Small patterns. Large patterns. A pattern is a pattern is a pattern!

“What the hell are you talking about?”

Don’t worry, I hear you asking.

“What are you referring to you crazy actress chick?”

What I am talking about is how the way we open the jam jar is the same way reveal ourselves to our loved ones. The way we drive in traffic is the same way we make our biggest life choices. A patterned person is the same patterned person no matter what they do or where they go. It’s inevitable. It’s everywhere. It’s you! And you can’t escape it!


So learn to love it!

Tabby and I were racing around Seattle all weekend, embracing and enjoying the fabulous-ness of the city as well as getting completely lost and turned around. We would take turns driving and we both really saw how the way we drive is exactly the same way we live our lives.

So this is Tabby:
“Ok guys here we go. Um. Which way am I going. No I don’t mind driving at all I just need to know how to get there. Umm which lane should I be in. Oh, never mind there’s the sign. Umm is that the right sign.

Umm which direction should I turn? Ummm which lane? Ummm is this ok?

Ummm I don’t want to piss anyone off.”

This is me:
“So I saw this fantastic film the other night—wow that is the coolest coffee shop lets go there (car veers drastically right)—wait!

Never mind, it does’t look organic (car veers drastically to the left).

Anyway, this film I saw was completely mind blowing, I mean, really innovative a—oh my god look at that fabulous sculpture garden, we have to stop (car veers back to the right equally as drastically). Do you think I can park here? Ah, fuck it, we will only be a few minutes. And if we get towed, oh well it will give us the chance to have a nice walk through Seattle and find some other cool boutiques and things.”

And funnily enough, this is exactly how we play out our lives.

Considerate and kind. A bit nervous, but encouraged.

Always making sure that she is doing the right thing and eager to be a part of any project she believes is good and valuable in the world.

Passionate and a bit reckless.

So enthralled with the things I want to do that sometimes I get completely lost in the process. Changing my mind on a dime, but ultimately so in love with all the opportunities I feel I could burst.

How fun!

Add yours Comments – 42

  • Kimberley

    on July 14, 2008 at 11:11 am

    I completely agree, and have to say I’m a mixture. I will be drawn by things I see, but then remember I have a destination in mind. I suppose that ties in with the fact that I set goals but always have a smidgen of procrastination along the way. Although if you don’t get sidetracked sometimes, you can miss out on so many wonderful things.

    I love how you think about things, scarily as much as me. This was great to read, and insightful.

  • Anita

    on July 14, 2008 at 11:12 am


    i guess i’m more like tabby, i’m 75% tabby and 25% Allison
    well…because most all the time i’m always tryin’ to do the right thing, and always, don’t want to disturb people, and other time, when i’m driving, but my mom is with me, i’m a little crazy, i really like to see stuffs and well, if i get trouble becuase i park the car in the wrong space, and i got i ticket….oh well! happends…but i’m always looking for something new…..

    take care u guys!
    luv ya!

  • Vegas911

    on July 14, 2008 at 12:16 pm

    I cuss people out, everyday when I drive!!!! What does that say about me??? I am a nice person I think. I never dive head first into anything without thinking about it first, and I hold my tounge a lot when I should probably should say something. So why do I feel like I can cuss stupid drivers out when I am in my car?? Is it because I know they can’t hear me and I will not offend them……things to think about……..Thanks Allison!!!

