David Hayes Says:
September 15th, 2008 at 8:26 am

Here’s a topic for consideration. There is a ‘Right to Life’ movement. Who believes in a person’s right to death? Should a person be able to decide when it’s a good time for their life to be over and get some help if they need it? It could even be regulated in that the person must first discharge all financial obligations and responsibilites first.

Amazing topic for discussion!!! Thanks David!

I wanna hear your thoughts on this topic first.

I will walk around with the question today, and speak to it tomorrow!

xo

allison

Add yours Comments – 26

  • taylor nikole

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:01 pm

    haha oh not again!
    lol just kidding…
    why can’t it just be the choice…
    a right to life… and a right to death.
    It seems considerably unfair and a limitation to a humans rights.

    Although how can you really be able to choose or make a decision on this… sure it sounds right to have the right (not considering beliefs and morals atm *for me*)
    but when it gets close and personal… what do you find yourself thinking about the subject.
    Would you really let a loved one let themselves take their lives or recieve help to do so?

    wow this topic makes my stomach uneasy
    haha

  • Lou

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:03 pm

    I do not believe in absolutes. it should be dealt with on a case-by-case situation by doctors and the patient’s family.

    without going into religious stuff and morals and sounding like a hypocrite, I’ll leave it at that.

  • taylor nikole

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:10 pm

    the right to redeem oneself….
    how can you deny someone to redemption? From their bondage of life which may contain severe emotional or physical pain…
    it seems to difficult to fathom.

  • taylor nikole

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:11 pm

    oooo speaking of redemption.
    Could we somehow work that into a discussion topic?

  • Gabby

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:15 pm

    That is a very interesting topic. Honestly, I don’t think someone has the Right to Death

    Ok I’ll get personal.

    I’m pregnant with Twins. This is my Third Pregnancy, the first two times I miscarried. I’m part of a huge Italian family, and I felt bitter that I can be a part of a huge family yet can’t even bare 1 child (this was before my current pregnancy) I tried and got pregnant the first time, I didn’t make it past the first trimester. I was so heartbroken but i got the typical “It wasn’t your fault,” stuff and I believe it…until the second time. I got pregnant again and the same thing happened. Didn’t go past month 3, miscarried. Did everything right, Doctor said I was doing well and then on day…
    I knew it was me then. I… oh I hated myself. My body rejected my children and I felt like I’m a monster for trying the second time. I brought two people into this world (Life to me start at conception btw) and I killed them.

    So I was going through the griefs and self guilt. I felt bad for my husband, I’d never give him a child, and I was disgusted when he thought we should try again. I just…I hate myself. And I admit, after the second miscarriage I wanted to die. I thought I didn’t deserve to live. But the thing is, I felt that then. I don’t now.

    Now I’m 5 months pregnant with twins and I feel so happy and blessed and relieved for now.

    Thing is, if I had taken my life, it would have been because of the moment.

    The thing is, when do we know it’s time to take our own life? When the odds are against you? What you had a bad day? Embarrassed? Honestly, if someone had the right to die, I suspect tomorrow most of the world would have killed themselves. Some people rather die then live in this world today.

    There are moments, I understand, where life seems too hard, too painful and death seems like this wonderful escape. The problem is, every thing can be overcome.

    What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.

    That’s what I believe. I don’t think one person should be given a right to their own death, because it’s so much easier to die then live your life.

  • taylor nikole

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:21 pm

    hahah yet another question that cannot truly be answered 🙂
    individually maybe…
    but opinions split and there are so many more questions 🙂
    ahhh to semi ‘dead ends’

  • Lydia

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:24 pm

    I think you should never turn your back on life.
    Death seems like the easy way out.

    But, what if a loved one has an incurable disease and is suffering terribly? What should you do when that person begs to put an end to the pain?
    I hope I’ll never be put in that position.

  • taylor nikole

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:27 pm

    oh speaking of grief….
    I’d thought about things like ‘if i weren’t here i wouldn’t have to deal with all of this’
    after my ‘event’ which i won’t mention in detail again *blah*
    I didn’t know how to feel…. i tried so hard not to be depressed or do anything stupid…. I came close to cutting, but realized that I might just fall onto the level of ‘certain people’
    and I’d worked too hard in life to have anything come to that or anything more.
    I had people tell me it wasn’t my problem…. originally it wasn’t, but how do you sit there and tell somebody that its not their problem, when mentally they are affected/effected?

    Like, if a family member wants to take their lives… their problems aren’t your problems… when in the end they actually are.
    We try to come between people and their decisions that we think are wrong.
    I can totally understand.
    I just really don’t understand….
    although everyone I’ve know that has gone through that situation….
    has said that they are glad that they received help or were ‘forced’ into help because they are given so many more opprotunities in life to be happy.

    haha i think i went off a little bit
    but ehh whatever

  • taylor nikole

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:28 pm

    when your begged you have more of a choice then when you are told….
    is it totally different when someone begs you to let themselves take their lives…. or if they straight out tell you they are going to?

    haha does that make sense?

