I just spent the day in New York City alone. I love it! My favorite place to be alone is one where I am never physically alone.

I realize that spending time introspecting right now would be the best thing for me and yet this is also the most challenging. So, like a mother holding her baby’s hands as the baby takes her first steps, I will compassionately carry myself into the depths of me, nurturingly allow the fears of looking inside to fall away.

Alone in public.

OK, so I don’t have enough guts to sit physically alone in silence for a full day, but I can do it when I am in a pool of humanity. I sit in cafes and watch, compare, read, draw, and write. Thinking is in there as well.

Be gentle with ourselves. Enjoy this life time. We don’t know where we go from here. But I am sure I love what I have, I am blessed. So, I will show my gratitude through joy. Or at least I will try.

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  • Ron St.Amant

    on April 24, 2009 at 10:29 pm

    I always enjoy going to the movie theatre very early, and often get a chance to sit in a quite massive room alone with my thoughts. Once I went and was by myself for 30 minutes while the theatre played Vivaldi over its luscious sound system…that was like heaven in a comfy chair.

  • Robin

    on April 24, 2009 at 11:48 pm

    I’ve only visited New York once, but it is an amazing city, be it sitting alone in a cafe, sitting on the steps of the New York Public Library between Patience and Fortitude, walking through Central Park, waiting to meet some one at Grand Cental Station …all great places to watch the World pass by.

    Whenever I sit alone and watch the events pass around me I can’t help but imagine what unique stories each person has, where have they just been and where are they going?
    I guess sometimes by we don’t see our true selves by merely looking in a mirror, only a distorted reflection, sometimes we have to look at how others around us act and reconise the same similarities that we all share to help understand our own actions and feelings.
    What makes each of us act the way we do? A frown here,a smile there, a shrug of the shoulders, just as we might relate the actions of characters in stories be it positive and negative, regardless of the specific events or setting, so we reconise and hopefully understand the behaviours in others and hopefully better understand ourselves…

    Anyway sometimes it’s just nice to sit in a cafe having a cup of tea or a late while eating a blueberry muffin or a choclate eclair and and let ourselves just be!

  • Dream_Walker

    on April 25, 2009 at 12:38 am

    Heh, i love being alone sometimes, i find being massed by other people most times aint so great cause most people are like grey mass going along they usual days never looking back or around them. I sometimes enjoy just sitting back and watching others go about theyre business it seems so futile yet it is what keeps us going 😀 We humans are one odd bunch ^_^ P.S i prefer sitting at backyard watching stars at clear sky in the night to the rush of downtown w00t, Peace DW

  • Soniclore

    on April 25, 2009 at 7:02 am

    If you are comfortable with yourself, you are never really alone.

  • Ranma-chan

    on April 25, 2009 at 3:18 pm

    I also know this feeling, to be alone in public. I think people needs also a space for ownselves, to go to wherever I want, to see whatever I want, to know people, to choose every decision you want..etc.
    3 years ago I was like that because I decided to leave for university and start a new life, so I become to be alone in public walking in Barcelona city (I’m from Spain ^_^) and was really really good and necessary for me, for look for a space and time to think about my life.
    Was very important in my life, and now I want to feel like this again to have a breake now (very stress now XD).
    See you Allison! whish you the best !

  • Jesse

    on April 26, 2009 at 9:17 am

    Hi Allison

    You were in New York…. I hope you had a great time, so many places to see, me being a native. There is nothing more compassionate then a “mother holding her baby’s hand” or a perfect parental love, that will lift you up when you are feeling fearful or uncertain. Wow, I know you will make a great mother someday. It’s funny but I always have a sense of being alone even when I am with my friends or a large group of people. I guess if you are with the right person you wouldn’t feel alone anymore, I don’t know; sometimes I think if you are with the right person it can fill the room. Allison again I hope you went some place nice in the city haa and the experience was enlightening looking into depths of your heart. Ummm


  • thomas

    on April 26, 2009 at 9:59 am

    May your love grow. Bless you.
    Try praying for everyone you see you and will find joy everlasting.
    As I walk down the street in Brooklyn I pray for everyone I see and watch as the Lord brings smiles to the faces, peace to their souls and joy in their hearts. Bless the Lord.
    Blessings, blessings and more blessings.

