I love and appreciate all the comments posted in reaction to this article when I first posted it on my Facebook Page. Personally, I think Rashida Jones is spot on.
Her campaigns and comments are pushing conversation and dialogue that is so desperately needed in the world. I agree with what she says, not because I disagree with sexuality or the expression of it, more because of the lack of awareness in the effects of exploiting it. It’s like using a sharp scalpel to end lives rather than save them.
Look, we are human and there is an awesome bonus to this. We have bodies that feel pleasure and pain. Both sides of the experience add to this multidimensional and rich life. Why do we abuse this? Why do we choose to exploit, sell, disrespect and cheapen this phenomenal gift? So why then do we feel confused about the massive amounts of rape, prostitution and infidelity we are seeing worldwide? Do you think they are not connected? Isn’t it obvious that the disregard of responsibility in the way we present and promote sex directly influences the flavor of our population?
I love how Ms. Jones wrote:
“But I will look at women with influence—millionaire women who use their “sexiness” to make money—and ask some questions. There is a difference, a key one, between “shaming” and “holding someone accountable.”
I am not by any means saying the reason for the massive surge in child prostitution, human trafficking and brutal rape stories are because of the North American pop stars alone, but I am pointing out that we are now a global community that operates as a system, if women do not take responsibility for the ways in which we directly influence modern perception on things like sexuality, female strength and objectification we will continue to feel victimized by a structure we participate in maintaining.
Rashida goes on to say, “Where do we draw the line between teaching them freedom of sexual expression and pride in who they are on the inside? Are we even allowed to draw a line?”
I ask that same question. I believe we need to redefine and redesign education. More laws on censorship or more rules around behavior will only place a lid on a taboo topic that needs to be exposed, explored, and understood before it is healed. Imagine living in a world where people do the right thing because of a value for human life and experience and not because they don’t want to be punished. We would all experience something very different, where choices are motivated by joy, passion and gratitude.
“Women: Let’s at least try to discuss the larger implications of female sexuality on pop culture without shaming each other. There’s more than one way to be a good feminist. Personally, I loved the Lily Allen “Hard Out Here” video—a controversial send-up of tits-and-ass culture. She helped start a conversation. Let’s continue it.”
Rashida is calling out for exactly what I was referencing – an education. Ladies, let’s get together and start learning. Let’s get together and build who we are and what we are all about so we can stand next to our partners on this wild roller coaster and bring out the most awesome parts of being a woman.
Riding on the coattails of Rashida’s suggestion to create “… a song that empowers women to feel good about some other great quality we have? Like, I don’t know…our empathy, or childbearing skills, or ability to forgive one another for mean tweets?”
There is so much to be discovered within our sexuality and gender, so much we haven’t even started to understand. We are so focused on being some object of desire we completely overlook the innate values we inherit as women. Let’s own this mistake, let’s start a new dialogue, and let’s turn our attention to the study and pursuit of the next evolution of feminism. I have no doubt that we have the capacity to forge a new era of human dynamics which will go so far beyond what we have experienced thus far. I feel privileged to be a pioneer on this journey and I am both humbled and inspired by women like Rashida Jones, Jennifer Siebel, Sinead O’Conner and Ashley Judd who are strong enough to speak up on behalf of their gender. Thank you ladies. I am proud to be a part of your team.
This article is in response to this original article: “Why Is Everyone Getting Naked? Rashida Jones on the Pornification of Everything”