Sadness and joy all wrapped into one day. Isn’t it strange how we, as human beings, have the capacity to be absolutely elated and totally devastated all at one time?

I am amazed.

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  • Pamela

    on May 9, 2009 at 7:52 am

    Makes me wonder what’s going on with you that you’re having this range of emotions and hoping all’s well.

    In the last 16 months I’ve lost two cats (I usually have 2-3 cats as pets, so that’s a lot), my dog and then my mother. Horrible times…but without those lows, how would we know to celebrate the highs? We just hope they average out.

    Wishing the best for you.
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  • Hardish

    on May 9, 2009 at 7:56 am

    You know what Allison it’s weird.. I was reading a book yesterday “Thanks for the memories” by Cecia Ahern and well in one part she wrote

    “It occurs to me how colse happiness and sadness are. So closely knitted together. Such a thin line, a thread-like divide that in the midst of emotions, it trembles, blurring the territory of exact opposites.”

    I was reading that and I thought so true!
    You should read it.. you’ll like it I think!

  • Hardish

    on May 9, 2009 at 7:57 am


  • Robin

    on May 9, 2009 at 8:02 am

    I sometimes look back at all the moments that make up my day and reflect on all the various ups and downs I’ve been through, which tends to look like a compass needle dancing around, but I guess if my own needle were pointing to the same heading all day long life wouldn’t be nerely as interesting!

  • Robin Hebert

    on May 9, 2009 at 8:08 am

    What happened?

  • Amanda N.

    on May 9, 2009 at 8:12 am

    Yes it is a strange thing how all these different emotions can occur all in the timespan of a day.It is always something that perplexes me.It’s like it’s never enough for us to experiance one emotion that will carry with us throughout the day,we have to have like fifty.In a way I do love that aspect of being human.We can go through different feelings and phases and it can make who we chose to be that specific day.I always thought that I was pretty much in control of my emotions,that I could keep whatever I was feeling intact,especially anger.But I guess one never knows what to expect to happen since so much can happen all at the same time.

    Interesting observation Allison.

  • Karen

    on May 9, 2009 at 8:24 am

    That’s how life works, it’s beautifully complex and simple all at the same time. Crazy but good!

  • Lohengrin

    on May 9, 2009 at 8:45 am

    Hi Allison,
    I think life is constantly an oscillation between from joy and sadness. I don’t know what happen to you, and probabily it’s easy to say, but if you can try to focus on happy things…

    Ciao ciao

  • Jenny

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:05 am

    I haven’t had joy and sadness happen all in one day, but once in less than a week.

    I don’t know what happened to you but I hope you find joy again real soon.

  • Sandy

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:10 am

    aww i understand that feelings at the same day, is it happens to me now.
    Today is my 25th birthday, im happy because is my day, and im celebrate it with my friends tonight, but in other part im sad because i want celebrate it with part of my family !! they live in other country and i miss them so much!!!!;(

  • The Friday Philosopher

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:18 am

    I have always been fasinated how life can be so chaotic one moment and then so calm the next.

    Friday πŸ™‚

    P.S. Happy Birthday Sandy.

  • Pita

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:27 am

    Whatever happen to you today, I hope you won’t drag it to the next day. Everyday has its own sort of episode, color. We just have to enjoy every feeling. And no matter how blue your day, you can still add another color on it. It’s up to you. Remember what Rumi said, “Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”

  • Jade Ruby

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:42 am

    My emotions are capable of doing backflips.
    I have yet to tame them to where I want them to be.

  • Irene

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:56 am

    I don’t know, I believe I disgree…no offense to anyone. I don’t see how they Joy and devestation could be defined so simular.

    I don’t even think happiness and joy are the same, but I could see how they could be confused.

    Anyway, I hope in the Lord that you are keeping all things in perspective. Stay strong!

  • Irene

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:58 am

    Happy Birthday Sandy! I hope your wish comes true.

  • Aziza

    on May 9, 2009 at 10:09 am

    Joy and devastation. I remember feeling both of that in the same day, at the same moment because I couldn’t understand myself at the moment. I think I was depressed. *sigh*

  • Smallvillekent

    on May 9, 2009 at 10:11 am

    Allison I hope your devastation goes away and your joy and beautiful smile shines through.

  • Beth

    on May 9, 2009 at 10:17 am

    So true. There’s usually only a thin line between opposite emotions.

    Us humans are definitely strange that way.

    Take care Allison.

  • Aziza

    on May 9, 2009 at 10:26 am

    Happy Birthday Sandy!

  • Krystal

    on May 9, 2009 at 10:40 am

    It seems to me that once we open ourselves up to any extreme emotion, other extremes are more likely to follow. It’s like…after a great cry…someone can come along and say something moderately funny, and after going through the previous intense emotion, moderately funny become hilarious to you in that moment.

  • Krystal

    on May 9, 2009 at 10:46 am

    P.S. I am downloading “You” from Itunes as we speak….er…I type. I am excited!