  • Jeremiah

    on July 14, 2008 at 12:27 pm

    Sorry, while I think you are one of the most authentic people to grace the camera, I really think you missed the mark on this one. It is true that people do have threads throughout their experience… but the way I open a jar or drive my car have no bearing on the way I court a woman or go about worship. Think about shooting a semi-automatic rifle vs. shooting a simple bow, maybe you do neither, but hitting the mark is the goal of both. With the rifle the standard thought is to aim only slightly as ammo comes frequently and easily enough that it is better to take multiple shots to ensure hitting the mark, than to wait for the perfect aim up. While with the bow, one might stand perfectly still for minutes before pulling back, and may wait up to another minute before letting the arrow fly. There are people that do both, with the same goal of hitting the mark, but there is nothing in common with the way they do either. I might break a lid open or drive like a hooligan, but be the same person who treats ladies with tenderness and worships in utter serenity. A person is just as likely to seek to balance their experiences against one another as they are to live every moment in the same mode.
    All the best,
    Or at least I hope that is they way it works…

  • Lydia

    on July 14, 2008 at 1:37 pm

    Good thinking.

    I’m more like Tabby. I’m always trying to do the right thing, I’m careful, sometimes hesitant, I think things through, I’m passionate, I try to be good and receptive to everyone and I want to do good things in the world. I’ve become more outgoing and it’s fun to let myself free sometimes, be crazy, giggle, jump for joy…:-)

    It’s nice you had such a wonderful time together.

  • Lexie

    on July 14, 2008 at 1:38 pm

    Completely love it! A couple of friends and I took a road trip from Tennessee to Colorado last summer, and needless to say in the 40 some odd hours we spent driving there and back, we arrived at the same conclusion.

  • Jessica

    on July 14, 2008 at 2:06 pm

    So true. I had already thought about this with a friend of mine.
    By the way Allison I miss your quotes. When can you start posting new quotes again?

  • Olivia

    on July 14, 2008 at 2:42 pm

    Ummmm…….. very interesting. I like how you have an analogy for everything in life. It’s so fun and creative to do that. It’s easier to view life through analogies too. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • taylor nikole

    on July 14, 2008 at 2:50 pm

    Wow… i can’t drive ‘legally’ yet, but im a total backseat driver.
    I’m horrible…
    and on trips, I always hold the map…
    and for some reason we always miss turns because im ranting
    about something stupid 🙂
    my mom doesn’t appreciate it
    but then again, we went to look at GPS systems… and ended up not getting one?
    But i get what you mean about changing your mind constantly… and being reckless (egghh learning young?)
    one day ill want to do something… and the next ill want to do something completely different. Although I’m pretty good about following through with plans when my friends are involved… but that doesn’t mean i don’t like adding in extra activities.
    I’m also passionate about things…
    I’ve become obsessed with the idea of someday traveling everywhere because i can’t do it at the moment.
    My moms boyfriend the other day mentioned how he wanted to take us to Hong Kong…
    Now i’ve never been out of the country and I’m so obsessed with places i want to visit outside the US… people i want to meet that im completely overwhelmed and excited…. even though its not a for sure thing. I’m even considering a foreign exchange program for my junior year (hopefully germany?), just so i can get out and have the experience. Although he mentioned that id have to be more experiment.. ive… with my food… and he said it would be hard for me since im a vegetarian… but is that going to stop me.. NO! Damn… now i feel like im in a bubble (must pop!)…
    wow i went off on a tangent… rant… I always do that (my mind is all over the place seriously)
    thanks for the new blog.. i’d been itching to read a new one 😀

    <3 taylor Nikole

  • Jimmy Valentime

    on July 14, 2008 at 3:18 pm

    What you didn’t tell them is you got two points on your licenses afterwards


  • Aysha

    on July 14, 2008 at 3:34 pm

    Hey Allison,

    You are so right! The way we eat, the way we handle projects, etc. all reflect our personalities and psychologies of who we are (in my opinion, at least) I was a psych major in college and a lot of the psych tests that tap into the unconscious were based on that idea. For instance, the infamous ink blots, pictures of various scenes that patients have to describe and predict what will happen next…they are all projections of what we are thinking and feeling.

    For instance, I like to savor moments as they are unfolding and savor every aspect and the way I eat reflects that – I am a very slow eater, but I like to savor every bite and enjoy the taste of what I am eating.

    I love psychology! It’s my passion, and I am glad that you brought up such an interesting point as you were on that interesting driving adventure with Tabby. You are so insightful and your insights are valid!