  • taylor nikole

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:30 pm

    haha and yet another comment (sorry)
    death is the easy way out….
    but since techinically we don’t know for sure what happens after life (depending on belief and faith)
    could it really end up that much better?

  • Lori Bennett

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:50 pm

    i have to say it depends on the situation. my brother was dying of cancer for 5 long agonizing months. he was unconscience for the last couple days when his doctors said he wouldn’t make it passed the weekend. he was on the ventilater to help him breathe and my parents knowing he would be in a better place when he died, and the fact that each breath for him was torture they allowed the nurse to shut off the vent and within a few minutes he was gone. We mourned him but knew he was in severe pain and was going to die within days. however, cases in which the person has an accident and becomes handicap (ex. Million Dollar Baby) or a mental illness (ex. A Family That Prey’s) and they think they are better off dead than live their life that way i think is wrong. no one wants to be lesser than what they are. i have another brother that was in a car accident and was the only one in the car that didn’t “walk” away. his spinal cord was severed and is paralyzed. yes he was depressed for quite awhile after and did battle suicide thoughts, but with guidance he overcame the depression and a few years ago when a friend of mines brother was in an accident that left him paralyzed my brother was able to meet him and talk to him and help just by knowing what he was going through b/c he lived(s) it too. it is still suicide whether you have someone else do it for u, or u do it ur self. i haven’t been in a situation where i had to face death or become a lesser version of myself and i pray and thank God for my health, but if i did one day, i’d like to be like my brother and fight to someday help someone rather than be a person who only thought of my selfish pride and took the coward’s way out b/c it was easier.

  • Darwin

    on September 16, 2008 at 9:59 pm

    “It is the role of cowardice, not of courage, to crouch in a hole, under a massive tomb, to avoid the blows of fortune.” Michel de montaigne

    “A lover forsaken a new love may get, But a neck when once broken can never be set.” William Walsh

    So suicide is not courageous…only cowardly…It is hopelessness and despair
    …it is desperation…it is often impulsive …and rash…ungrateful…and often selfish and dishonest.

    None of which are qualities to aspire to or emulate.

    It matters more how a person lives.

  • Matthew

    on September 16, 2008 at 11:02 pm

    I dont know if someone has the right to choose life or death..This cuts in on should the person be able to give an emotional “death” to others. Is that fair? That if someone out there truely cares about you, and you let them down is that fair. But here comes our movie quote “life isnt fair, get used to it!” I also have to wonder if these people are mentally stable? Should we force people to get help for their problems, budding into other peoples business. I mean who else could make your fate for you?? no one. You make a conscientious(spelled wrong) choice to take your own life. But taking someone elses life, now thats a hard topic!!!

  • Robin Hebert

    on September 16, 2008 at 11:08 pm

    Death is so final! Darwin, I agree, suicide is selfish, wanting to end the pain without realizing the pain that is caused by the act itself.
    When people pursue a right to death, they have given up hope on ever seeing their situation change. But they don’t realize that their are always miracles around the corner for those who believe….there is always an answer and help for those who look for it! People who want to die, have not had a revelation of how important they are in the world.
    On the flip side, the right to life…..everyone has that. I personally dont believe it’s a just thing to deny a baby that right. Especially when you realize that each creation is precious. It’s a very controversial subject, but one that cant be ignored.

  • arash

    on September 16, 2008 at 11:44 pm

    I go through all different views on this subject and it reminds me of a story I heard when I was a kid, I don’t know how famous it is but I tell the story anyways;
    An old farmer who had a very young son one day decides to deliver a bag of rice for a customer so father and son take their donkey to carry the bag. Minutes later they see a friend on the road;
    “Hey(he laughs) why should you old man walk while a bag of rice is riding the donkey” so the old man asks the boy to carry the bag and he rides the donkey. The next person passes commenting; “shame on you grown man riding the donkey let the little child carry such a heavy bag” so the old man switches with the son, he walks carrying the bag and the boy rides. next person comes, “Good old days elderlies had some respect, look the young man is riding the donkey while the poor old guy carrying such a heavy bag.” so they both ride the donkey together while holding the bag. next person comes; “Good God, have some mercy on the poor animal, it is gonna die soon this way, if anything you should carry the poor little donkey” next thing the father and son are carrying the donkey and the bag, they reach a bridge they loose their balance and fall into the water and all die.

  • David Hayes

    on September 16, 2008 at 11:44 pm

    It’s 2:30am in the morning here and I have the story behind my initial question all in my head … but I have to try to sleep some more and I don’t know if it is a story I should tell. And I don’t think I can tell it in a brief way and I’m not sure I have the time and where with all to present it here. If I could just lay in bed and dictate it, I would. I will just give you a couple brief things to chew on until I can see if I can make this happen or not.