  • Brittany

    on May 9, 2009 at 11:22 am

    Happy Birthday Sandy!
    Hey Allison,
    I hope you feel better and that joy and happiness comes back and switches everything up for you! By the way, amazing job on Smallville! Last epsiode was so good, and emotional. I can’t wait for finale!!!! I hope your character doesn’t go! I would cry!
    Have an excellent weekend!
    Much love & support,

  • Avitable

    on May 9, 2009 at 11:23 am

    What happened?

  • Martha

    on May 9, 2009 at 11:36 am

    How you can recognize the Light if you never had lived the Darkness… Two faces in the same coin necessary to grow. The important thing is always keep your Faith and courage high… When you be down Sing a happy song, the music feeds your soul and encourages your Heart πŸ™‚

  • Susana

    on May 9, 2009 at 11:56 am

    Yeah it is fascinating to see that we can feel sad & happy at the same time even angry too. I have had alot of those days especially recently since I started college I have felt that I am depressed & lonely even when I have the most comforting people around me it’s just crazy! I don’t know feel sad yet happy even angry sometimes because I don’t know who to talk to & it’s crazy that all of us can feel this way yet put up a front to cover that what which we feel.

    I’m sorry you are feeling like that Allison I hope you do feel better πŸ™‚ & remember you are not alone when you feel this way πŸ˜‰

    Take Care,


  • shinefloyd / luigi

    on May 9, 2009 at 3:59 pm

    Yes… it’s true..
    many times.
    I had that experience more than once.
    But now I have a strange sensation….because while I am reading your blog about “sadness and joy” … just I am listening “Light and Shade” by Mike Oldfield….
    I hope you are ok..
    take care

  • Ruthie

    on May 9, 2009 at 4:06 pm

    Emotions certainly are complex, and wonderful and painful and useful.

    β€œThere are moments in life, when the heart is so full of emotion That if by chance it be shaken, or into its depths like a pebble Drops some careless word, it overflows, and its secret, Spilt on the ground like water, can never be gathered together”
    ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

  • David Hayes

    on May 9, 2009 at 4:12 pm

    Whoever made the commercial for McDonalds captrured this beautifully. First you see the the toddler on the swing. When he is high, he smiles. When he is low, he looks like he is going to cry. Then we see things from his point of view. When he’s high, he can see over the fence and see the neighborhood McDonalds. When he is low, the fence obscures sight of the McDonalds.

  • Adam

    on May 9, 2009 at 4:17 pm

    Us, as humans, can deal with so much emotional baggage at any one time, be it happiness or sadness and all in between. Some of it stays with us, whilst some of it is buried – some of it just bubbles under the surface until it’s the right time to come out.

    I think the most important thing that we can learn to do, is to make the best out of everything we feel and just hope that we’re strong enough to end the day on a happy note, even if the sad sometimes outways the happy. This way, not only does it help us, it helps everyone around you and keeps them strong.

    I hope your day was filled with more joy than devastation.


  • Jesse

    on May 9, 2009 at 6:30 pm

    Hi Allison

    Yes we as human beings are emotional, I hope you weren’t too sad and more joyful. ummm


  • Darcy

    on May 9, 2009 at 6:52 pm

    I definately know how you feel. When my youngest daughter was born (she’s 5 now). She was so precious and I was so happy to have her here, however, she was born 2 months pre-mature. She weighed an even 3lbs when she was born. It took her almost 45 seconds for her to take her first breath and took her 1 month to be able to take her bottle on her own (prior to that, she was being fed by a tube inserted down her throat into her stomach).

    That being said, as much joy as I felt with the wonderful delivery of her in my life, I felt such sadness that this little girl had to go through so much pain to start her life.

  • kris

    on May 9, 2009 at 8:27 pm

    I’ve definitely had a lot more of those devastated/elated moments in the past several months than I would like to experience, but they are fascinating.

    My most recent experience was in the car. As I’ve said before, I lost my hearing last year, but have some hearing with a cochlear implant. Everything sounds really crappy, compared with my memory of what things used to sound like. My favorite thing to do used to be to blast the radio and drive with the windows down. I loved the sound of the wind. With the implant, the wind is too loud, and I can’t hear the music. I got upset and turned off my implant, and then I was amazed at how oddly wonderful it was to feel the wind without hearing it.

    I hope that you are also able to find a new perspective with whatever it is that has affected you today. It’s the only way to make the shift back from devastation to elation.

  • thomas

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:55 pm

    It like jumping off a ten meter board. When you step off the platform you think too your self, why oh why did I do this? Then you hit the water and can’t wait to go do it again and again and again.
    Thrill seekers mentality. Extreme ups and downs.

  • Steven Kirk

    on May 9, 2009 at 9:56 pm

    It’s one of the many little details that makes us all human. The ability not only to feel such highs and lows, but to appreciate, understand, learn and grow from our experiences.

