I listened to a beautiful book by Pema Chodren called, “Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better”. She is by far my favorite Buddhist philosopher and teacher. She is so accessible, honest, and genuine and simple in the way she explains her experiences and perspectives. Sometimes, when I feel like a knot that cannot be untied - I google Pema and see what she has been saying recently and she usually sorts me out. This is a commencement speech she gave at Naropa University and you can purchase it on audible. The basic jist is wrapped up in a James Joyce quote she uses which says, “failure is the key to creativity”. She explores the idea that failure is inevitable and it is the pain of this failure that terrifies us. We run in the opposite direction of any feeling of discomfort or physical feeling of threat, and yet - emotional pain has never killed anyone. My heartbreak does not cause my body to shut down, I can survive the pain of losing someone I love, disappointment, and shame. I have done it before and I will do it again. So look at the failures, lean into them and find the lesson deep within the pain. Easy to write, easy to hear - simple. Hard to apply. Deep breaths… Press into the day and look for the failure. Brace yourself for the pain. Grin joyfully, and bring it on.