Have you ever noticed how easy it is to simply check out when you are not home?

I have been traveling for the last few days and I can really see how I literally check out of myself, my objectives, my goals, and all that jazz when I am away.

Like, somehow, when I am not home I’m a totally different person, I am someone who doesn’t pay attention to calorie intake, nor do I feel the need to stay consistent with the things I want to achieve on a daily basis, aka depthy blogs, exercise, meditation… all that stuff…
It is literally like I simply say, “adios” to any sort of dreams or ideas that I had and have at home and replace them with whatever is directly in front of me.

And the weird thing is that it makes sense, it all makes sense in the moment.

“Of course this cake has fewer calories, it’s not an at-home cake, therefore it must be magic and doesn’t count”. Whoa… What totally delusional universe am I living in?

So this is again, a random blog with random thoughts and unspecified intention. I’ll be back on track when I check back in to my home self tomorrow.

Until then…


Add yours Comments – 75

  • Brittany

    on September 1, 2008 at 12:04 pm

    Hey Allison, I feel the exact same way. When I check out or travel I leave the boring Brittany behind and just breathe the air and be who ever I want to be. Like a fesh start and doing something spontanious or completely out of my shell. It’s fun, but sometimes you just want to crawl back in your home-self and try to remember how you felt before when you had left. Getting all those feelings of home back and knowing your habits and doing your regular stuff. I think everyone needs a check out moment. It helps me to explore more of myself and to really see all the sides of me! And it gives you a hell of a break! Random: I’m extremely hyper-ventilating right now. 3 days ago I found out there was going to be a Comic-Con in my city next month! And I saw on the add Erica Durance being a guest from Smallville!!!! I’m super excited to meet her but I wish you were coming too. I really want to meet you in fact its been set in my goal list since I first watched Smallville! Bye for now! Britt XXXOOO

  • alicia

    on September 1, 2008 at 12:28 pm

    Travelling is an experience that takes me out from the everyday rush and routine……when i ´m travelling the present is all that matter.

  • Lexie

    on September 1, 2008 at 12:31 pm

    I am really loving this place. Thanks you guys for being here and thanks Allison for creating it.

    Arash, I also love your story. Did you ever tell your cousin or grandma the truth? I think honesty is one of the most important traits a person could possess, but the problem I’ve dealt with is not realizing I care so much what others think about me. It’s like I…like Allison said…create a delusional universe where I can talk myself into and out of anything. Therefore, I’m not always honest with myself.

    Psalm 139:23-24

    “Search me, O God, and know my heart;
    test me and know my thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of eternal life.”

  • Gnome

    on September 1, 2008 at 12:59 pm

    Hey Lexie,

    Thanks for sharing the video.

  • Robin Hebert

    on September 1, 2008 at 1:24 pm

    I am sooooooo grateful for everyone here. Allison, I can relate to what you posted so much, and the funny thing is, when I’m on vacation, that’s the one time I don’t give myself a hard time for blowing it, be it food, or lack of a routine because I’m out of my natural habitat…so I figure, that’s how it goes…its a vacation for goodness sakes.
    So, maybe dont be so hard on yourself….we all need to take a break and have a fresh perspective on things.
    Lexie, I can relate to what you wrote..I’ll set up all these ideal things for the future and when those days arrive, its like it was far from what I expected, or planned….how do we keep our joy amidst disappointing things in life? Some people seem to be gifted with automatic joy. My husband is one of them…and he’s not clueless, he just chooses to be happy….what a pair we make! LOLOL

  • Aysha

    on September 1, 2008 at 2:09 pm

    Amen sista. I feel the same way. It is as if I change my surroundings, I automatically change my responsibilities and obligations. I feel justified to escape my real world and enter a world where there are no dire consequences. Maybe that’s why we like to vacation?

    I hope your adjustment to coming back home is quick and smooth 🙂 I know at least for me it can be really difficult to get back into the swing of things once I’m out of the loop for a while.

    Looking forward to hearing more of your musings! They are always thought-provoking and really make me acknowledge my own beliefs and ideals.

    See you soon!


  • Puffy

    on September 1, 2008 at 2:12 pm

    “To get away from one’s working environment is, in a sense, to get away from one’s self; and this is often the chief advantage of travel and change.” ~Charles Horton Cooley

  • shinefloyd/luigi

    on September 1, 2008 at 2:44 pm

    I am very busy… working and painting all my house…too.
    but I am here… at least for a few minutes.
    I have time too for… exercise, meditation, play the guitar…
    wow… I can’t believe it!! only in 24 hours!
    ok… Hasta la vista baby… Adios.
    Mañana será otro día, quizas un poco más tranquilo.
    Espero que sigas escribiendo un nuevo blog todos los días, porque todas las personas que visitamos tu pagina web… nos sentimos muy bien… leyendo y compartiendo cosas todos los días.
    muchas gracias.

  • arash

    on September 1, 2008 at 3:01 pm

    Lexie, yes I am cool with my cousin about it, he just got his masters from a University in Maryland and those childhood memories are things we laugh about when we get together. And if heaven has internet my grandma should know about my story by now.

    About allison’s cake. Well it has milk which is very good for you, it also has some eggs, sugar and cream provids a lot of energy for your body. But I see what are saying, I see people who smoke 2 packs of siggarets a day in McDonalds having double cheese big mac with “DIET” coke. Even the jiminy goes; “I have nothing, just do whatever you want”.

  • MaRviN

    on September 1, 2008 at 3:06 pm

    My father has just died, 5 days a go….nothing have sense in the moment. =(

  • arash

    on September 1, 2008 at 3:17 pm

    I am really sorry Marvin. I lost my dad 5 years ago and I still get tears in my eyes every time I live a memory of him. The only thing I can say is that I am sure he would love to see you smiling.