    Take Care,

  • Carol UK

    on July 14, 2008 at 4:26 pm

    I love this idea of patterns in our personalities that spill over into every aspect of our lives. For me, I think that there are certain characteristics that I take with me wherever I go, for example, I’m very calm and unflappable, quietly self-confident and I hope people would think of me as considerate. However, there are also those elements of my character that change according to the situation I am in. At school my colleagues think I am tidy and organised, which is a great source of amusement to my mother, who knows my apartment is always amazingly messy, just as my bedroom used to be when I lived at home. My closest friends, who see me as something of a ‘life and soul of the party’ type, never cease to be amazed at how quiet and tongue-tied I become in unfamiliar surroundings.
    So I guess what I’m saying is I agree that some things absolutely define who we are and how we behave but others are more changeable depending on circumstances, who we’re with etc.
    I really enjoyed the account of your driving around Seattle. (Note to self – in the unlikely event I ever find myself in a car with Allison, don’t let her drive!)
    Is anyone else wondering what that mind-blowing, innovative film was?
    Thanks, as always, Allison, for sharing.

  • Kris

    on July 14, 2008 at 4:38 pm

    I LAUGHED SO HARD AT THIS BLOG THAT IT MADE ME SNORT!!!!!!!! Although you’re usually writing about some kind of sincerely “heady” or introspective topic…this one is a nice surprise!

    I tell everybody that I travel on the physical road (as well as on the “road of life”) the way Clark Griswold does in the National Lampoon’s Vacation movies. I’ll explain…

    I always have good intentions and a very precise itinerary, BUT I’m kind of an idiot when it comes to executing said plans. Basically, I don’t pay attention and forget or miss something, which then leads to the shit hitting the fan. On the upside, I’m very laid back and fexible. I also rock at improvising! Everything works out in the end, and I end up with a few extra “You won’t believe what happened to me…” stories to share with friends and family. They do enjoy pointing and laughing at me, but it’s all good. So everything I do ends up being an adventure in some way or another.

    I consider myself an honorary Griswold, and I love it. Life is way more fun when things don’t go the way you thought they would.

  • David Harvey

    on July 14, 2008 at 5:45 pm

    In the end, a person is simply defined by the actions they take and the choices they make. No more, no less.

    Kind Regards.
    David Harvey
    Morrisville, NC

  • Sam

    on July 14, 2008 at 7:55 pm

    Wow, you really are mad, but I still love your insights =P

    I’m writing a play that has the main character written with you in mind for the part. I want them to be like you but a whole alternate version you.

    This particular blog will help with that.

    Stay passionate.

  • Marilyne

    on July 14, 2008 at 9:46 pm

    Well, as I drove for hours to come back in Quebec all the way from Vancouver with my sister, I absolutely agree with you that the way we drive is how we are in life in general. I would let like 3-4 cars to pass me in a traffic jam in L.A., I mean, c’mon one more, what ever, just go my friend! But then there’s my sister saying: Hey, don’t let them pass you..blabla..I’m more a “vivre et laisser vivre” kind of person. She was way more stressed in those kind of situations than I was. That was kind of funny actually;p

    Here’s the picure: my sister, fully concentrated and focused on the road, or at least, trying too be, and then me, just singing and air-drumming on the stearing wheel to the music. Damn that was fun!

    Glad that you had a great time in Seattle! Of course you did, two fabulous senoritas enjoying life!

    Really refreshing blog!

    Take care, both of you


  • Kris

    on July 14, 2008 at 11:43 pm

    Bah! That explains so much about the hubby and I. He likes to play pole position on the road and in life and seems to have a freakin compass in his head, and I plan six exits in advance so I can enjoy the scenery.

    Literally. I’m usually driving with the camera on road trips, so safety? Not so much.