  • Allie

    on April 26, 2009 at 4:19 pm

    wow, I am SO jealous of you right now! i would give anything to be in NYC again, and be alone in public. It’s seriously the best ever isn’t it?
    Instead I’m in a flurry of final papers, group projects, final scenes, and studying, with entirely too many people to see and too much to do, lol.
    Sigh. Oh well, life is made up of seasons right?
    Anyways, hope that you are having a wonderful time, and hope that you get some good introspection time as well!
    (You should check out Cafe Lalo, if you haven’t been there already, it’s on the west side, I think 83rd street, it’s THE BEST CAFE. Seriously amazing there. It was featured in the movie “You’ve got Mail” as well…and that’s always a plus, lol)

  • Mark

    on April 26, 2009 at 8:33 pm

    That’s awesome and at times it’s great when you have some alone time to yourself and you think that you can do thsi forever. But after a while it gets kinda boring and don’t some company until they annoy or you just need some more me time. I haven’t been to NYC yet but I’m looking forward to the day when I go there for a visit.

  • Elena

    on April 26, 2009 at 8:50 pm

    This is my absolute favorite thing to do as a writer. 🙂

    Sitting at a table or couch with a luke hot cup of tea. Watching. Observing. Reading. Listening. Taking in all of the sights and sounds around you, without absorbing peoples energy. I’ve never been to NYC before. I would really love to be in a cafe or bookstore, seeing and listening to all that is around me. 😀

  • Silvia

    on April 27, 2009 at 12:19 am

    Alone in Public… I love it! It’s a nice thing, but also strange. I mean, how can anybody be lonely surrounded by so many people. Hence, as long as you are in public you are as less lonely as you are in company. That’s why a lot of people who love to be alone in public are scared to be all alone in an empty place. However, it’s fantastic for doing things such as writing, studying and so on.

    quote: “But I am sure I love what I have, I am blessed.”

    …the less reason you have to get flustered. 🙂

  • clay

    on April 27, 2009 at 1:36 am

    Can’t say that I’ve ever tried to be alone in public…sounds interesting though. My most introspective moments have always been in the fall. There’s just something about walking through downtown at 3am with the leaves rustling along the streets and sidewalks that gives you the impression of being the only person left on earth…..it’s an eerie yet inspiring feeling. I look forward to seeing what you learned 🙂

  • Ruthie

    on April 27, 2009 at 3:17 pm

    Still, as a mother of four young children, I find one of my favorite things to do in my rarely found free time is to wonder somewhat aimlessly by the river at a nearbly park, sit under the lovely footbridge, lounge on the backsteps of a log cabin that’s over a century old, and just BE. I love that.

  • Rafael Ribeiro

    on June 27, 2009 at 4:29 pm

    Hi Allison.

    I’m loving reading your blog.

    You always write important things, and if
    everyone pretice doing something good
    every day, everything would be better;
    let’s enjoy every second, and do what we
    should to.


    God blees you, always loving you.

    Rafael Ribeiro.

  • inspirit

    on April 25, 2010 at 4:06 pm

    Hi Allison,
    One of my favorite authors is Dr. Wayne Dyer. There’s a line from one of his books that reads “The wilderness is therapy. Even if you live in a big city, just walking on the grass bare feet will make you feel better”. I love that because I actually live in NYC, but I find that by just taking the time to spend alone and with nature is very peaceful and relaxing. Great blog. 🙂

    P.S. I think I saw you by the way! Were you walking on W 3rd St (btw MacDougal-6 Ave) at around 3pm last Thursday?