  • I'm Rachel

    on September 1, 2008 at 3:50 pm

    I feel for both marvin and arash. I too lost my Dad. I was ten.

  • The Friday Philosopher!

    on September 1, 2008 at 4:23 pm

    I’m sorry to hear about your losses guys. I’m sure we have all lost someone close to us at some point, but I can bet that despite my personal losses, I would’nt have a clue as to what you’re feeling personally, Marvin. Though as sad as you must feel right now, I’m sure that your Father wouldn’t want you to be too sad; I bet he would much rather you remember all the fun, happy moments you had together. After all, I’m sure those moments are what he wants to remember for all eternity.

    Take care


  • Gail

    on September 1, 2008 at 5:00 pm

    My ‘check out’ time is when sometimes I need a ‘break’ from being a mom at home and go to movies, shopping or out to eat with friends. Just even going for a power walk with a neighbor is enough for me to loosen up and have some ‘me’ time and not be a ‘mommy’ for and hour or too!

    I know that my daughter is my priority, but if I know she is safe at home while I am away I don’t feel guilty forgetting about pressures of life for a while.

    It’s ok to ‘stop and smell the roses’!

  • Nathiest

    on September 1, 2008 at 5:30 pm

    Getting to deep in your blogs hun. Really if it weren’t for the fact that you’re a cutie I would had deleted this bookmark awhile back. Lighten up yo! shit. lol

  • arash

    on September 1, 2008 at 6:16 pm


  • Gnome

    on September 1, 2008 at 7:37 pm

    I liked the guy (Nathiest). Pretty straight with the honesty.
    It’s not usual nowadays…

  • Sarynelli

    on September 1, 2008 at 8:04 pm

    Hey Allison,

    Since this entry is about traveling, I figured this would be a pretty good time to pose this question. But first a little background…

    …I was born in Orange County, California and I have lived there all my life. I was lucky enough to have parents who were born in Costa Rica, and every summer since I can remember I have been traveling to Costa Rica to visit my friends and family. I just graduated high school and, to make a long story short, I have decided to come to university here in Costa Rica, to be closer to my parents,(among other things) who are moving back after 22 years of living in California.

    Another part of me wanted to move because I thought it would be such an amazing experience. Granted, the Costa Rican culture has been part of my everyday life since I was little, but actually living and studying here is going to be an amazing adventure. Now the question is this:

    I have been here for three days, and having lived in Southern California my entire life, I am finding the adaption extremely difficult. My question is, how do you deal with change? What drives and motivates you to step out of your comfort zone and take that first step in attempting something that is completely unkown to you?

    I think you can probably relate to this question at this point in your life, with Smallville coming to an end, and the endless possibilities that await your career and your personal life. And to be honest, it would be great to hear some insight or advice on dealing with change at this point in MY life right now =)

  • MaRviN

    on September 1, 2008 at 10:24 pm

    arash,I’m Rachel ,The Friday Philosopher!

  • Ron St.Amant

    on September 1, 2008 at 10:28 pm

    My Dad passed away in May, just a few months after our second daughter was born. There was for me an overwhelming sense of disconnection, or perhaps ‘misconnection’ is a better term, because on the one hand I felt this tremendous loss and on the other there was this new life which brought joy.
    3 months later and I’m still not sure I’ve processed everything, so allow yourself as much time to just let emotions come to you as they will. We all grieve at different speeds, in different ways. Try not to force yourself to feel something, just take care of yourself and those around you and things will happen as they will. I hope you find the warm embrace of family and friends, and that your memories of your father ultimately are positive, empowering, and comforting.

  • David M. Kennedy-Farner

    on September 2, 2008 at 8:30 am

    I totally relate to this. Except it’s not when I leave. I barely have a grasp sometimes even when I’m home in my comfy chair with a good book. I constantly have to fight to keep my hold on remembering anything. Not like I forget my name or anything, but if I was supposed to do something important I have to beat it into my head otherwise it’s gone like a whisper in a crowded room.

  • Amanda

    on September 2, 2008 at 10:13 am

    I’m Rachel–you posted one of my favorite verses ever!!

    Lexie–I love How you live. I think Point of Grace’s last cd is one of my favorites. Heal the Wound is quickly becomming one of my all time favorites.

  • Dana

    on September 2, 2008 at 11:31 am

    I think sometimes it’s okay to just “check out.” Everyone needs a mental break once in a while, a chance to rejuvinate and not live life by such defined norms. Sometimes checking out is a great way to break out of a rut or break out of a pattern that isn’t really beneficial or productive.

    This reminds me of the quote “Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.” If you are checking out as a form of relaxation, then by all means, do it. That is, assuming you check back in at some point, hopefully with renewed energy and a fresh, positive attitude.


  • Dream_Walker

    on September 4, 2008 at 11:51 am

    Heh, yeah its really odd how we mind our daily business day to day, month to month and u dont even notice the time flying past You…. But doesnt it feel great…even luring to break the cycle, to bust out of the habbit? Thats why i enjoy travel, u just take all your belongings in 1bag, walk out of the door and without looking back You just go and see whats out there, and theres no regret only excitement and joy 😀 Cheers, Gj on the web ,lovin it <3 Peace

  • Allana O. S

    on March 15, 2011 at 3:36 pm

    LOL i actually do that all the time. i guess “home” is a thought out atmosphere, whereas when ya leave “home” there’s an urge to do something a lot different. The choices can be surprising.