“The girl and the woman, in their new, individual unfolding, will only in passing be imitators of male behavior and misbehavior and repeaters of male professions. After the uncertainty of such transitions, it will become obvious that women were going through the abundance and variation of those (often ridiculous) disguises just so that they could purify their own essential nature and wash out the deforming influences of the other sex. Women, in whom life lingers and dwells more immediately , more fruitfully, and more confidently, must surely have become riper and more human in their depths than light, easygoing man, who is not pulled down beneath the surface of life by the weight of any bodily fruit and who, arrogant and hasty, undervalues what he thinks he loves. This humanity of woman, carried in her womb through all her suffering and humiliation, will come to light when she has stripped off the conventions of mere femaleness in the transformations of her outward status, and those men who do not yet feel it approaching will be astonished by it. Someday (and even now, especially in the countries of northern Europe, trustworthy signs are already speaking and shining), someday there will be girls and women whose name will no longer mean the mere opposite of the male, but something in itself, something that makes one think not of any complement and limit, but only of life and reality: the female human being.

This advance (at first very much against the will of the outdistanced men) will transform the love experience, which is now filled with error, will change it from the ground up, and reshape it into a relationship that is meant to be between one human being and another, no longer one that flows from man to woman. And this more human love (which will fulfill itself with infinite consideration and gentleness, and kindness and clarity in binding and releasing) will resemble what we are now preparing painfully and with great struggle: the love that consists in this: that two solitudes protect and border and greet each other.”
-Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters To a Young Poet.

Add yours Comments – 9

  • Zsolti

    on November 7, 2012 at 4:44 am

    Dear Allison,

    hi… it is so good and so well to hear from you again…

    “I believe that that love remains so strong and intense in your memory because it
    was your first deep aloneness and the first inner work that you did on your life.”

    I hope you are well after this superstorm Sandy and everything is OK… I think, we really need a superhero (and his best sidekick too), do not we? But in the meantime I feel that I must support charity organizations… or sometimes only a word or a sentece are truly enough…

    Thank you for your blog entry and have a nice day!

  • maldwyn

    on November 8, 2012 at 5:47 am

    What is amazing, is that 90% of what Maria Riike has written here is absolutely true. I’m not certain if us men actually drag women back or keep them from their obvious progression;(certainly not in present times) But i have to agree that women are very powerful when they apply themselves, and when they come together in unity. This was a good read.

  • Anon

    on November 9, 2012 at 10:59 am

    Real Islam as practiced by the its prophet emphasized this message over 1400 years ago.

  • Fan

    on November 9, 2012 at 2:19 pm

    It’s the easy path to ‘identify’ the ‘enemy’ by some outward appearance (male). It’s not about that, it’s about right and wrong. Women who are ‘right’ and men who are ‘right’ are together in this.

  • 3tesla

    on November 11, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    > easygoing man, … who, arrogant and hasty, undervalues what he thinks he loves

    Does that apply to the Dalai Lama?

    Did that apply to Mahatma Ghandi?

    Did that apply to Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.?

    Did that apply to William Wilberforce?

    Does that apply to Keith Raniere?

  • Jhovanny

    on November 12, 2012 at 1:00 am

    so interesting!

  • indigo

    on December 2, 2012 at 5:46 am

    Sign up to Jness with a credit card number and a legal affidavit? “More human” something, maybe not so much love.

  • alok

    on January 26, 2013 at 12:08 pm

    hay how r u

  • Leo

    on September 4, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    I love the woman that you are… You have a gif, and us to, thanks to you…