind and reassures me that it will be most certainly worth it. I had my formal education and graduated the same time Smallville was coming to and end but you never stop learning. You can learn something from every person you come into contact with whether it be a Professor lecturing in front of a classroom, a random stranger met at an airport or your tiny little cousins. While looking for a job in my actual field of study I’ve been babysitting and I’ve learned more from the kids I’ve watched then I ever could have imagined. From learning my 7 month old cousin marvels at a game of peek-a-boo, to the 18 year old special needs girl who laughs hysterically every time I sing a silly french song, to 12 year old cousins who some how grew up and sees and says things wise beyond her years (mostly because its hard to remember she’s not the 3 year old who used barbie buggies as skates anymore). This was just a way to bid time until I find a “real” job but this past year has been surprisingly rewarding without the “scorecards” telling me how I am learning. This is a place for me to remember that even though I am done school I don’t just stop learning, I just stop being so aggressive and tedious about it which is definitely an improvement. But I suppose with all the haters you have to take some bad with the good and even then there is something to learn from their contrived ignorance, they make me make a conscious effort to maintain my open mind and appreciate the difference of being different.

  • Laura

    Just some thoughts and sorry for the bad english, hope you understood.. I speak spanish :)

  • Deni

    Allisson,

    I’m so sorry to hear that some people said negative things about your last blog. Keep the good comments and continue writing your blogs and doing what you like. I’m sure that there are lots of people that love them. Your idea is great! I love to check if there is a new blog when I have time. Your blogs are great! I wish I could write like you :)

    xoxo from Brazil

    Deni

  • luigi di nichilo

    Darle la oportunidad de “libre expresion” a todos los participantes del foro…( todo tipo de arte, visual… auditiva o sensitiva) mediante imagenes o videos….
    Es una buena manera de compartir los sentimientos interiores de cada uno de nosotros y la forma de expresarlos.

  • Becky_B

    First of all, Allison, I adore your website. It’s a lovely treat and your blog simply rejuvanates me. And you’re right, of course. There is a person on the other side of our words. I also agree that an education isn’t always obtained sitting at a desk inside a crowded classroom. Wisdom is simply waiting for us to seek it, but we must take that first step, wherever that might be. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with us and I look so forward to reading more. And by the
    way, I have a kitty named Chloe and she’s a very big fan of yours:)

  • luigi di nichilo

    wisdom and freedom…

  • DavidHayes1956

    Another quote that can serve as a guideline:

    “Before you speak, think -Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Will it hurt anyone? Will it improve on the silence?”

    Sri Sathya Sai Baba quotes (Indian Spiritual leader, b.1926)

  • http://www.facebook.com/ageber01 Alexander G. D. Eberle

    I think that some of the previous comments summed it up very well. It’s really hard to control the internet. There are many “trolls” out there that are just trying to get attention by any means necessary. Sometimes the only way to detour them is to simply ignore them. I really like what you are trying to do here and I hope that this can end up becoming an enlightening experience for all.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Socratesbiker Pablo J. Vera G.

    Totalmente de acuerdo contigo Allison, y al que no le guste lo que escribes ”Buenos dias y hasta luego”…

  • http://twitter.com/SUCKMEISTER Timmy Suckmeister

    Wow…I’ve never read any “negative” comments posted on this site.

    • http://www.manton.karoo.net/index2.html 3tesla

      If you subscribe to a blog entry, then you’ll get any dodgy posts e-mailed to you before they get taken down.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ben.guez1 Ben Guez

    Nice thoughts Allison, I would advice you to read the “World of Sophie”. An amazing and fascinating novel about philosopher through a exciting story.

    Hope you found a spot WiFi.

    “It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers.” James Thurber

    A random French

  • kathylynnbrown

    Allison,

    I learned a long time ago that the world around us is full of negative people. I am glad that you set these guidelines for everyone to follow. I am a member of B.A. STAR. People who try to bully others just makes my blood boil. Everyone should have the right to express themselves without having to worry about someone threatening, cussing, or making fun of them. The world is a scary place and it’s not fair that we have to be scared to express ourselves. I am so sorry that your blog has fell victim to such cowardliness. I wish you all the best.

    Kathy-Lynn Brown

  • bien.aimee.xoxo

    You are just wonderful. My heart lights up whenever I see that you have posted here, and I am always intrigued and encouraged by what you share. Thank you for being open, honest, inviting, and transparent. These qualities are hard to find these days, but they definitely exist if one is willing to search in the right way. You are yet another who has been generous enough to create an environment that is conducive to just that, and for this I am so thankful. Keep up all that you are doing. You’ve always been a favorite artist of mine and I’m confident that you shall remain so. Peace, love, and cupcakes! -Michelle

  • Aysha1113

    Hey Allison,

    Sorry that you were getting so much negativity on such a beautiful post, especially since it was so honest and came from a good place.

