“Comedy is tragedy plus time”
by Carol Burnett

I think that I found this quote so incredibly profound because I have developed this habit of over dramatizing things that I’m going through. In reality, when we step back and look at what we are doing in our lives, it’s all just an experience to enhance our own existence. No one is making us do the things that we are doing; we choose to do them. And then, at least in my case, I choose to stress out and be miserable while I am doing the things that I say I WANT to do in the first place.

Am I making any sense? Sometimes I feel like I am talking in circles.

THERE I GO AGAIN… over dramatizing and over-complicating things so that I am confused, stressed out and overwhelmed. I even do it with this blog. I spin around in circles trying to say things that are interesting and profound, when really the whole point of this thing is just to express my ideas and hear what you all think as well. Maybe some of you are laughing at the silliness of my pontification right now!

I’ll laugh with you. HA HA HA

Ok… So, I need to remind myself that everything is a comedy and, if I want, I can cut out the time I spend freaking out and make all “tragedy” comedy now. I just need to pull my head out of my bum and stop bringing the drama home from work.

Tom Welling said something beautifully enlightening to me the other day at work. He said, “In the end, Allison, it is everything and it is nothing. It is all just for the experience,” and at that moment, on the Kent Farm, with a man dressed in a silver body-suit flying behind us, I really understood what he was saying to me. And… started laughing! Every moment is about *that* moment, not about the next one I am going to live and not about the ones I just finished living. So I just need to enjoy the ride!
Like they always say “life is a journey”, I want my to be a fuckin’ fun one!

Ciao for this week and thanks for you patience!

Allison

Add yours Comments – 165

  • Melissa

    on October 1, 2007 at 7:58 am

    First, I just want to say I love you lots but I do have to say that I hated the curse word you used in this blog. I am not one to not throw a damn or a Sh%# out there but that word I think is so completely unfeminine and unattractive when said by a young lady. Don’t get me wrong I still love ya and think you are an extremely brilliant individual but I was just a little disappointed to hear that word coming from your normally intellegent blog. I relize they might not publish this one but I think if they don’t that is a little hypercritical. Why post only the 100% good ones and not hear some of the advice and normal post that you would see on any persons blog. I just think that you have alot of young fans out there who come to this site. Granted, I know they probably hear it in school but I think you should set the example being that they look up to you as a role model. Don’t be completely furious me Allison, I still love ya but I just wanted to give you some imput into what I thought of the situation….

    Anyway, despite the above mention word, I really enjoyed this blog and I agree that we have to live for the moment because life is made of moments and once the moment is gone, you can’t get it back, it’s gone forever. So, we should enjoy the experience of it while it last and take it for all it’s worth. I somtimes find myself worrying about things and than I sometimes look back and think ” I completely missed the joy and fun of the experience because I spent most of the time looking at the negative and now the experience is over and done with “.

    I think life is short and we need to live each day to the fullest and enjoy it with our whole being because before we know it our youth will be gone and we want to look back and say ” Yeah I did that and it was amazing !”. We have to have amazing stories to tell the generations that come after us and carry on the pattern of enjoying life to it’s fullest compacity…….

  • Derek Medrano

    on October 1, 2007 at 10:23 am

    your new site looks really good allison. Wish I knew how to change up my site, but I’m not so good on all those codes. Well best of luck to you this year. Your doing a great job. Smallville is my favorite show, and I was honestly going to stop watching at the end of last seasons finale.Lol but yea anyway. =-)

  • Nancy

    on October 1, 2007 at 5:51 pm

    Hi Allison!
    Here my first comment, finally!!
    Ok first of all, everytime I read you I can understand all that feelings and what you talkin’ about, because I feel the same thing. But I admire that part of you who lookin’ deep yourself and out of the world, when you find and answer for all that questions, feelings, worries we’ve.
    That it’s a gift you’ve. Tom it’s also a very good friend and said you a very good true. I know very well what he talkin’ about…
    I’ve to say that when I heard you for the first time in May at asylum conv (in england) when you talked about you’re travels experience and what you feel about that I almost cried, because I felt very indentified with you and that was amazing.
    So all my wishes for you, keep going with your great job and all my support too.
    Kisses and hugs 🙂

  • Blame Jim

    on October 2, 2007 at 12:31 pm

    The world is like a ride in an amusement park and when you choose to go on it you think it’s real because that’s how powerful our minds are. The ride goes up and down and around and around. It has thrills and chills and it’s very brightly coloured and it’s very loud. And it’s fun – for a while. Some people have been on the ride for a long time, and they begin to question; is this real? Or is this just a ride? And other people have remembered, and they come back to us to tell us, “Hey, don’t worry. Don’t be afraid, ever. Because… this is just a ride.” – Bill Hicks

  • Italo Giovani

    on October 4, 2007 at 6:38 pm

    Hi Allison, I was reading you posts (again and again).
    “No one is making us do the things that we are doing; we choose to do them. And then, at least in my case, I choose to stress out and be miserable while I am doing the things that I say I WANT to do in the first place.”

