David Hayes Says:
September 15th, 2008 at 8:26 am

Here’s a topic for consideration. There is a ‘Right to Life’ movement. Who believes in a person’s right to death? Should a person be able to decide when it’s a good time for their life to be over and get some help if they need it? It could even be regulated in that the person must first discharge all financial obligations and responsibilites first.

So to speak to David’s question, this is such an interesting time for you to pose this question. Just recently I decided it was time for me to be responsible and get all my finances and assets organized and sorted. In the pursuit of this goal I realized that I need to set up a will. Along with this will comes a document that represents my wishes for terminal health situations.

Basically I am choosing who I would want to be responsible for me were I to be in a coma or a situation where I was incapable of speaking for myself.

Now, I do believe in euthanasia, and the person’s right to life. So in thinking about who this person would be I recognized that it would need to be someone who would be willing and able to carry out this wish. Someone who would be willing to “pull the plug” (to put it bluntly).

I started thinking about whether or not this was something I would be able to do if I was on the other side. Would I be ok to terminate the life of someone that I love because I deem the quality of life to be too poor? Woah, this is a heavy topic.

When is it murder? And is it murder? When does one give up hope?

I mean, I know there have been situations where people come out of comas after 20 some odd year, so what if I pull the plug too early? Or what if I am purposely requesting someone to agree to pull the plug on me; without giving myself the chance to get better?

But then again, what constitutes a life?

To me life is actively living, actively participating in relating to things in the world. I realize that this is something I struggle with, I have a hard time seeing the value in simply sitting, simply existing, but this is the way I choose to live my life. So from my own view point a life is an existence that is present and proactive.

Add yours Comments – 131

  • Darwin

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:35 pm

    From wearing the maitre’d’s coat with tails?

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:37 pm

    so i already have a group of a possible 10 people who would like to help
    im definitely excited!

  • Scott123

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:43 pm

    What a gallery! I love this place!
    i won’t match dark with stories here (and I have a few).Instead, I will only leave you with this.
    Grab every second you can get your hands on. Don’t let go until mr death forces the issue! And then make him work for it!
    There is no such thing as a life not worth living, even a miserable one. All that is required for hope is breath. Are you breathing? You’ve got hope.

    Your friend in Optimism,
    Scott123

  • Scott123

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:44 pm

    What a gallery! I love this place!
    i won’t match dark stories with you all here (and I have a few).Instead, I will only leave you with this.
    Grab every second you can get your hands on. Don’t let go until mr death forces the issue! And then make him work for it!
    There is no such thing as a life not worth living, even a miserable one. All that is required for hope is breath. Are you breathing? You’ve got hope.

    Your friend in Optimism,
    Scott123

  • Scott123

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:46 pm

    I think the comments box should be bigger…I’m just sayin

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:47 pm

    you write novels like me… its okay 🙂
    haha

  • Darwin

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:47 pm

    Scott123: I like that! If you are breathing you have hope!

    taylor nikole: Wonderful about your project! Almost a dozen!

    If I were in your neighborhood i would sign up!

    But you still have not said why your family is getting sick? (I of course was AGAIN referencing the whole penguin/tux and tails-thing because you IGNORED it the first time!)

    So…You caused them to eat too much?

    Or passed on your cold?

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:49 pm

    oh no… i was sick with a fever on tuesday…
    and apparently they are all sick now
    i just said
    “oopsy sorry”

  • Darwin

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:51 pm

    Oh! Well it is GOOD that you are better anyway! They will be too!

    Uh…there is a note for you on another blog…thoughts on that e.e. cummings poem…

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:52 pm

    sooo im starting smallville basically
    and the credits got me excited…
    🙂
    haha
    and tom welling is *cough* Hot…
    (sorry im only a 15 yr old girl *shies away*)

  • Darwin

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:58 pm

    Okay! Have fun watching…!

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 9:59 pm

    allison talks too fast in the lab 🙂
    my head hurts…
    i had to do that in acting class
    and my words came out…
    not right

  • Christopher

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:07 pm

    Wait a sec–people are using Allison’s blog site as a place to hang out and post conversation with each other? When did this happen???!