    I think that creating a forum where people can candidly but respectfully discuss life-bearing issues is a wonderful idea and your rules fit the bill to get this show on the road. You definitely need moderators on this board, which you clearly have, but is there an option to screen a post before it is posted? I am not terribly forum-savvy, but perhaps someone can sift through the posts before they are actually published?

    I am so excited to be part of this world with you, Allison. You inspire all of us to think beyond our realm of habitual and typical ways of thinking. You have already posed a lot of great evocative questions in the past, and I can’t wait to see more of this type of structure unfold!

    Easier said than done, but don’t let those negative comments blemish your spirit. You have many people who support you (including me) and are touched by you as a person, not just by the characters you have played. You have force to be reckoned with.

    Thank you for creating a place for us to evolve our intellectual and spiritual selves. That takes a lot of guts.

    -Aysha

  • Raul Medina

    So Allison how soon can you start this? :D
    Im already exited….. FYI ive been reading this blog for a bit XD ive seen almost no negative posts :D that proves that you shouldn’t worry about them haters(: just be you, and help end this incessant trolling.

  • Victor

    Hello Allison, there will always be a chance for certain people to give negative comments on almost any site. Either public or private, no personal blog or site is safe from criticism. Filtering is a good idea, all kinds of people are criticized and judged by what they write and pretend to see the writer in that small world of a piece of writing. If you want I could share you my own personal experience something that would inspire you, it is just a short story I could share with you about something I had when I was a kid. Just contact me if you would like to. VJDL23@yahoo.com.

  • Adam Wilmer

    I have no great wisdom to add to everything everyone has already said. I can only hope to add my own perspective. Not exactly Faulkner, but here it goes…

    There is nothing wrong with your ideals. You do not need to alter your expectations, or adjust your websites mandate to better accomodate its purpose. Fostering and nurturing the best and most creative aspects of an individuals learning process is both admirable and laudable. It also, unfortunately, will make you the source and focal point for all those, who intellectually, stand more for ingorance and derision, than hope.

    Like a true light bringer, and bastion of educational fortitude, you WILL find more than your fair share of spelling errors, ham-fisted, thoughtlessness and just good old fashioned stupidity. But to expand the light metaphor, “a light in the dark is bound to attract a lot of bugs.”

    Just remember, we all have goals, we’re all milling around in the dark, heading in a direction; some of us hand and hand, some of us…. bound for head-on collision. How we react to those who upset us, not only affects those around us, it defines us as people, and more to the point, is the true test of tolerance and education. Which is the point of all this.

    Just remember, those who naysay and condemn others, are themselves lost and condemned, and need more understanding then can even be imagined.

    • http://www.manton.karoo.net/index2.html 3tesla

      > “a light in the dark is bound to attract a lot of bugs.”

      How should we feel (and/or think) about those moths who come to harm in the heat or flame?

  • johnathan nakamura

    Guess I wasn’t paying attention, didn’t see any flame. Maybe I should be quicker to notice . . . all the . . . hate ‘n stuff.

    Any time anyone wants to produce a headscratcher for us to mull over, I’m game. Sounds like a pretty decent way to spend a little time. What do we start with?

  • BOUROUX

    Hi Allison
    It’s amazing, you write blogs, you share your thoughts with us since 5 years.
    At first, you wrote very often, you’ve even made a 40-day blitz.
    I remember all the nights spent writing comments. It was really a great intellectual gymnastics. With the help of Lydia we translated 164 blogs to your ChloeSullivanSite French fansite.
    It is a pleasure to find an early year’s commentator David.
    I commented on almost all your blogs trying to be honest with my values.
    Your blogs have generated all kinds of emotions, joy, curiosity, concern, sadness or pride. With frequent and diverse interactions we sometimes say negative things in a goal that we wanted constructive.
    Sometimes our prejudices, our beliefs and concerns we are writing negative things and I regret it. We are human.
    As a webmaster of a fansite, I obviously look forward to seeing you in new projects. We had the pleasure of seeing you for 10 years in the role of Chloe for which you have revealed to us your incredible talents of actress.
    Good luck in your new role in Wilfred.
    Thank you again for this blog and I agree with your vision.
    I would love a small section on your art projects
    Take care of you.

  • Nick

    This is my first time posting here and I’m a little nervous, so I apologize if I ramble or digress frequently.