    It’s far more than Darwinism or survival of the fittest. It’s humanity.


    on May 9, 2009 at 10:39 pm

    Hi Allison.
    What happened?
    Unfortunately, we all have days when we meet the best and worst. The two feelings are related to two separate events or the same?
    I would prefer to know the sadness in the first and end with joy. I love stories with an happy ending.
    Sometimes, our day starts as a dream ends in nightmare.
    When I read your blog, I thought about what you told us in a previous blog when you meet someone inspiring.
    For nearly a month when I read the spoilers from Smallville on the two deaths last episode where your character is featured, I live the two opposing feelings quite often.
    It’s not possible to download the film You from Canada. It’s only available for USA resident. (Amazon and ITune)
    Have a good weekend.

  • william

    on May 10, 2009 at 6:29 am

    It is really interesting, hope you feel better allison!

  • jennygirl

    on May 10, 2009 at 6:37 am

    What happened? Are you alright? Did you have a disaggreement with your mom?

  • Ruthie

    on May 10, 2009 at 7:01 am

    I watched “You” Friday night…lovely and moving. Well done to all!

  • Becky W

    on May 10, 2009 at 7:12 am

    It’s amazing how after your mother has left this world, that it leaves you with such emptiness, yet such fullness of the Love and memories that a mother gave you.

    Afterall, a mother gives the greatest gift of all, life. And as a gardener tends their flowers, a mother nurtures their child’s life with love.

    I find today a day to reflect on that love and that gift. It is truly beautiful. As the days pass, each year, it becomes more vibrant, just as a garden.

    Which leads me to one of my favorite quotes I have read, I don’t remember where I read this, but it stuck with me through the years.

    “Mom, if I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden. One sweet day, I will be able to take your hand and walk with you in it.”
    – What a sweet day that will be. A day when my mother can see the garden that she helped me create. With her love, guidance and life, she taught me my ways. Even with her gone now, she still guides me with memories. You really can NEVER forget a Mother’s Love.

    Allison, I hope your day goes well. May your devastation be outshone by Joy.

    *Have a flower from my garden*


  • Tim McGee

    on May 10, 2009 at 8:10 am

    So you’re feeling slightly lost?

  • Jamie

    on May 10, 2009 at 10:25 am

    I read what you were blogging about and it made me start to think. I feel that if it weren’t for the emotions that make us feel happy and sad at once than often we wouldn’t know if we were alive. Emotions motivate us and drive us, but most of all they are us.

  • Joy

    on May 10, 2009 at 1:54 pm

    Sadness and joy. The two most single important emotions for spiritual health.

    This week at school was definately filled of both. I’m a senior this year at high school and, with the year ending, we have enjoyed Grad Bash, Prom, and all the end of the year experiences. Unfortunately, one of our fellow peers died last week, and I realized how difficult it is to swing back and forth from sadness to joy in a matter of a second. Life goes on, but you don’t want it to, because you want to remember the present. Things are bad, things are good. But I know that us, as intelligent beings and other emotions to explore, that everything will be alright…..Its very difficult to have this faith and I pray, that everyone finds that faith.

    Enjoy the days πŸ™‚


  • Mr. Nikk

    on May 10, 2009 at 3:12 pm

    “Patterns I’m finding/As pain and joy and sorrow mingle/Patterns I’m finding/As faces raise to adorations…” – Killing Joke

  • Electra

    on May 11, 2009 at 12:25 am

    Hi Allison,

    πŸ™‚ πŸ™ πŸ˜› πŸ˜€ πŸ˜‰ I think we are all blessed to have our deep shadows and brilliant highlights. Life would be quite boring if we wouldn’t have so many emotions. Don’t you think?


    …new nick name… got fed up with the old one πŸ™‚

  • Debbie Malinsky

    on May 11, 2009 at 8:51 am

    Why are you devastated?

  • Netra

    on May 11, 2009 at 12:04 pm

    You can choose to be happy or sad and whichever you choose that is what you get. No one else has the responsibility to make someone else happy, no matter what most people have been taught and accept as true. And without saddness, are we truly able to apprieciate the happy times?? And always keep in mind Allison, that being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.

    XoXo from Kentucky
    Your more loved then you will ever know!!! By those in the world that you will never know!!!!

  • Silvia

    on May 12, 2009 at 12:14 am

    Hi Allison,

    I think we are all blessed to have our deep shadows and brilliant highlights including everything in between. Life would be quite boring if we wouldn’t have so many emotions. Don’t you think?

    take care

  • Adam

    on June 25, 2009 at 1:33 am

    And if you’re listening to Mozart, you’ll have those both feeling merging into one : a kind of totally despaired joy, or a joyful despair, as you prefer !

  • tn_tank

    on July 3, 2009 at 9:29 pm

    life has it’s up and it has it’s downs
    thanks for sharing πŸ™‚