    I know where I’m supposed to be and I can usually roll with the craziness, especially in a big city. I suppose even my random ability to find almost anything, anywhere, using landmarks is a pattern that repeats itself elsewhere in my life.


    Thanks for sharing!

  • Paulyn

    on July 15, 2008 at 1:02 am

    Seattle is awesome. Slightly biased, but it’s true.

  • Jemma

    on July 15, 2008 at 5:06 am


    Have recently come across your website and have read many of yours blogs. Well all I can say is, what an inspiring and insightful person. Im still in school in the UK and have been treading a fairly rocky road for a while, something i guess every teenager goes through but your insight and joyous attitude towards life has helped me alot.

    Thankyou. I shall continue to read,Your an inspiration =]

  • The Friday Philosopher

    on July 15, 2008 at 7:15 am

    I guess I agree with your theory of patterns in life. Although I am a Philosopher and as we all know, “Philosophy is nothing more than the opinions of the over opinionated!” (Or so people continuously inform me!) As such however, I have my own opinion.

    I agree that you are right about the decisions we make and choices we take reflect the make up of our personalities. However, you didn’t touch on this point in your blog so I don’t know if you agree, I think that certain things that happen during our lives can change our personalities.

    All of my life I have been known as “The Rock”. My friends and family could always count on me if ever they needed or even wanted anything. My Sister used to say that she could set her clock by me! So, I was the dependable one, the designated driver even though I have no licence. (I do not condone driving without a licence and due to the following do not do it anymore!)

    During my school days, myself and three other friends were always together. After leaving school and getting jobs, we seldom had the chance. We would always make the effort for birthdays and holidays though. At the age of twenty-one, one of the quartet died due to a drug overdoes. It was the first time in his life that he had taken any drugs but the drugs didn’t care, they killed him all the same. If that wasn’t bad enough, the following year almost to the day another of the four died the same way. This shook me but ultimately I was still the same dependable person. It was only at the age of twenty-four when my best friend died in a horrific car accident that the way I live my life finally changed.

    I’m not Mr Sensible anymore, I would like to say that I can still be counted on if need be but now I like to live my life one risk at a time!

    Thank you for sharing your life with us.

    I hope you don’t mind me sharing too!

    Friday Philosopher

  • Jennifer

    on July 15, 2008 at 7:17 am

    I love this blog entry,it made me laugh.I have to say I’m about 80% like you Allison and 20% like Tabby when it comes to the road.

    I hear Seattle is beautiful,I have a relative that lives in Vancouver Washington. Hope you and Tabby’s weekend trip was fun.

    Take Care and have a great week. =)

  • Jo

    on July 15, 2008 at 11:07 am

    I agree, somewhat. With me I think it really depends on what kind of day I’m having more than how I live my life.

  • Markus

    on July 15, 2008 at 11:16 am

    Oh yes, that sounds familiar 😉
    I think i have 75% Tabby and 25% Allison in me *gg*

    Have a nice week


  • Krystal

    on July 15, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    Wow. I have never managed to correlate those two components together. Driving style and personality patterns. I don’t generally tend to have road rage because it always seems to cross my mind that I have no idea what the other person might be going through. But, when people are totally unthoughtful in their driving, that is when I get mad…err rather I tend to just be disappointed that the unthoughtful driver didn’t take time to consider that everyone around him/her belongs to humanity and should be treated as such.

    I am going to think more on this! I have to go for now, I have an audition at 7pm for a musical theatre prodution. I am uber pumped!! Thanks for the insight Allison.

    You Rock My Face Off! =)


  • David Passafiume

    on July 15, 2008 at 1:42 pm

    from someone who lives here in Seattle, i understand how it’s easy to get lost. What most people who don’t live here don’t know (and most people who live here don’t know it either) is that Seattle was designed in three parts, and those partw were designed by 3 different people, who hated each other and fought constantly… so it’s easy to get lost when you find yourself at and intersection where 5 one-way streets converge (not joking!)
    next time, don’t sweat it, and just don’t go walking at night through the internatioal district.