    Like a majority of the people who post here, I’m a huge fan of yours. I was actually anti-Smallville (I’m one of those overly analytical DC fans) for a while until a boredom and a coupon from Borders allowed me to get the first season for about $10. And after about ten minutes, I was completely and utterly hooked…and in love with a spunky blonde with a ten-billion gigawatt smile, expressive green eyes and the ability to sling one-liners as effortlessly as breathing. I turned off the show, pulled out the episode guide and looked at cast list. I had to know who was this awesome gal that was playing this Chloe Sullivan (whom I’d never heard of).

    **Chloe Sullivan – Allison Mack**

    “Hmmm. I must learn more about this Allison Mack. Where does she come from, what else has she been in, does she have any talents? I must know!”

    A bit of browsing brought to various sites…and then it brought me here. And I began to read. And read. And read. And the more I read, the more respect I had for this Allison Mack…with her interesting sense of humor and eclectic taste in movies and projects. As time passed, I bought more and more seasons of Smallville and visited this site more and more. By Season Eight, I was checking the site daily for anything…a blurp, a poem, a poorly worded missive on why you shouldn’t wear heels…anything, really. And like, most Smallville fans, when I found that the show was ending, I was heartbroken. No more Chloe. No more Allison. No more me screaming “DAMNIT, DC…JUST PUT HER IN THE COMICS ALREADY! SHE’S EARNED IT!” at my TV. And then I thought to myself…she’s been doing this since I graduated high school. She’s earned a break. I’m sure she’ll be back. She’s an extremely talented gal…someone will toss her script after script. Whatever she does…I know I’ll be interested in it.

    And there’s always her website.

    What I love about your site and you is that you have an incredible sense of humor and a zeal for life that only a select few people possess. You talk about things that actually interest me. And you often give us a glimpse into what you’re thinking and feeling and that, to me, is a gift to be cherished. I don’t always agree with what you say, but I respect your right to say it and I respect HOW you say it. And I feel that this site, unlike some celebrity run sites (that will not name out of respect), can become an online Lyceum. And I’d be honored if you’d be my teacher. : )

    Keep being you…because the world needs you. You’re just…awesome.

  • http://twitter.com/cro_mag_kir Kirill Chuchelin

    Oh, first of all, You finally came back! I think, i am not the one who missed You, Allison. You wrote:

    > I don’t believe educational institutions have a monopoly on learning.

    It’s really true. I figured out more than once that we can learn (and we do it) during our whole life and rather often it happens in some unexpectable places. Don’t know about other people, but as for me, i like it. I think it is very interesting to know new things, and doesn’t matter where it happens. Learning something new is the way for human to selfimprovement. I think everyone has to try to be better and better. Maybe it can be said that intension to selfimprovement must be one of the purposes of life for everyone. I think it’s just more interesting to live when you have goal in your life like this. And You also wrote:

    > I also believe the internet is an incredibly accessible forum for this type of community to blossom.

    I also guess so. Because of my profession + i am “Child of 21th century” so i spend not much, but huge time working on computer and into internet particularly. And it’s so beautiful that a lot of different people, even if they don’t know each other, can connect with each other and sharing their thoughts and view on life in such places like this. Besides, internet is also an absolutely inexhaustible source of knowledge and information. And you never know when and where, traveling over the internet, you will learn some new for you, as it happened with me not once.
    Well, Allison, maybe all these things i wrote are obvious, but i couldn’t do not write this. Please, keep posting such beautiful posts like this and keep shine brightly for us))) And, as usual, sorry for my English:)

  • http://www.manton.karoo.net/index2.html 3tesla

    “Negative and hateful” …

    Whilst expressing a negative or critical point is sometimes justified in the search for truth and harmony in life, I cannot think of any justification for hatefulness. Even when discussing the vilest dictators in history, there should be room for some compassion (or at least pity) for them as human beings; even if they are deeply flawed and degenerate. I know from personal experience that this attitude is hard to keep up, but it is one worth striving for, as I like to believe that there is always hope for redemption and restoration in the darkest of situations. Therefore I recommit myself to look for compassionate and forgiving thoughts in my situation (regarding my relationship with people who have manipulated and abused me emotionally in the past).