    This one reminds me a Dave’s song which says “Don’t loose the dreams inside your head. They’ll only be there until your dead”.

    Keeping talking about what to do, or not, and about what the people say to do… etc… Have you ever seen a promo video from DM9, called “The Sunscreen”? It talks a lot about think too much in what to do, or what you should. It is in a really simple way and make us really think about the worth of our actions….. in the end it says, enjoy the moment, enjoy where you are and smile!!! 😀

    Tks a lot!!!!

    Italo Giovani
    http://www.italost.com/smallville

  • Lasia

    on October 14, 2007 at 10:39 am

    Allison:

    I’ve been reading your blogs for a while now, but haven’t taken the time to comment until now. I find all of them highly enlightening and always come out of it with a new way of seeing things.

    Anyways, I decided to comment on THIS blog because I find myself feeling this way a lot lately. The main reason is that there’s a guy, and I cna’t seem to express the way I feel to him without it being taken out of context (either one extreme or the other), or when I do feel like I am expressing myself the right way, everything turns out to be a huge jumble of words that don’t make sense.

    And over-dramatizing? As a girl in high-school, I understand what that’s like. Everyone’s guilty of it, everyone is hypocritical about it. The fact that you came right out and admitted to being a “drama queen” — for lack of better words — adds another rung to my Ladder of Respect for Allison Mack. 🙂

    And Tom Welling’s quote is definitely a new outlook on life for me. I know that I spend at least half of my time wishing I could redo moments in my life, or fretting over what I’ll do in ten minutes or so. If I’m going to start enjoying my life and living in the present, rather than the past or future, there’s no better time than now!

    Thank you for your insightful words and providing the inspiring quotes that you do.

    And congratulations on all the success you’ve recieved in your career and life — here’s to much more!

    –Lasia

  • Enza Middleton

    on October 19, 2007 at 1:42 pm

    wow your life sounds pretty busy,i dont know what busy means…yet ,im in yr 9 at a convent in england i
    watch smallville all the time i would love to met you and the rest of the cast.i think its amazing that you have started a fund for your b-day prezzie there was this (quote) i heard in school when i was out on the playground me and my best bud were talking about smallville(as always) then someone in yr 11 was talking to a yr7 like they were a piece of gum on their shoe an the yr 7 reacted and begain to say only because i might not be your size, your heigt dosn’t mean you can stand their treating me like a piece of gum on your shoe…so look we are all in this world together we are all united as one because i am one of many we will stand up and fight but we need our brothers and siters to fight with us because god didn’t put us on this earth to fight as one so we will make him proud, the bully backed down and hung her head in shame then went on to say “count me in!” sorry if my sentences aren’t that clear or my spellings not correct im only 14 please write back i will be over the moon…thanks for taking time out of your busy plan to read this please show this to people you know it shows that faith and trust are out there you just have to dig deep and find what your looking for thanks love from Enza Middleton 14yrs old xxx

  • Thorsten

    on October 22, 2007 at 1:40 pm

    hi allison,

    i just want to say i really like the new episodes of smallville and the development of your character is so cool.

    i hope i will see you in some movies soon.

    keep up your good work and please dont change yourself, you are amazing

    greetings from germany

  • enza

    on October 23, 2007 at 8:56 am

    hi allison, i went on your website last friday and i read that deeply meaning words you got from tom and maybe because im only 14 i didn’t grasp the meaning behind those incouring words untill…i was at the ice rink with my cousin learning how to become a ice hockey player and i was skating along holding on to the sides trying not to fall, i was just about to prepare to give up when i thought of them words and i thought some people around the world will never get to ice skate with their family some don’t even know their loved ones and because i was in such deep thught i zoned out a fell on my right side (now i have a bruise) but it was well worth it to finally think for a change:) ciao for now bibi and asta lavista from england…enza x

  • lee

    on October 28, 2007 at 7:46 pm

    I am a Chinese, resembles exchanges with you, but my English is very
    bad, hoped you can see my message, I now also in China. I am front
    looked you develop “Exceed others in ability Biography” to know you.
    My English very is really bad.