  • Ann Kinchen

    on July 15, 2008 at 2:37 pm

    ha ha! That’s so hilarious, but so true. I know exactly what you mean. I think I’d be a good mix of the two. If I’m with people I don’t know as well I’m more like Tabby. But by myself or with good friends I’d be more like yo u while driving. lol!

  • Joey

    on July 15, 2008 at 2:46 pm

    Good afternoon Miss Mack,

    Here’s a little message as a way of telling you that i’m back on the web. I just read the new topic you posted on july 14th and i still can say that it is always a great pleasur to see that profound philosophy does mean a lot to you. Anyway the way you are thinking really do deserve a particular reading and regard. Miss Mack, you are an interesting personn. You seem to understand that life is a perpetual update of ourself making us able to surf betwween trees of life whitout crashing against them. Congratulations Miss Allison Mack, you are certainly aware of a lot of very fine things that a large amount of people aren’t not able to see probably because they are running too much superficialy. You can see and fell with both your heart and soul and that’s so beautiful to see it.
    I’ll enclose for now,
    Please Miss Mack, take a real good care of yourself.

    Good afternoon Tabby, keep smiling and have fun too. I’m very happy to be back with my new computers system.
    See you later.


  • Christopher

    on July 15, 2008 at 6:40 pm

    You’re great, Allison! I could never be so fucking free-spirited and impulsive! 😉

  • Lisa V

    on July 15, 2008 at 8:34 pm

    Allison, you are so funny and you always make me think. “What are you referring to you crazy actress chick?” That has to be the funniest thing I read in long time! Keep having fun and keep inspiring!

  • Anthony V.

    on July 15, 2008 at 8:40 pm

    You know, thats a very interesting observance Allison. When I drive I tend to be very cautious and I usually let others go if im not in a hurry. However, sometimes I see some of the crazy drivers, and I get defensive and protective. It shows in my personal life. Im pretty kind toward others, but protective of my territory when I need to be. Very interesting.

  • Kyle

    on July 15, 2008 at 10:53 pm

    You know what’s weird, I was in Seattle around a week ago…that would have been so cool seeing you there.

    Anyways, I agree with you. Our life is usually conducted the same way across the board. If we’re organized, forgetful or neurotic in one thing chances are you’ll be the same way in most of your facets in life. Then again, the same is true when you develop some negative pattern in which to conduct a behavior.

    A beautiful perspective, thanks.

  • Grant

    on July 16, 2008 at 2:10 am

    Yeah….I’m not too sure if I want to get into a car with you driving Allison….

  • Joey

    on July 16, 2008 at 2:16 am

    Good morning Miss Mack,

    Here’s a little message as a way of telling you that i’m back on the web. I just read the new topic you posted on july 14th and i still can say that it is always a great pleasure to see that profound philosophy does mean a lot to you. Anyway the way you are thinking really does deserve a particular reading and regard. Miss Mack, you are an interesting personn. You seem to understand that life is a perpetual update of ourself making us able to surf between trees of life whitout crashing against them. Congratulations Miss Allison Mack, you are certainly aware of a lot of very fine things that a large amount of people aren’t able to see probably because they are running too much superficially. You can see and fell with both your heart and soul and that’s so beautiful to see it.
    I’ll enclose for now,
    Please Miss Mack, take a real good care of yourself.

    Good afternoon Tabby, keep smiling and have fun too. I’m very happy to be back with my new computers system.
    See you later.


    PS : I fell ashamed for mistakes but i was sleeping last time ! Here’s the new version !

    See You.

  • George

    on July 16, 2008 at 12:11 pm

    A bit reckless A BIT RECKLESS you’ll kill somone driving like that.

    So what was the movie?