  • SamAV1979

    It took me some time before I decided to write a comment but i feel like, even if it’s a little thing, a private story, it might show the support i give to your idea.
    See, for different reason than yours, I had to give up school when I was young(er) (because I’m not that old…or so I hope).
    I struggled through life trying to find my place due to this and I was often lacking confidence…
    I was keeping myself from everyone thinking I wasn’t interesting and I am the kind of guy who just doesn’t want to be a pain or to be misjudged.
    So during a long time, I tried, like you to find wisdom around me ,to build my knowledge by myself.
    It was hard sometime to see others going to school while I had to make the painful decision to do something else with my life.
    I feel like I’ve lost a lot of my time forbidding myself to share my experiences and my ideas.
    So the idea of a huge, public and with no judgment “lyceum” is for me a beautiful idea, a wonderful project.
    Lately, due to you (and your beautiful (and personal) way to write), I had the envy to open up on the world and this changed completely my life!
    The last 4 years, I’ve learned more in wisdom with your blog than the 12 years before!
    In a way I wish I could thank you but well, if you read this message, you’ll know I am grateful to you.
    Lately, I opened so much that I decided to go back to school (btw, I’m 30 something years old so it’s an ordeal) and I’m about to finish my first year (out of 3).
    I know that in the end, it feels like it’s not really completely fitting with what you say about the “educational institutions having monopoly on learning” …but actually it does.
    I’m a “self-made” man who managed to enter in that school without having the mandatory diplomas.
    I earn my right though my self-education (thanks to literature, internet and the support of friends)
    All this to say, you are absolutely right.
    I really hope the minority of people that might not support your vision will not discourage you completely, nor will the behavior of the few …
    I, as I assume a lot of people, support fully your initiative and if I have the time, I’ll be glad to share with anyone open to your idea.
    Cheers and take care ;)
    PS: sorry for the eventual mistakes, I’ve also learned English by myself (thanks to music and books)

  • Robin Young

    Dear Allison and friends,

    I have been visiting this site since it’s creation and always enjoyed reading about the various subjects, ideas and thoughts and all the many responses, discussions and shared experiences and watch ideas grow and evolve…and hopefully expand my own knowledge by encouraging me to read, learn about so many new subjects and in turn ask new questions about my own life and own actions.

    I was so sorry to read the last entry stating that some posters have typed negative comments. The many people who read and place comments here have generally always left positive encouraging comments and I hope this continues.

  • cafall1

    Allison and friends,
    Here are a few sources for independent study and study groups for the “Great Ideas”
    1. The Great Books- A series published by Britannica and sponsored by the University of Chicago. They contain
    many of the greatest works in philosophy, politics, science, history, and literature.
    2. The Great Books/ Great Ideas study guides- Guides for independent and group study of the Great Ideas. You can find many old ones on ebay, as well as Great Books sets.
    3. Anything by Mortimer Adler- He was one of the organizers of the Great Books and the original study groups. He is an Aristotelian based philosopher who wrote many books I call philosophy basics for everyone.
    4. Existing internet great ideas study groups. There were quite a few when I was involved 10 years ago.

    Good luck joining the Great Conversation of Great Ideas,
    Lance

  • DavidHayes1956

    Maybe college may seem mystical to people who have never been there, but with college, like most other experiences, you mainly get out what you put it. If you think you will be exposed to literature and philosophy if you go to college, that is only true if you actively seek it. There are mandatory courses for the first year or two but they aren’t that different from high school classes. If you just want a degree, you can party through the whole time and get your piece of paper. I had professors that would simply sit there and say “Not good enough.” Then I would have to go home and self-evaluate and push myself only to go back for another “Not good enough.” These professors said it to everyone. Some said, “Yes it is” and that was it and they got by and got their degrees. Others worked and worked and worked for approval (and in some rare cases got it) and left college with or without a degree but with sharper skills through the thought and work they put in. I could have gotten to the same place with a stuffed teddy bear with a push button “Not good enough” message inside. Some employers don’t care what you learned in college. They want the degree only to show that you finished a task you started. But, back to the point I wanted to make, many curricula are focused on the work that you intend to do with your life that there is no broad based, get to know anything and everything kind of education involved. People tend to learn more from the fact that they are thrown together with a diverse group of people with the common ambition of getting an education in a field. Often it was the people that surrounded them coupled with the university resources that got the people where they were on graduation day. So … Allison … going to work instead of college … surrounded by talented people in the television industry (both experienced and learning and all with their own points of view) and using tools that were near state of the art in the industry …. then going home to hang out with other artists and people like the Dali Lama …. Do you think a college could offer you anything remotely as exceptional as the experiences you had? I think not. And I’m sure that you can get a degree printed up for “Master of Performing and Directing Arts” and get about a million people to endorse it for you.

    • http://www.manton.karoo.net/index2.html 3tesla

      I believe that most univerities give honorary degrees to deserving people at graduation ceremonies to acknowledge their great contributions in a given field of endeavour. An honorary doctorate confers the honorary title of doctor, which means, as I understand it, ‘one who is qualified to teach’. I think that that is very encouraging and liberating as it endorses the view that one can acquire the knowledge and experience needed to teach others outside of formal academia; you don’t need a college/university degree to be a good teacher, guide, leader, etc.