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:07 pm

    ehh since now…
    haha
    🙂

  • Christopher

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:10 pm

    But assuming Allison ever actually takes the time to go through here and read these things for herself, don’t you think she might find it fucking annoying if we’ve all just been sitting around chatting each other up on her space? (I hope not.)

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:12 pm

    hmm well considering most of it is sub topics… most of them actually have importance…
    so maybe not
    who knows….

  • Christopher

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:14 pm

    Oh, btw, Taylor–better look away during the last 5 minutes if you don’t wanna see Tom’s bare butt! 😉

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:17 pm

    oh thats evil…
    and *peeks*

  • Christopher

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:18 pm

    Not really; I was just jerkin’ your chain! 🙂

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:23 pm

    damn…
    so mean
    btw…
    lois is kickass 🙂

  • Christopher

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:24 pm

    all “smallville” women are kickass! i think it must be some kind of requirement!

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:25 pm

    it probably is 😉
    and also hot guys
    wow what has this show come to?
    lol

  • Christopher

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:27 pm

    hot guys? naaahh. only the girls are hot!

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:31 pm

    I’m sorry I may support it fully… but i don’t swing that way 🙂
    oh goodness… this ep just made me cry
    im pathetic

  • Christopher

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:35 pm

    no question tho’–allison is the hottest, not to mention a damn fine actress!

    and what the fuck are you crying about? i musta missed that part! (was it because you DIDN’T see Tom’s butt?) 😉

  • taylor nikole

    on September 18, 2008 at 10:47 pm

    that too… but jimmy and chloe
    im a little sensative haha
    well not really
    but still
    and other parts id rather not spoil here 🙂
    haha

    yeah allison is one of my acting inspirations…
    yes i have a couple of those :-p

  • J.T.

    on September 18, 2008 at 11:30 pm

    My mother died April this year after a few month coma. The whole thing was really abrupt and surprisingly for all of us, because this coma was after an surgery, and no one could explain why she didn´t woke up (she was going throuh a terrible desease for years, but that´s an another topic). After a few month we had to decide to pull the plug or not, because almost since the beginning of the coma she hardly had the power to breath for herself.

    After she died, it felt like salvation for us and her. For some reason I feel guilty and I hate myself for that feeling.

    But it is hard to go through a lot different feelings, never knowing which the right one is.

    … I never want to go through that again.

  • Gail

    on September 19, 2008 at 5:56 am

    Season Premier rocked! Way to go Allison.

  • R Kappz

    on September 19, 2008 at 8:40 am

    And what happens if they create a miniature black hole in the swiss hadron collider. What if they make a black hole that DOESN’T disappear, accidentally destroying the solar system? Could we sue since they didn’t ask everyones opinion on the matter? Or maybe we have collectively given up and subconsciously want the world to end. Well a black hole IS the most destructive force in the universe, it was only a matter of time before we figured out how to make one.

  • Liz

    on September 23, 2008 at 4:54 am

    In 1999 my 19 year old cousin was in a horrible car accident. He was literally crushed, his spinal cord was shredded. My family decided that even though he was essentially brain dead, that they wanted to keep him on life support, just in case by some miracle he would wake up. Rationally we all knew this could never happen, but in times like those the rational part of our brain completely goes out the window. After a week of discussions amongst the family we all collectively decided that we could no longer hold on to him, we had to let him go. So we did let him go, and he, I believe was finally able to rest in peace, and we got our closure.

    I myself am not afraid of death per se, I’m afraid of what I will miss when I’m gone. Personally I feel that those who fear death only fear it because they haven’t fully lived. I think most fear the unknown, they fear what may come after death, they fear the pain or lack of.

    I think at this point I’m pretty much rambling, thats what happens when I’m up at 4:50am. LOL I hope what I just wrote made some sort of sense. I have been a lurker on this site for quite a while and I felt like it was finally time to join in on the deep and thought provoking conversations that are being had here.

    Thank you Allison.=)

    till soon
    Liz

  • LEANDRO MICHEL

    on September 30, 2008 at 7:50 pm

    Olá allison, moro no Brazil e sou apaixonado pelo seu trabalho em Smallville, me perdoe por escrever em português, mas é que não sei escrever em inglês, fique com Deus e saiba que jesus Cristo te ama. kiss