  • Robin

    on July 16, 2008 at 2:26 pm

    Hi Allison,

    Let’s see when I drive ….I stick to the middle lane on the motorway (freeway), I daydream and suddenly discover I’ve driven miles without realising it, I try to be considerate to other road users, unless i’m in a hurry and I can swear with the best of em!

    Hey, you just might be on to something here, I drift through life not having any clear direction…. are SO right hahaha, oh well!

    Glad you and Tabby had a great time,

    Best of luck with the new season and all of your adventures,

    Keep having fun,



  • Jennygirl

    on July 16, 2008 at 2:36 pm

    So not good, in that I was almost in a wreck this morning…veering into the left lane almost hitting a car in my blind spot. Which wouldn’t have been a blind spot if I had ACTUALLY LOOKED!!! *frustrated*…but all is well! And I can’t drive with friends in the car as they are too entertaining.

  • Eric Wilson

    on July 16, 2008 at 7:37 pm

    Damn…. I wish i had the ability to drive damn drivers test thing costs a lots of money and i can’t afford to drive at all.. but i’ve been with a few friends a couple years ago we were on a road trip some where can’t remember we end up lost and had to park at a cemetary we end up spending a day or two there until a cop spot us and he had ask us a question and we said we’re lost and found out we we’re in hanover-horton once i got home i completely had nightmares after being at the cemetary..

  • ziggyfly

    on July 16, 2008 at 8:20 pm

    for me if i do learn to drive i would have to move to england no jokes cause i drive on the left side haha.. pretty funny which is why my dad wont let me drive his truck anymore and thats why i only have my lil four wheeler.. but i would really love to drive its just thats my lil problem is stearing on the left side..

  • James

    on July 17, 2008 at 11:45 am

    That is hilarious but absolutely true. I would like to say that I’m an equal mix of both personalities. But I relate more to Allisons friend.

  • Jen

    on July 17, 2008 at 6:34 pm

    I love your blogs they are so insightful. I am a mixture as I am also drawn by things, want to experience new things, and also admire beauty. I also get enthralled in projects and have to complete them but try to make sure I keep organized and what needs to be done. I love passion though and being enthalled by something, makes life even more interesting :D.

  • Bouroux

    on July 19, 2008 at 11:27 pm

    Hi Allison.
    I went 7 days on vacation and when I come back, there are 5 new blogs. Wow!
    Today, I drove 6 hours and I am still lost in Portland Maine. In fact whenever I venture in this city is the same story. My driving is also risky than yours.
    By cons in life spontaneity should not be synonymous with reckless.
    When you drive, you have a few seconds to decide which side you turned.
    When you take an important decision in your life you have a little time to think, assess and consult with people who are significant in your life.
    And if you recognized that you make a mistake you corrected the shooting. As you said in other blogs on fate grows from its mistakes and failures. There is just stupid people who do not change their minds.
    What fans love with you is that you behaved like us, not as some celebrities who seem to live on another planet and are no longer able to distinguish between good and evil.
    Recently I made an impulsive purchase, which seemed extraordinary, I quickly found that there would be negative consequences, which I would find it difficult to my family. I started to feel depressed. Finally I have cancelled the purchase.
    When you say:Me:
    Passionate and a bit reckless.
    I remember the story of a great Canadian actor. Jean Louis Roux.
    What has happened 50 years later is proof that we must be careful when we have big aspirations and we have talent.
    It is disturbing to think that a man has managed to convince millions of people that the good of humanity passed by the extermination of Jews.

    Allison take care of you.


  • Aziza

    on April 7, 2009 at 6:25 pm

    I’m addicted to numerology. Tabby represents the personality everybody sees in me- cautious, always wanting to do the right thing, society’s norms do not seem to contradict- sort of like my personality number. Allison is like my soul urge- It would be so nice to get lost in a city and just experience everything it has to offer. Then I would have people freaking out with 25 missed phone calls.

    When do we start doing without wondering what others would think? When do you really gain the full experience? Wondering when it’s time to get back or living in the moment.