      • DavidHayes1956

        So, which sounds best: Dr. A.C. Mack or Allison Mack, PhD ??

  • http://twitter.com/Khalid_Hamdan Khalid Hamdan

    Thank you Allison for this post, before one month I have added Allison in twitter and today I found
    A wonderful post and I really want to talk and ask about this world and life and share my philosophy and wisdom.

    I am from Middle East (Arabian Gulf country). My English is not that good but I try to share what I have.

    The Difference in opinions is something normal , any disagreement is seen from different angles will be there is more than opinion, and this is very natural as a result of differences educational, a different degree of intelligence among the people.

    Listening the Different opinions is for who want to learn or correct idea of the point of view or information on any subject for discussion and receives views and differences of opinions with an open mind.

    My suggestions about forum:
    Creating forum which Suit your goals and suit your official website:
    1- In the forum has 2 main sections :
    a- Section Alison Mask contains :
    - (General): general discussions about Allison Mack.
    - (Career)
    - (Photo Gallery)
    .
    .
    .
    b- Section Other topics:
    - Philosophy and Wisdom (share your thoughts, ideas, opinions and experiences)

    The Advantages by creating 2 main sections:
    1- In (Section Allison Mack) anyone from fans and admirers (from any age) will post topics about Allison, so you will be listening the Interests, dreams and dissections from all your fans.
    2- In (Section Other topics) only one part (Philosophy and Wisdom)here everyone can post
    and share thoughts, opinions,.. .
    3- Only one section (Philosophy and Wisdom) I think this is enough because this is enough to listen and learn from who can post any opinions, general philosophy and wisdom.

    Thanks for the opportunity to share and Take care of yourself.

    Best Wishes
    Khalid Hamdan

    • Raul Medina

      2 sections wouldnt cover it there is more to it than that, there are subsections and subgenres that would be too simplistic

  • Raul Medina

    see Allison over 100 positive comments……. haters be running away(:

  • fanofthisblog

    1. Let me first state that I am only familiar with you through this website as it was linked to another site I was reading a few months back. I’ve never seen Smallville, though I did watch Opposite Sex once or twice back in the day. I simply come here for your writing. I find it honest, humorous, and thought provoking.

    2. I can’t imagine what, in your last post, would incite a bunch of negativity from people that I presume are “fans” of yours. If taking some time to enjoy your life, reboot, and find some perspective is controversial there may be no hope for this world after all.

    3. I like your spunk in gently reprimanding those who offended and insisting that this website will continue to serve it’s intended purpose.

    4. I like that you classify your spunk as naivete.

    5. I did go to college, and graduate school, but I learned more about life from a 1 year improv comedy program. I believe that opportunities to learn present themselves outside of our control and expectations. We can only control how prepared we are to learn at any given time.

    6. In short I hope that you change nothing (although I would selfishly prefer that you post more.) Your website is one of several oases of positivity that I enjoy visiting every so often to help me get through a frustrating day or week. Any open forum will eventually attract detractors. That doesn’t mean we can’t learn from them. Tonight I learned that some people take entertainment way too seriously.

    7. I honestly like your message of kindness and openness. I think its a message that people need to hear more of. I certainly do. (I’m a terrible person in real life.) That it comes from someone with a large forum and a desire to enact change for the better is pretty cool.

    8. I could learn more about philosphy. Like how to spell it correctly.

    • Raul Medina

      just add an o between s and p and you’ll get philosophy XD I especially love your post because you’re not a fan, therefore you are not biased towards thinking that she is a great person just because of the show, but because of herself. Cheers to you mate, you’re setting a perfect example that says her appearance on TV has nothing to do with her grandeur (I did tho, I admit that I first heard of this after first found this blog after getting used to watching her on TV, I’m not a hypocrite. I fully admit it, but I did fall in love with her blog and her personality if you can call it that that she conveys through her written words)

    • http://www.manton.karoo.net/index2.html 3tesla

      > I can’t imagine what, in your last post, would incite a bunch of negativity from people

      The focus of the negativity cannot be deduced as the offensive posts – which were hateful (i.e. far more than merely negative) – have, quite rightly, been removed.

  • Alba

    Hi Allison,
    first of all, I want apologize for my English because I don’t speak it very well (I am spanish).