  • KimberlyClaire

    on October 31, 2007 at 6:33 am

    Very profound, REALLY. I agree with you. I really think that it’s the experience that’s important. Easily typed, not always done. Sometimes it just hard to keep your chin up high when everyone looks down on you, you’re stressed and too much pressure in school and at home…Sometimes I just crack but then I would think, ” At least I learned something from it.” And as long as people like you continue to inspire people like me , my world will continue to revolve. Did *I* make sense? I’m from the Philippines by the way, 15, and I study in a regional science high school (where people don’t have enough time to breathe and take a break) but I still find ways to ALWAYS watch SMALLVILLE coz Allison’s there. haha. Au revoir, mademoiselle Allison! 🙂

  • joao marcos morais

    on November 1, 2007 at 1:24 pm

    hey allison gosh am so happy to talk whit you cuz am from brazil and am 12 am goin make 13 december 24 wish you could answer me what was the harder scene to make and why? I think you goin to make an awesome ep cuz I know its goin to be fun and you be a lot of action and I hope you stay 4ever in smallville whitout its goin be so bad and i think it sucks that I cant watch already season 7 cuz its goin start in brazil on 6 november hope you can remember me cause I am your biggest fan I hope someday I can be one actor like tom and have a partner like you my msn is podmania@hotmail.com and I wish you a lot of happines for the rest of your life and say eu gosto muito de voce kisses

  • you won't read this

    on November 3, 2007 at 5:37 am

    haha, i like how you said “pull my head out of my bum” and then at the end you just say “I want my to be a fuckin’ fun one!” which defeats the purpose of saying bum.. or maybe you really don’t like the word “ass…” anyway, i thought that was cute.

  • Robert schuh

    on May 25, 2008 at 8:19 pm

    Allison I’m a big fan of yours and Tom Wellings, Erica Durance I was wondering if you could give them my support and know both Erica and Tom are good enough actors including you to get the show Smallville to have a ninth season. I hope allot of other people feel that the show is strong enough to make it to those kind of seasons. You are all blessed with great acting abilities and wonderful personalities have a wonderful career in everything you do. God Bless

  • Lady Drama

    on June 8, 2008 at 7:50 pm

    Good night, miss Allison.

    This probably will sound really childish but my heart’s pounding like crazy of how happy I am. I recently started looking for information about Smallville and now I found myself in the blog of Allison Mack, the Chloe Sullivan I admire and respect. I’m so glad I’d found this page; I never thought that I would be comunicating with one of my idols but here I am, writing like a crazy little fan whose trying to control herself to not scream of emotion and wake up everyone in the house.

    Too childish, isn’t it? Sorry.

    Well, I’d read your last post and despite of the fact that I still have to grow up I have to say: “Congradulations, miss Allison. To be an over dramatizing person, you know how to get through that troublesome detail with a big laugh and a smile on the face”. I think everyone at some point of their lives tend to make ‘an ocean in a glass of water’ but what really mathers here is how do you deal with that ocean. Thank God you count with the advices of a wise man like Tom Welling —looks like he just knows what to say in the right moment, doesn’t he?—. You don’t have to worry about the drama, it’s just something that comes and goes; from my point of view, if someone says to you something like: ‘I NEVER forgot that everything is a comedy’…it’s a lie. Everyone has walked for that path, don’t care if they were adults, children or old aged. Well…that’s what I think.

    You know how to break that ocean with a big smile on your face and you have a lot of people by your side that will catch you if you ever fall. That’s great, it’s something to be thankful for. So it’s obvious that your jouney will be full of laughs and fun and that you’ll be enjoying it till the end.

    Oh, I forgot: English is not my lenguage; I’m sorry if you find some orthography mistakes or if you don’t understand something of what I said. By the way, ‘Lady Drama’ is my “natural name” in the Internet; it’s kind of funny (or ironic) that my first comment is exactly in this post…Maybe it would be better if next time I write to you with my real name.

    Anyway, I give my best wishes to you and mister Welling. I can’t wait to see you two in action again in the 8th season! —Clark/Chloe Fan, back to the childish actitude—.

    Good luck~