    When a firefighter goes into a burning building or a soldier charges the enemy, do they have the moral right to make that choice that could end their life? When a person takes up smoking or takes up skydiving as a hobby or is diabetic and not careful about what they eat, do they have that moral right?

    If you want to hear the story I have to tell, here is the set-up for it and something that probably will go against any argument I have for right to death regardless of health. I can’t post a full link without the post getting delayed for days for moderation, so add a www dot daybow dot com to the front of the following link to see the photo. This is the face of a seven year old boy that came to the conclusion that he didn’t want to live anymore.

    /photos/Seven.jpg

    Now I need to try to sleep some more.

  • DEFORT

    on September 17, 2008 at 3:00 am

    Very much a complicated question. It probably the most difficult choice that can take place in a life. After all even incurably sick animal so is difficult for lulling, and the person especially. And if it is incurably sick, and to facilitate its sufferings there is nothing… Certainly from outside religions it is a sin, and here from outside humanity… I at all do not know…

  • Ralph

    on September 17, 2008 at 6:20 am

    I believe that i person should have the right to, i knew a man who had terminal cancer, he had taken care of everything he needed to before he was going to die, he was in horrible pain everyday, he had already said his goodbyes and was just waiting through the pain everyday. I believe he should have the right to say okay i’m ready good bye.

  • Melissa

    on September 17, 2008 at 11:31 am

    Right to life!!! Everyody has it! Even if you are evil or a mean persona you have the right to live just like other people, animal or plants…..if you’re this kind of person, you have a big more reason to live, ’cause you can fix the problems you cause or made in your past. We all have the right to life, and we all have the right to die. But everything we’ll get on time. Nobody can play God and take our life to and end way, we are the guide of our life, we choose what we’re gonna do with our life.
    Bye,Melissa.

  • Sherann Johnson

    on September 17, 2008 at 11:56 am

    This topic could go in many ways: suicide, abortion, and sickness to name a few. So, my response is that I think is depends on the situation. In the case of suicide I guess it really is that persons choice. However, it is our choice whether or not to help them.

    I don’t even want to get started on the subject of abortion…in my honest opinion…every baby deserves a chance to live.

    And when dealing with a person who is suffering of illness, who ultimalty just want life to end. Well, sadly it does become legal for that person to just say the word and have it happen.

    Whether or not we should have the choice to die. Being a religious person I think that it’s all up to what’s in God’s plan.

  • Sherann Johnson

    on September 17, 2008 at 12:00 pm

    In other words, yes i do think that everyone has a right to live.

  • Valerie

    on September 17, 2008 at 2:09 pm

    I think that we have all straight in the life but we have the right of die with dignity.

    A healthy person little to live as her the desire but a sick person who knows that her death will be long and painful has the right of leave with elegance and to leave to people that she likes the souvenir of her healthy.

    A handicapped person who little no live without the assistant of one other person who little even not communicate with others has the right to decide if she wants to continue this life or if she want to be free and free her family of “weight” that it is.

    The life is a present but when this becomes a poison every human being should be able to choose the death that she wants especially when she know how she will end.

    Persons say that everybody has the right to life but life is nothing if we remain in a bed of hospital until death comes

    Sorry for my English I am French and I speak this language with difficulty, but this subject held me has heart.

  • Brittany

    on September 18, 2008 at 7:19 pm

    Hmm, excellent topic David and thanks Allison for letting us discuss this. I believe we should and shouldn’t have a right to life. Should you ask? It would be more safer knowing that you could pick your time of death and that you know that you could live for a very longtime, but then again in my religion God asks you in your near death experience if you would like to go to Heaven, some people stay some don’t. Shouldn’t? Hmmm, I guess it all goes with the whole concept of will and how we should embrace the time we have on earth and just accept and use this time to fufill our goals and dreams. Anyways if that made sense, I’m so tired I just worked on my math homework for 3 hours so please forgive me. ANyways Adios! Bye, Britt

  • alex lewis

    on September 29, 2008 at 10:10 pm

    hey allison my names alex but my friends call me LEX which is kinda of wierd since this web site is about smallville(and you) i just wanted to say that you are a really great actress and watching smallvill for all these years inspired me to work for my high school news paper and iv met a lot of cool people and i just wanted to say that if it wasnt for you i would have never thought of working for my high school news paper cause i mean you made it look so fun on smallville that i tried it and really like it i am the photogrper and the writer if you would like to see some of my pics or aticals u can email me at a1lex5@aim.com thx i cant belive that iv done all this and im only 15 just think of what i could do in the future and it would be like so cool if you could write back to me on your website or in a video im on this website like once a day so please do it thanks for everything ….

  • alex lewis

    on September 29, 2008 at 10:12 pm

    sry i missed spelled somthings i was in a hurry to type it and hoping that u would respond back to me on your website.

  • alex lewis

    on September 29, 2008 at 10:13 pm

    and i know that i was off topic sry i couldint find out were to post this though