    I think that go to university isn’t really important. It give you some skills which are very interesting besides the sspecialized knowleadge (be critical with the world, have a free thought, and can construct your our opinions). Besides that, it isn’t essential to develop yourself. So, I encourage you to satiate your curiosity and need to learn.

    Although I read your last post, I didn’t see the ‘bad comments’ that you talk about (it is a bit difficult to me understand English). In my opinion you have been very well make clear that this kind of behaviour aren’t welcome in this web. Even so, I would like to give you a piece of advice: don’t care about this comments. There are people’s opinion and, although they aren’t well-mannered, it is just an example about real life. There are a lot of people who enjoy wasting their time doing this things.

    I hope you can understand my comment. I will read your news messages :)

  • Mr_mhmmed

    Allison Mack,
    As I wrote before i had to learn English by myself in order to communicate with you and to thank you for your pure soul.
    Allison, you have to believe me when i say their is no human alive saw you, heard you or felt you can hate you or something you wrote. Be sure that any hater of this site don’t know you as your loved one know you.
    You are a great person and just thinking to do a great thing like this is totally expected from such a great person like you.
    Beautiful Allison I believe that you can do anything and you will do anything just have faith in yourself.
    I and many people fond of your honest, pure kind and crystal soul of yours…
    I would write for you millions of pages to tell you how great you are but it isn’t enough.
    In fact I don’t speak a lot but here i can speak and write for ever because i feel safe.
    I don’t know If you will see and read this maybe you will so you are a Beacon Of Light that give us hope and dreams to be perfect just like you…

    From person you had changed his life and still do…
    Mohammed Ali,
    ( Egyptian Fan ).

  • AV

    I am in love with the idea of sitting down with other people to throw around ideas and learn and discover new ideas and truths. That is probably what I liked most about school. Being out of that environment, it’s much like you said. You have to find those opportunities in your day, at the grocery store, with complete strangers.

    I have chosen a career path that puts me in direct contact with customers on a daily basis. I love talking to new people. I feel my day was most productive when I’ve had the chance to meet someone new and learn something new. Or even better, help someone who seemed less that excited about their day walk away smiling. There is no greater joy.

    Sharing knowledge is the greatest experience we can hope for in our lives. Thank you for working to create a place where such things are possible!

  • Thannmoore

    The problem is people need time too change. It never happens over night. People being mean about it is messed up! They will learn you can’t be a jerk too people and think they will listen. Do whatever make you happy. Don’t listen too people that talk trash. You will be happy at the end of the day. Believe me if I listen too what people said I would have given up on love a long time ago. But I still believe it out there some where. Good luck Thann

  • Olivia

    I agree, so many people get lost and think they can say whatever to whoever because they can’t see them or hear them. It’s not a computer program answering you. It is another human being created in the likeness of God. You are to respect that person and their thought even if you don’t agree with them.

  • Paul F

    Productive discourse requires civility, and the rules for this should be pretty obvious: no name-calling, no baiting, no faking of evidence. At the same time however an open and honest forum dealing with substantive issues will likely puncture some preconceptions, challenge some deeply held beliefs, maybe even bruise some egos. Disagreeing is not the same as being disagreeable, and challenging someone’s ideas, presenting evidence showing that a poster is mistaken, is not being hateful or negative. It is being honest. And courageous– because it is always far easier to go along to get along.

    I remember some of those posts that were deleted, and specifically the one containing a link to an expose in a reputable newspaper. The subject of the expose was the individual Allison had named as her mentor. Maybe the article is hogwash. Maybe it wasn’t. But the article was certainly germane to the discussion. If this site is to be a place that encourages openness and honesty, a place to truly hear others and adopt new ideas, a place of honest expression, then I think the participants ought to be able to read that article and make up their own minds. Evidence can be challenged, it can be discredited; it ought never to be suppressed. To do so is hardly consistent with philosophy. It is, in fact, its antithesis.

    • HAA

      Very well said Paul.

    • http://www.manton.karoo.net/index2.html 3tesla

      > specifically the one containing a link to an expose in a reputable newspaper

      That one (which I missed) doesn’t sound “hateful” at face value, therefore I, too, would have preferred for it to have been rebutted rather than deleted.

    • BOUROUX

      Allison, I’m sorry for the negativity but there could be a solution because you’re an amazing person with an amazing charisma.

      The avalanche of negativity in your last post was created for one reason.
      Many of your fans are concerned for you for this reason and do not understand.
      It is likely that this is due to our lack of information and our prejudices on the subject.
      On the Internet we have only negative point of view.
      It’s time to show the truth by destroying all negative points.
      We cannot leave the field open to people who write lies.
      Once the facts have recovered, there will be many fewer misperceptions and negativity.
      Transparency advocate by the Dalai Lama becomes important.
      This will improve the depth of the discussions that will no longer be influenced by false speculation.
      Takes care of you.

