I have been having the coolest experience with respect to honesty. Everything is so much better when you take out the bullshit. Things actually surface and you can see yourself, your true self, for what and where you are.

I think I am only now beginning to understand the joy in self-empowerment. The intense value in owning your own shit, and then making the necessary choices and steps in overcoming whatever struggle you are having in the moment.

It is incredible how quickly we can grow and evolve when we remove all our lies (including pride and ego) and actually put effort into building an honest sense of ourselves vs. clinging so tightly to the masks we wear that we can’t even see through the peep holes.

Wow, the result of honesty? Deeper and better everything. Who would have thought?
xo
a

Add yours Comments – 63

  • Susan W

    on May 13, 2009 at 9:25 pm

    When I was younger (much younger) I got caught in a lie. As I got older, I was lied to by many people I considered to be my best friends; the feeling wasn’t great! Later in life, after having children, I figured I didn’t want them lying to me for any reason. I tried my best to raise my boys to be honest men. My 18 year old, feels that he needs to emblish the truth to make people like him, and because it had become such a habit he lies to me, and it hurts because I can always tell when he is lying.

    I have found in my years of wisdom that honesty only brings out the positive side of yourself/myself…you know what I mean.

    As a teen, sure I lied. As an adult, I see now how good being honest and telling what is real and true can be.

    I will admit, there are not a lot of people that like the truth (or can handle the truth) when it is handed to them. I’d rather be truthful and right, than to lie and be dishonest.

  • Karen

    on May 14, 2009 at 5:04 pm

    Another inspiring post! Keep sharing your experiences with us, your nuggets of wisdom. Thanks.

  • Dan

    on May 15, 2009 at 11:16 pm

    Honesty eh? Hmm, I’m in a major situation at the moment where I have been honest to the point of idiocy with someone who I truly care about. As a result we are both hurting mainly because they are, or appear to be “clinging to the mask” but I’ve taken comfort in the fact that maybe, just maybe, it will result in what you’ve described as a “deeper and better everything”

    Why am I telling you this, well I trust you, you have an honest face!
    All the best, Dan

  • david

    on June 1, 2009 at 2:24 am

    Pride, and Ego can be great allies. Shoot i don’t know where some of us would be without them. Especially when finding out more about what we think we can, and can’t do. Here is a good example that i have heard before. I am in a bar looking at a beautiful woman, and my buddy says to me. She is waay out of your league. You don’t have a chance. Thus enters both pride, and ego. Really i say? then i approach the woman for whom i wouldn’t have if my buddy didn’t say anything, and talk with her, or better yet, someone says you can’t do something, anything that might come to mind. Depending on how much you want it. You could show a side that you never new before in persuing what in their minds you could’t. About the only bummer is when we take pride, and ego to the extremes. Then it’s just foolishness, and nothing can be learned or gained by it.
    I can say this about Honesty though. I for one am almost too honest. On one side being to honest can hurt the ones that you don’t or have ever thought you would want to,(example: girlfriend/wife says…do i look fat in this?) and on the other i have found that i have gained more trust by just being honest. Of course in the example there really is only one answer…..At least if you want to stay on her good side…LOL

  • david

    on June 1, 2009 at 2:39 am

    oh yeah, The masks? gotta have the masks. One for work, One for family, One for going out, One Soley for that special someone, but no matter what mask you wear. There is one constant. That is you. Now, what you want to blame on the mask is still the same as blaming yourself. Once you realize this, and not rationalize it. You will find that the masks never really existed, and it was you all along.

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    on June 4, 2009 at 2:30 pm

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  • david

    on June 5, 2009 at 3:37 am

    I replied with some thoughts, but they were taken down? I don’t think what i wrote would have bothered anyone? I could be wrong? ehh, it’s all good:)

  • david

    on June 5, 2009 at 3:40 am

    WoW!!that’s a bit strange, they just appeared from nowhere with “your comment is awaiting moderation”? I have no clue what that means? LOL

  • tn_tank

    on July 3, 2009 at 9:37 pm

    that is so true… in other words, it is so hard to be yourself, and that is easier to act in a way so you could be accepted to be part of a group, and once you have that mask on for so long, you can’t really take it off as it is so hard too
    thanks for sharing Allison 🙂

  • david0

    on July 23, 2009 at 3:17 am

    I just had an Epiphany. I get it now. Sorry for my ramblings that i have posted before. I have always been a bit out of sync. Sorta like the new person who comes into a conversation, and isn’t quite up to speed. For me i have never been anything other than myself, but after reading #59 i get it.

  • warhead

    on September 6, 2009 at 4:03 am

    Very down to earth. Why cant everyone be like that ?

  • IreneT

    on December 30, 2009 at 9:46 pm

    Thats an interesting thought, because when I’m at work I talk to a variety of different people; as I am sure most of us do, but I always find myself speaking with different mannerisms to different people in relating to them.

    Anyway I always ask myself, is this me? or am I fronting? Am I being genuinely myself with everyone? or What is this that I’m doing?

    I can’t put my finger on it, but sometimes I do feel like I’m being dishonest at times. I just don’t know if it’s with myself, or with others…

  • 3tesla

    on February 22, 2010 at 3:15 am

    “Everything is so much better when you take out the bullshit.”?

    Oh I like that – I may even have to use it in my sig. file at work (replacing the Einstein quote)!