    • Thomas_D

      With no disrespect, I must disagree partially with what you have said Paul. And this is not aimed at you specifically, but more towards the “internet” as a whole. When someone such as Allison creates a place for discussion it doesn’t automatically mean anything and everything is fair game. It doesn’t just give people the entitlement of digging whatever they want up from the internet and then give them the right to expect (or demand) an explanation. Someone like you and I do not have lots of information (true or false) plastered over the internet and are not the same kind of target. Most people doing the questioning are “invisible” to the public, unlike Ms. Mack. But I do see what you are saying, Paul, and mean this with no hostility…. but I think on an Allison Mack website created by Allison Mack, she has the right to deal with things as she sees fit. People have a habit of spinning that which they want making it sound like it is something they need, or entitled to. However, they neither need or should get it – such as a challenge of evidence.

      The biggest mistake made by the internet as a whole is confusing the creation and keeping of order with “suppressing” information.

      • Beth

        I agree.
        Allison’s website should run the way Allison wants it run.
        She created this space with the intention of sharing her interests with those of us who share similar, not to create a method through which people could attack her life and those she shares it with.

        I commend her for responding the way she has and continuing to express herself through this blog.

  • Marillucas

    but a wonderful diamond mustn’t hide, it must shine!

  • Lkiefel

    BEAUTIFUL & Honest <3

  • Kelly

    Mood Disorder much?

  • Windsinger5

    Allison, you are a joy, a treasure, and SUCH an inspiration to me! I met you as Chloe Sullivan, but I saw the person behind the role and I wanted to know more… Ended up here and–WOW!–YOU’RE thinking ALL the same things I’VE been thinking and it just makes me feel all warm & fuzzy inside!… I would really like to connect with you, learn from you, grow with you, and work together towards all of these same goals. I’m a singer, songwriter, musician, writer, and artist, living and playing in a band here in southern Colorado–music with a positive socially and environmentally responsible message… If you would do me the honor, I would LOVE to be your friend, and I would like to invite you to connect with me on Facebook… http://www.facebook.com/wind5 … and to listen to my music and my message on ReverbNation… http://www.reverbnation.com/wendyemcgehee … I never could figure out how to do all those things at once either, but you’re the first person I’ve seen express all the same thoughts and feeling and desires… You seem like a kindred soul on the same path and I sincerely hope to hear from you soon, Allison… Blessings, Love, and Light, beautiful sister–YOU ROCK!!! :) ~ Wind.

  • Alva

    Hey Allison, I am someone who grew up with you. From watching Smallville in high school to years later just now see it conclude. I have a good understand of this day and age and also of what you were feeling in your “what now?” post up to your most recent. Having an identity to call your own is important but even more so, feeling you are living up to your potential, which is at times daunting. I struggled with finding myself for years. I still do, a lot. But one thing I go back to is this. We are not defined by our works. It seems so clear and concise yet why does it feel like its not enough. Simple, driven people at times more often then not fail to stop and just be. We need to weight our works with our expectations. We need to create a long list and make sure we are leaving a large enough finger print for people to see. I thrived on affirmation for years with my music. When that came to a screeching halt I panicked. I jumping into many other roles which I saw as better and told the world to see my new journey, hoping they to would see it as a step forward…

  • dishclothbandit

    if you want philosophy the Peaceful Warrior is a film about the true things in life
    the book is also good Way of the Peaceful Warrior
    it about gas station attendant who becomes a spiritual teacher to the young gymnast
    i high recomend it gives you a different view on life and the meaning as well it did for me

  • http://www.manton.karoo.net/index2.html 3tesla

    Hi Tabby!
    Any chance we could have ‘unlike’ or ‘report’ buttons on each post (not just ‘like’ buttons) so that we can register/flag disapproval of any hateful or flame-like content?

    • tabbymarie

      I am not sure if the system we are using has that but I will look around.

  • Anonymous

    I guess I just feel a bit confused. When you stated the name of your “dear” friend, whom you must be aware is a polarizing figure to say the least, what were you hoping to gain? Even if he’s a wonderful guy who’s gotten a bad shake in the media, surely you have to understand that fans and such would have a strong reaction.

    Why did you use his full name?

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/XYSWCJNO4JACCBEONWFTWLGPDQ Jesse

    You know, life is a conundrum. It has its ups and downs – its good and bads – all leading to an ultimate question by each person – one that I can’t post because it is as different for me as it is for anyone else who reads this post. And yet, to tackle these questions head on is to tackle one of the greatest subjects known to humanity – learning about and from one another.
    I stumbled onto this site through a friend of mine telling me how there was this blog that delved into philosophy with some art (in the form of dance), musings, inspirations and poetry thrown in. I thought this was quite the combination so I decided to check it out. I saw the post entitled “Face to Face” and, because of the opening sentences, quickly read the “What Now?” post. I found it interesting and very refreshing that someone would bare their soul in that way. I agreed with one of your last statements that you need to focus on a different question. I have stared “What Now?” in the face before and the answer that worked for me was “I don’t know, let’s see.” Then I would go out and do something – maybe watch a bowling league for 20 min, mimic their form and techniques and then try them myself. I got a job that I was interested in and have worked there for a while (moving onto something else in the next few months now). Or drive an hour away for a free burrito. Friends and family asked me why I did those things. I replied, “why not?”
    So, as our journeys have led us to that question in different ways, it is still there as a sign along the highway. “The question “What Now?” is coming up, decide which exit to take. I believe the route you are taking in the form of a forum is a noble one – one to aspire too.
    I don’t know if you read these posts – from the indication of having someone take down the hateful comments on your last post, I may never know. This is my first time on this site and my first post so I guess I learn this in the near future. I do want you to know that hateful comments, to me, are just as important as nice, thoughtful comments. Humanity is like life – the ups and downs and so forth. I used to be in the army and I could see a kernel of truth in even the worst treatment I went through. Because as bad as humanity can be, I always see the need for love in them – and, more importantly, the need of acceptance. This need of acceptance is what drives us to need to know more about each other – to learn more about everything in this life. It helps us learn from and endure the worst, most hateful comments. It helps us learn to not treat others the way we’ve been treated badly.
    I know that I advocate learning from the good and the bad and that people may not agree with this. What I do know is that in this point of my life, through the acceptance of this philosophy, I have self-esteem oozing out my ears. I have this because, through the good and the bad, I took note of how I reacted. This inner reflection has led to a strong definition of myself. I can and have withstood a lot because of this. Thus, it isn’t ignoring or trying to get rid of the hateful comments, it is how you respond that will help yourself and the forum. Gandhi responded in kind to those who oppressed him. Martin Luther King Jr. did as well. It was the response, not ignoring them, that benefited others. To be sure, the people that were oppressing them did not change in an instant – it took time, and some never changed. Yet, humanity as a whole learned from it. Without them and their response, we wouldn’t be where we are today.
    I know this was long, and it rambled a bit. But I just wanted whoever read this to know that this goal of an open brain gym forum, although seemingly lofty, is attainable. In fact, from reading the other comments on this post, is already within reach. My suggestion would be to have a weekly/monthly discussion topic so that people can have a direction for their posts as well as allowing others to start topics. As you said, Aristotle lead the discussions. Be willing to lead them too.

  • Zsolti

    Szia Allison!
    It is a hard stuff I have seen, a really ”to-be-or-not-to-be”-effect. But I remember the following sentence. ”The purpose of life is to live it…” What does it mean? Should you live others life or find your own happiness? Which one is ”richer experience”? A formal or an undiscovered formula? A regular or an improvisation live theater? Yepp, burning questions, but I agree with you and think honestly, you are on the right track. The educational institutions have not a monopoly on learning and it was not a waste of time to look for interesting teaching and learning methods. If you choose your mentors carefully, your human value will be benefit from this lifelong ”journey” and your caracters will be better and better.
    Thanks for sharing and do your best!

  • Vincent Bierbach

    Ms Mack, You are inspiring.

    I wish to return the favor.

    adeyeightmusic.com

    This is the woman I am spending most of my time with. She is currently seeking the attention you received as an actress. I hope I can use your story to better navigate my future.

    Saturn returns. ;)

  • Raul Medina

    See Allison so far most of the people in this site have just told told you what an inspiration you are to them. I would die happily if I ever got to meet you, and got an autograph, or perhaps a hello if you passed me by on the streets. Everyone here has gathered and commented on how brilliant, charismatic, and excellent you are. I especially love your writing skills, at a first glance when I first read your blog I thought, this isn’t the blog of an actress, maybe a writer by the same name but not the same person :D hahahahahah You are a wonderful and inspirational person, and I just can’t wait until your dream of the “learning zone” begins. Carry on, and dont let anyone bring you down(: I really hope you are reading these comments tho, and not just having someone read them for you, and summarize them. :b Oh well, cheers XD HAPPY CINCO DE MAYO! (today is my day (^_^)/ mija, thats how this Mexican rolls XD)

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